Re: Maid or a Good wife!
There are two scenarios, quite different.
One is where a woman chooses to do housework as a reward to her husband for him bringing home the bacon, so to speak. Most of the posters here who vouche for a cooking-role-for-women here fall under that category.
Another is where a man's family is actively looking for a female for the gentlemen solely based on home-skills, and nothing else. These are families who don't care about your personality, don't care to really acquaint themselves with you, don't really care about your education, or your morals, or your thoughts on political affairs and the like. They only want to know one thing: Did you teach your daughter how to cook and sew and the whole 9 yards of domestic work? Tipusultan, as a father, in his thread, is concerned about these sorts of families with his daughter, because he recognizes that his daughter excels in many ways, but hasn't learned domestic tasks...and so would these types of families be interested in her?
Comments like mine referring to women who are sought after by these families as "slaves" comes from this context.
So, no, if you are making macaroni and cheese for your man who worked hard all day and is hungry - that's not slavery at all. That's doing someone a favor. That's helping someone out. If the tables were turned and YOU as the female came home from a 36 hour shift at a hospital and your husband was sitting on his rump all day, you'd appreciate him putting out some food for you as well. Depends on the situation. Depends on whether, you as a female, work or not. What you do. What are your work hours. What are his work hours. And you balance things out. Some couples divide it 50-50 if they both work. Some will burden more of the housework on one family member if the other is working more. All that makes sense. It's give and take.
That is not slavery.
Let that be clear, because some of you are way too anti-PCG to see things for what they are. You see me make some statement, usually take it out of context, and then just use it as an excuse to blast me and insult me, and as usual, administration here doesn't give two cents because 90% of the time they agree as most of them are probably way more traditional minded than I am anyway.
So, I have to make all this clear and lay it out for you, because this thread, like so many others, is just winding down to : lets all stand together and show PCG and her type.
There are families who want slaves instead of true DIL's. These are the families that will not care about WHO you are, but rather will sit at a rishtaa hunting meeting with a girl's family and ask about her domestic talents while she sits in a bloody different room and only comes out to serve tea. Doesn't happen anymore? That's BS. Happens all the time. Maybe not in your high class defense-makaan walay I have 10 bloody green cards and VIP-status-at-cricket-game types, but for the rest of us lowly pakistanis, it is a harsh reality. There ARE families looking for slaves. There ARE women who don't bother to do more than learn housework, and therefore feed into this vicious chain.
Many of you probably don't fall into this category anyway, so why are you stressing out is beyond me.
