Maikay jana

[Decent_6Chora]

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How did he use to eat/drink before marriage? - just curious

[Sweetmoi]

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Khattic .. May I say I think you sound so great!!

[Sara516]

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@khattichic

If I was working late, held up with a client etc, of course it was different. He wouldn’t expect me to be home first if it was work rrelated or I had errands to run that would keep me from getting home before him, I meant more when I was a SAHM. He’s always been cool with overnight trips, I’ve taken girl’s only vacays with my sisters/cousins/friends. And he travels without me as well. It’s all about balance. I make sure that my house, husband and kids are first priority, and as long as those are taken care of, it’s all good!

Oh ok I thought that might be it. My husbands been working frm home for the last few years, so it’s actually very very very very rare for me to be home alone…ever. its funny though. when we first moved in, I was the one working and going to school while he was waiting for his paperowrk to come through.

Eventually he found a job, and I started to cut back and relax. and oh my god…I think I had gotten so used to him being around, that I actually started talking to myself when I was home alone!

but of course that didn’t last too long. he’s been working from home since then.

[canadiandesigirl]

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My sister lives without her in-laws and she is two hours away from us. She visits every 3-4 weeks or we will visit her instead. Sometimes she will stay over for a week or couple days or go back the same day. Whenever we(parents and siblings) visit though its only for the day. Although me and younger sister have stayed over at her place for a few days/weekend. We talk on the phone everyday and skype fairly often.

[STA]

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Maikay beth jana is more disturbing than Maikay jana.
As long as you are not sitting, you are all good, and no one should bother you. :)

[hanibal]

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My wife pack for at least 10 days, there are 3 or 4 suit cases and heavy ones, since she have two kids with her, so i understand the suitcase thing, and then i drop her to her Maika, i call my friend and plan out the evenings and while midst of these meetings, my wife calls and tells me she is on her way back because the ChoTa is missing me and where there was no Chota then she use to come back same day or next day saying... she missed me...

[khattichic]

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@Ghost14

Your family’s so drama free. Are you sure you have the right forum?

@Sweetmoi

Khattic .. May I say I think you sound so great!!

Lol guys…there are plenty of normal, drama free people on GS…I’d say they actually out number the chalak, chaskay baazi log. We just get more caught up/drawn into the amusement that is Life1

[njgal]

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how often do you see your parents? How far away are they from you? and when you visit…what do you do when you go there?

Do they visit your home? if so, how often and what kind of visits (like when you host family davats, they pop in unexpectedly every couple of days/weeks etc)?

I guess this is kind of a weird question, since I’ve never seen it talked about here…I mean I know in our culture, a girl going back home is supposed to be like a mini vacation and all good stuff (before going back to evil in laws…jk jk) and at least in some areas, parents won’t eat or drink from a girls home (that saying…that escapes me for the moment). but…yeah. just wondering.

Probably 3-4 times a year. I make it back two times and they come by a couple times a year. I wish it was more but it’s just not possible.

It’s really informal. There are no dawats but tons of FOOD requests (ammi ka haath ka khana and all the places we use to eat when we were little and in college). Mom & dad both comply. When they come over, we go out to eat or whatever I cook. It’s very informal.

My dad tells me stories of when his grandparents use to come visit from India to Pakistan to visit my daddi - they use to have food made for the month that they were there. :lol: I have no idea why this was the case. We have/had some strange customs.

[Cupcake]

Maikay jana

I go see my mum every couple of days and phone her like a couple of times a week :) husband doesn't have an issue but MIL always gets a bit nosy!

[akmoti]

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its been 1.5year of my marriage n i havent seen my parents since i got married.....
i'm in middleeast n parents n inlaws r in pakistan....
my parents-inlaw came here for 2 months to meet their grandson....
but i am desperately waiting to see my parents n introduce their grandson to them....
my parents doesnt know how to use internet n no one is in home to teach them....
so they barely see their grandson's pics or videos...
i talk to them in every 2weeks....
i miss them alot!!!specially when i've become mommy!
hoping to visit them by the end of this year....inlaws n parents live in same city so i guess i will be living with my inlaws....n go to meet them...its just 10min drive from their home...

sorry for being emotional i almost got tears in my eyes while typing:)

[Spiral]

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How did he use to eat/drink before marriage? - just curious

He used to take out mostly.. but umm once a month or so.. he would call his mom and ask for recipes and would cook for himself, I don't think he remembers how to cook now.

