Oh please you two girls need to stop being so sensitive.
Dosron ke gharon ke larkiyon aur aurton pe ungliyan uthanay ka bara shauq hai.
Jab apne ghar pe baat ati hai to bari aag lagti hai.
Your mothers and sisters are also women…the same women you’re discussing in this thread. If you cannot stand for mistreatment with them - WHY would you be in favor of it for other women?
When will you stop treating OTHER women like your pairon ki jooti? Or is it just online that men like you act like shair…but in front of a woman you become bheegi billiyan?
No, nothing strikes a chord with me when I am dealing with bedhungay log - no offense. All you know about me is that I got divorced and that seems to be your way of getting back at me. The funny thing is…its the ONLY way you can get back at me…also the most predictable and typical. Kya lagta hai apko? Ke bariiiii aqal ke baat ki hai apne abhi? Koi secret thi ye baat? Kyun ji? Kisne bataya apko ke meri divorce huwi hai? Hm?
So to be plain old honest with you - a poorly equipped opponent cannot offend me.
Well frankly,I watered down my post.
aqal ki baat tu sirf tum hi kerti ho. Do you have any other response than your mother blah blah, perhaps things heard in childhood still echo in your mind. The worst hing about all of it is that u are a woman, albiet, a very bad tehzeeb one. I find it sad saying things to a woman, but, then one can’t just throw flowers all the time.
Read Rehas “offensive post”. My comments, based on the hypothetical scenario she was comminicating with me.
I would interpret her post as a dig at my inconsistency. NOT a dig at my mother. She was trying to state I should respect other women as much as I respect my mother.
I offer no comments on whether her post was fair or not. Beyond my pay grade. And scope.
But it amuses me Reha is being portrayed as attacking my mother. She wasn’t.
I remember in my college Islamic studies class being really upset at scholars who suggested that there is no such thing as marital rape in Islam basically because there is no clear punishment for it.
Forcing yourself on someone is brutal behavior, completely against very basic Islamic teachings. It is an act of aggression that should never enter any marriage.
My personality depends on me…my attitude depends on you. Jo jaise hai, usse us hi tarha baat karni chahiye hai aur do tok baat karni chahiye hai.
Takay vo dubara bad tameezi karne se pehle das dafa sochay.
Marital rape in this thread is being discussed where a man forces himself on a woman - its wrong. A woman comes in many different forms. If you don’t want your loved ones being put in such a situation, WHY is it okay for you to wish that on your wife?
I think it’s also an issue of semantics. The term “rape” seems to be the whole bone of contention…the ones who say “marital rape” doesn’t exist seem to feel that especially only occurs between strangers or when a man attacks a women in a dark alley. But when a husband is the aggressor, it’s simply seen as domestic violence?
The literal definition of rape is:
the unlawful compelling of a person through physical force or duress to have sexual intercourse.
any act of sexual intercourse that is forced upon a person.
a nikkah binding a man and women together should not make a difference
I hate to say it but education does nothing for manyyyyyyy people. Doctors, engineers, lawyers are still choti soch ke malik…to faida kya huwa in ki parhai ka? Apni naak oonchi karke batein karte hein jaise ke inke apne gharon mein aurtein nahin hein.
Janamaz pe uthak baithak karni seekh li…lekin logon ki izzat karni nahin ayi.
Moon se Arabic parke, apna “farz” ada kar diya. Jo alfaaz moon se nikal rahe hote hein, unki samaj nahin ayi.
Agar apni maa ke baray mein koi kuch kahay, to aag lagti hai…apne bachon ki maa ke pairon ke neechay VO HI jannat hai…aaj tak in ko is choti si baat ki samaj nahin ayi.
Marital rape…what a joke when a man thinks he has the “right” to force himself on a woman who Allah swt has deemed qabil e ehtiram.
A “man” who forces himself on a woman who is physically weaker than him…is not a man.
I did not disagree with the OP that marital rape is despicable and wrong. I disagreed when he try to portray that a certain Hadith condones marital rape, to which i said that it does not. And then he started generalizing it to all desi men, which was offensive to many posters, but seems you are Ok with such generlisations. Now if your abba was forcing his stinky self on your amma, doesn’t mean, you start generalising it to whole community.
And i do agree with one part, my attitude will depend upon ur behavior, taught it to ur spirtual brother shawns. Baqi, don’t try to hide ur manners and upbringing behind the topic, thats not the issue.
You can laugh, but, magar mujhe afsos is baat ka hai, ke i had to say this to a woman and that too a muslim, never imagined that I would do that, but you left me no choice. And its not the first time in this thread, even previously you have behaved in same way. While you may have no respect for desi men, I do respect women specially the desi ones.
