Re: Love match - What's the best way of breaking it to the parents?
Because your parents may just figure out that your children are Hindu. You and your bf may be able to keep schtum about your religious beliefs when in front of people, but don't expect your children to sit quietly when they see something a little 'abnormal' because they haven't been exposed to such religious beliefs.
As for the burning after your death - I guess you may be right. But would you be able to stand there and watch your dead husband burn?
And there's no problem in you marrying a Hindu, if you are not a Muslim. If you are, then there is an issue.
Re: Love match - What's the best way of breaking it to the parents?
Islamically, it's not valid. It's ok I am in an invalid marriage too and I am doing great!
don't do anything until you are sure from his side...it's very important
In your case Islamic nikah does not apply because both of you have left Islam.
In her case she is claiming to be a Muslim and not leaving her religion.
Re: Love match - What's the best way of breaking it to the parents?
It's not the end of the world to be namaste'd. Lots of ppl have said namaste to my parents! I should hope my children would be able to handle two greetings.. after all we greet ppl differently in everyday life.
Why would my hubby burn me when he knows my wishes in the matter?
I can't believe I'm already discussing my funeral arrangements ..!!
Earlier in the thread, someone said the marriage wouldn't be valid. I've seen this on other threads as well. What do you mean? It shouldn't be a problem here in America. Nobody asks for your religion.
In India, I believe there is a special marriages act for such cases...
From your post it seems as if you're not much aware of your religion. So maybe you need to consider how religious you're and if you wanna stay with the religion? From your former post, you said you were pretty religious. Your issue is not a small issue from a religious persons perspective. Beside I noticed you were using some hindu mantra's as well? Seems like you're more into your SO's religion than yours, so I think you need to consider your religious stand point, come back and we will all come with new suggestions on how to handle this situation .. Your religious stand point is quite critical in this issue ..
Re: Love match - What's the best way of breaking it to the parents?
to the OP - to your original question about whne and where to break it to you parents - I would let my parents know immediately about my intentions. Please don't play the dishonestly game with them. It would only cause more distrust in you.
Re: Love match - What's the best way of breaking it to the parents?
lol @ all the religious taunting. OP, see this is what you are in for once married, from those that don't approve.
as for what the ones that made it work, i'll say all of them have parents who weren't happy but were okay after meeting the guy/girl and their parents. i guess none of them were too religious, and had similar middle-class indian values.
Re: Love match - What’s the best way of breaking it to the parents?
Whew! wipes forehead
This thread is certainly a good dress reharsal for what’s coming!
Surely, nobody becomes hindu by just saying namaste..Kids wouldn’t find it abnormal because we intend to raise them with both sets of beliefs…I guess we’d have to stick to a more open interpretation of both beliefs.
Don’t intend to lie to the parents about our beliefs - only to others..
Watch my dead husband burn ?? I don’t want to think of this stuff..but in the interest of complete information..plus I’m feeling really morbid at this point..
Cremation takes place in these huge electric -powered furnaces..you don’t actually watch anyone burn..apparently they just bring you the ashes … Don’t ask how I know.. was with one of my girlfriends when her grand daddy died…
For real traditional hindoos..womenfolk don’t go to the cremation grounds…just say goodbye at the gate
Re: Love match - What's the best way of breaking it to the parents?
One thing I don't understand is does the happiness of the married couple matters or that of their parents'? Farimasait, you need to ask yourself this question. Only then can you move forward.
I don’t want to think of this stuff..but in the interest of complete information..plus I’m feeling really morbid at this point..