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Haha..at the bold, If you marry the right person you can be married and still enjoy life, the sikh girl seems the right choice, dont let religion caste, race get in the way of love. My nephew did that and is really lost now.
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What’s up with all the non-commitment relationships nowadays. Doesn’t one person always end up falling for the other one eventually? I don’t understand how people have non-commitment relations without emotions existing.
Not committing does make it easier and a person doesn’t have to take responsibility for anything and families don’t have to even find out about it and we can just wash our hands of it after we’re ready to take on more responsible roles but i’ve never seen it where both are able to walk away unemotional or unattached in any way.
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O I love Choopan, its closeby my house actually. May be next time when you are around, with or without gf
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Please tell me you are not serious.
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Non commitment to marriage or anything long term. It’s emotional and attached
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So obviously her heart’s going to be broken to pieces when you marry a Pakistani, Muslim girl that your parents will approve of you marrying. Oh well, I was just wondering how noncommittal, unemotional relationships happen when you mentioned “non-commitment”. Is it that easy. It just makes things a lot more complicated.
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You are what you do and not what you believe, I raised my boys to not be racists.
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You don’t have to commit to everyone you like, it takes a long time to get to know a person and the new norm is to know the person for a few years before you commit. My nephew is dating a Syrian girl for 2 yrs and hasn’t proposed yet.
My other nephew went out with this Vietnamese girl for 4 yrs before proposing. More often than not, it is the girls who reject the boy after dating for a few years. Girls are strong now and handle this better than guys. I have seen many boys sob in my house..then they move on.
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I don’t care about race or caste either, what shocked me was the religion bit. Anyway..
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For starters, I don’t let my mom pick a shirt for me let alone girls. She may recommend someone but that’s about it.
Also, she is a smart girl. She knows what she is getting into, and so do I. Who knows? Maybe we end up marrying or maybe it won’t last a month or last years without marriage
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The new ones must be. I guess that it might depend upon the area in india.
The gujratis (majority of indians in the US methinks) are really conservative. Pakistani women would be more liberal than them; their husbands expect them to work and then go home and cook handi / small rotis by the dozens. Even I wouldn’t be that cruel lol.
As for your other Q, no I am not married yet but I am in the same boat as OP now.
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We are getting a lot of skilled workers and temporary workers from India, I am dealing with a lot of these young couples and they seem to have more drive, culture,and class than the born and raised here desis. I guess for immigration the employers are selecting the best. Husband and wife seem to have great chemistry and laugh and joke around. Parents are back home so I guess no one to make their lives hell. I get to deal with Gujaratis, Punjabis and south Indians. Gujratis are tougher to deal with. South Indians seem very educated. The few people I dealt with from Pakistan the poor women were in a bad state, could hardly walk properly, weren’t working and were dressed very different with shalwar chaddars and stuff and hardly any chemistry bw the couple.
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You are going to be a doctor so there will be tons of rishtas for you. As doctors in the desi community love the idea of having a doctor spouse. Its not true that Pakistani degrees don’t mean anything. Though not all succeed, doctors from Pakistan take their USMLEs and get residency. The degree itself is recognized and plus the no debt option. Priceless! Many girls from here and from Pakistan would be willing to live with your parents. If privacy is an issue then get a house with a bedroom downstairs (in law suite). people live in Pakistan in really small houses and in joint families. the real issue is not how big the house is but how mean the parties involved are. There are girls here who would be open to the idea of living with in laws and Pakistanis who would not be. You should start looking now and take your time. Try both counties, you might be surprised.
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Seems all about the cash, not a whole lot of consideration given to if you love each other, are you a good person, are you funny, are you interesting, do you do any activities. They would make love to a pile of cash if that could give them an offspring.
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Yup, desis in USA are mostly all about cash. Though, its not just about cash. You may be loaded with cash but if you are not a doctor, you are somehow less attractive. its very silly but quite prevalent. However, the poster is talking about looking at rishtas with a cultural perspective. Maybe not 100% arranged but talking to a girl while assessing if she is a good match. So all these factors do come into play.
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I am so thankful that I steered my children away from this mentality.
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OMG what are u guys…living abroad I thought you guys must be open minded, less judgmental but this much of stereotyping I don’t even see in men over here…there are working women/mothers who work 9 to 5 do house chores don’t have dish washing machines , cars to ride and fancy shopping malls to shop yet they live with their inlaws …manage huge khandaans and teach/nurture their kids…you cannot stereotype and choose a girl from west or Pakistan…just forget about how someone would turn up we never know how YOU would be able to manage things you dont have to TRAIN her she will be your WIFE not an EMPLOYEE!!
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where do you reside?
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We are in the beautiful oil-rich Alberta, we get a lot of temporary workers and new immigrants here due to demand in oil field. Unfortunately we see scores of Indian migrants but hardly any from Pakistan. I think because of fraudulent degrees and stuff employers are not opting for workers from Pakistan.