Love marriage vs Arranged marriage

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Arranged...its just less messy! :D

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I think both love and arranged should be tried!

wat say guys?:D

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I really dont believe in arranged marriages myself. I know people do it and I have nothing against it but for myself, I personally couldnt do it. I am happily engaged to a guy I knew for 3 yrs before we got engaged.

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^Nobody believes in arranged marriages UNTIL ofcourse the love marriage is in a limbo and you need to move on :D

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baby arrange marriage is the best....

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i think arranged marriges are great, and would opt for it... this can also be due to the fact that everyone in my family was arranged and those that did have love marriges were disowned lol. but the funny fact is that it doesnt matter if the boy has a love marrige but if a girl does that she otta the door. ive grown up to accept the fact that mine will be arranged in why i think they good. but what i have also noticed is that all those people that have had an arrange marrige have had successful relationships and have been together for a long time. i noticed that those with love marriges not all but most commanly dont. do relise that love marriges are most likely to end up in divorce than arranged...

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^erm, part of the reason for those "successful relationships" may be the same reasons leading to one to go into an arranged marriage in the first place.
you said that you've accepted the fact that yours will be arranged and you'd be disowned if you had a love marriage. the same way, girls (i'm not saying you) who have been bought up which that same idea have also been bought up with the ideas that you do whatever your husband and inlaws tell you to do, divorce is not an option, etc etc. then you get those girls coming on here complaining about their husbands/inlaws/life but they can't actually do anything about it coz "my parents said i have to stay".

i'm not bashing arranged marriages. i just think to say that are more successful than love marriages is naive and not looking at the whole picture.

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wow..there is so much wrong with this post..

u deserve ur own thread. :D

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^^ So true..

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Shadi ho , arranged ho ya Love

I am married with arranged process
Got engaged, married Al Humdu Lillah Every thing is ok
But,
Would not say Love Marriages does not work, it do work and may not work like in arranged marriages will not work.
All depends how committed the individuals are wether they join in Arranged or love marriage process.

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firstly i had said that all those people that have had arranged marriges have had succesful marriges, and not all but some love marriges are most likely to get a divorce than arranged marriges. what i though was naive is that you had said "same way, girls (i'm not saying you) who have been bought up which that same idea have also been bought up with the ideas that you do whatever your husband and inlaws tell you to do, divorce is not an option" yes when you get married and are living with your inlaws ofcourse you adapt and do alot of the things they want. but what you have to bear in mind is that is and extent and limit to what you do for them. If i wasnt happy with my inlaws and my husband, i will try and make my relationship work. but if it was too much to bear, my parents will not object if i wanted a divorce. obviously they wont be happy and no parents would be, but they cant stop me because they can see its not working and i am working towards a dead end. *
*secondly "then you get those girls coming on here complaining about their husbands/inlaws/life but they can't actually do anything about it coz "my parents said i have to stay". there are sooo many people who have had love marriges and experience the same problems..who come on the same forums complaining about their husbands and inlaws. those that have been disowned dont want to get a divorce because they know, if they do they will have absoloutly knowone to turn to and will be alone. if they turn to there parents they will say you've dug your grave so now lay in it. if they do take you back, then they will taunt and make remarks about how much shame you have brought etc.
thirdly, i did not mean that love marriges do not work, of course they for gods sake you have chosen you partner lol
my judgement about love/arranged marriges was purely based on what i have seen around me.

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**around me.. well right now, it's all the arranged marriages that are struggling, especially the girls (with less than great husbands).

i know if someone is having is arranged marriage, it's comforting to think it will work out and be better than the alternative. in reality, it comes down to the people involved and if the other person is everything you expected them to be from what you have heard.
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yeh at the end of the day it depends entirely on the families the person and the foundation the marrige was built. it im no expert in the area its just what i believe, and im sure other people would have a different view around depending on where they live and the type of families they have. like i said my judgement is purely based on the people around me

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Not all arranged marriages are successful. Quite often it's one party staying in the marriage for the sake of other people, or because leaving just isn't an option that they feel is open to. I think women are less likely to just stick at it and suffer these days in the way that women of the past generations did.

I'm open to both types of marriages - so long as the boy and girl have a connection and have respect and love for each other than both types can work.

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Arranged marriages are less likely to end in divorce. But is divorce the only yardstick by which we should measure successful partnerships?

Given the obvious family involvement in arranged marriages, family pressure to ensure a non-divorce outcome is likely to be high.

Non-arranged partnerships, on the other hand, family pressure can in fact work the other way in these instances, attempting to break up the partnership which they didn't sanction.

Not borne out by the statistics many still marry their first cousins.

Most parents are out of tune with their children and their judgment is shrowded by self serving interests.

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doesnt matter, as some already said it can be love with arrange... as long as its within limits, no dating and stuff and parents should be involved! :)

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one time, there was this white hick at my office, who just couldn't understand how we can have arrange marriages. I explained it to him in a way that any man would understand.

I told him that as long as the woman's hot, who the eff cares, if it's arranged or love. Just enjoy.

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^ hahah so funny, i live in an all gorea area,trying to explain to them the concept and reason behind arranged marriges (most of them think wer from a total differnent planet or summit). they always always always bring in honour killings into the discussion, and your like excuse me mate!! your talking about a some other fish now "let me finish". cant even imagine what it would be like, explaning how we also marry cousins. imagine the look on there face lol