Ok I am sick sick sick of reading this thing again and again here… Each time someone mentions that they want a wife who should know how to cook decent food .. guppans attack on him saying he wants a maid not a wife. When a father inquires about the consequences (pro or con) of his daughter not knowing how to cook but doing well in her career/education… sincerly worried if she will make a good wife without knowing how to cook… everyone thinks she’ll be a maid if she knows how to cook… WTF!
I don’t see anyone saying slave to a husband who goes out in harsh weather to earn money and good living for his wife and kids. A wife who learns how to cook for her husband and family is no maid just like a man who gets educated and works hard for his family is no slave!
I am educated and I take care of my husband. I cook fresh food for him everyday because it is my duty as a wife to do that. I am not his maid. He goes out in winters.. harsh harsh NY weather to rotate in different hospitals to provide me everything I ask for. He is not a slave.
So please stop this non sense that’s been going on here.. Stop poisoning girls’ minds
Hey Spiral, if the sole criteria for a rishta is that my should mate should know how to cook food , clean dishes, should be able to mow the lawn , mend my clothes etc etc , then that person is looking for a maid not a soul mate.
After the wedding if a wife cooks food , mows the laws , washes the car , does the laundry etc then it is out of love , not a duty. things you do out of love are not binding . Things you do as a wifely or husbandly duty , whether you feel like doing them or not , and you do out of fear of your husband , or wife , or fear of your in laws that is slavery.
You a comparing apples and oranges.
I don't care if its done out of love or duty.. that does not make me a maid or anyone a maid for that matter.
There are times I don't want to cook.. slack.. but I do it anyway... if I don't cook... my husband will have to eat god knows what... its is my responsibility to make sure he gets at least one good meal after a long tiring day
Extremely well said … I think some of the girls these days are also to be blamed… they think if husband has asked them to look after the home and kids , then husband has turned them into a maid :no: … In reality , Allah will reward a wife for the effort she puts in to look after her husband, children and creating a home , rather then what she earns and how many hours she spends in the office
Hey Spiral, if the sole criteria for a rishta is that my should mate should know how to cook food , clean dishes, should be able to mow the lawn , mend my clothes etc etc , then that person is looking for a maid not a soul mate.
After the wedding if a wife cooks food , mows the laws , washes the car , does the laundry etc then it is out of love , not a duty. things you do out of love are not binding . Things you do as a wifely or husbandly duty , whether you feel like doing them or not , and you do out of fear of your husband , or wife , or fear of your in laws that is slavery.
You a comparing apples and oranges.
I think it's actually poison to the girl's mind if you base her ability to hold a meaningful relationship in her marriage whether she can cook or not.
Constantly drilling in girl's head that COOKING is a skill that is going to give her HIGHER MERIT in her relationship with her husband or future household
Since we don't live in 1950s anymore - how about giving our girls a bit more - then COOKING SKILLS - shall we?
Hey Spiral, if the sole criteria for a rishta is that my should mate should know how to cook food , clean dishes, should be able to mow the lawn , mend my clothes etc etc , then that person is looking for a maid not a soul mate.
After the wedding if a wife cooks food , mows the laws , washes the car , does the laundry etc then it is out of love , not a duty. things you do out of love are not binding . Things you do as a wifely or husbandly duty , whether you feel like doing them or not , and you do out of fear of your husband , or wife , or fear of your in laws that is slavery.
You a comparing apples and oranges.
For the ones who don't agree.. I am not saying a girl should be a chef.. I cook not so great food myself. But I don't consider myself as a maid to my husband. Rishtas shouldn't be based on a girl's ability to cook but also we shouldn't consider anyone a maid who cooks for her family.