[qtc88]

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@khattichic

Oh man Sara, I love you for opening this thread! I’ve noticed in Pakistan married women in Pakistan have there “haftay ki baari” (like specific days in the week when they go “back to their parents house” and it is like set in stone! When I came back to home after my first extended visit to Karachi post shaadi, I brought this up to my husband, and he just gave me a weird look and said “you see your mom whenever you want, what’s the big deal?” and it was true…I lived like 6 miles away from my mom’s house. For those of us that have been raised outside Pakistan, and still live in the same city as our parents, I don’t think it’s an issue. I think it’s probably different when you’re living in a joint family system, and not alone as is the norm here.

I saw my Ammi all the time. I’d pop in whenever I wanted, she’d call me every other day or so to come pick up something she cooked for my husband (never for me of course ) or she’d come over to my house every few days or so just to make sure I was keeping my house clean enough, lol! After my first son was born, oh man, jeezus, she was over 24/7

With my papa, it was every sunday. After Zuhr namaz, he’d come over for lunch and stay until dinner. Set in stone. Sundays were Papa days.

My husband had one weird quirk though…he would not care how often I went over to my mom’s or how long I stayed over there with one exception..he wanted me to be home before he got home from work. He hates coming home to an empty house. So as soon as 5:00pm would hit, I’d leave my mom’s house and she’d be like “kyoon jaarahi ho, usko yahin bulaalo..” Nope. I had to be home (especially after the kids were born!) I would have to be home before him. Kind of cute, haina?

I never really spent the night over at my mom’s house, until I started having all the health problems/surgeries/concieving issues. Then it was a god send. I miss my ammi’s house. :hinna:

You’re story is so sweet and is the reason why I want to marry someone who lives in the same city as me! I would love to have the luxury of having mom so close to me.

[khattichic]

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@akmoti

its been 1.5year of my marriage n i havent seen my parents since i got married…
i’m in middleeast n parents n inlaws r in pakistan…
my parents-inlaw came here for 2 months to meet their grandson…
but i am desperately waiting to see my parents n introduce their grandson to them…
my parents doesnt know how to use internet n no one is in home to teach them…
so they barely see their grandson’s pics or videos…
i talk to them in every 2weeks…
i miss them alot!!!specially when i’ve become mommy!
hoping to visit them by the end of this year…inlaws n parents live in same city so i guess i will be living with my inlaws…n go to meet them…its just 10min drive from their home…
sorry for being emotional i almost got tears in my eyes while typing:)

[zimzimma]

Maikay jana

Everyday... My parents live a street away. :)

[Cupcake]

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Do your -inlaws say anything? ^

[zimzimma]

Maikay jana

My in laws are in pak. And husband has no issue with it either. It's great to be so close.

[BombShellBabe]

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My cousin’s bhabi used to stay at her ammi’s house 3 days every week and she got divorced for that reason. She never accepted her marriage responsibilities…

[zimzimma]

Maikay jana

My cousin in pak who is married to my BIL lives down the road from her maikay ( her mum passed away so her nani which is my dadi brought her up) and she feels the need to stay over few nights a week when she sees them everyday!! That really grinds my gears!

On a seperate occasion If she has a argument with her husband or in laws it’s straight to maikay because “woh rus ke ai hai” and then she’ll stay god knows how long until someone from in laws goes to bring her back!

[Moodie_Foodie]

Maikay jana

When my parents were like a four hour drive away, between the occasionals visits at our place, I would go stay with them every 3 to months for a week. And let me tell you t was never enough!! I live with my inlaws so even when they came over, there was some sort of takkaluf. I was always concious of others around me and I am mindful of others around me!! But now they moved to houston so I get to visit them once a year for a month and its my
Mini vacation. I wish they lived a stree away from me especially now because they miss their grandkids and I feel like they are so missing out on being a part of their life.

[akmoti]

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@khattichic

aww thanx khatti
your story is sweet!!!
i will be having the same case when i will visit pak…will not stay at parents
coz hubby says i want to see my family with me each n everyday…