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I suppose no-emo-strings-attached sex is possible in a idealistic state; the closest we can come to it in reality is prostitution, and in some cases, friends-with-benefits.
Edit: (off-topic) Latvia! WOW! Pakistanies sure are everywhere.
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I think as a women if u have sex with a guy so he is not ur husband or boyfriend
they will look you at the different way.But the guy do the same thing what the girl
does do just havin sex for fun or something what i wanna say is if a girl have sex
with someone she will call a ho. But if a guy do such these things that is normal.
Sometime's i wonder how a girl and a boy can have just sex .
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"in some cases" friends with benefits?
Do you have any clue how common friends-with-benefits is? In some case, the idiots fool themselves into thinking they're dating as well.
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Did you actually read what I typed? Where did I say friends-with-benefits are/aren't common? All I said was that IN SOME CASES friends-with-benefits works well for no-strings-attached sex.
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i understand all of the above statement except the “smaller population” part… 
mating like rabbits, we’d be multiplying like them too…
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Its quite understandable bhayee sahab. Sex with the intention to enjoy and relax would effectively rule out the chances of making babies.
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I don't get hte successful careers part.... marriage worsens your career?
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It shouldnt but it does.
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^ well if you're a horny busy bee, sure it will. Everything in moderation is the key to success :)
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Its not a choice to be busy in the competitive environ of today’s hectic world. If your spouse understands this and gives you concession for it, you are lucky. Unfortunately not many of us men are given this concession. I do second your opinion that everything done in moderation is a key to success. Are you married?
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I deny that arguement.. marriage is something that tends to bring positive attitude if done correctly.. everyone has a role to play both husband and wife and therefore when they support each other careers do tend to get better rather than worst.. paisa is no good if you don’t have someone to share it with… happiness is useless if you don’t have that someone to share with… just my 2cents
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No, I'm not married, but I know what it means to work and putting in your 150% to get your job done right.
Here's a thought. If you expect your wife to give you concession for working late nights, etc, then make sure not to screw up that trust and make sure to take the time you do have with her and make it quality. That's where guys go wrong. They take their home life for granted, and they dont realize their wife has the full ability to just walk out if she's unhappy.
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^^ Amen
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Unfortunately, most desi women don’t have the capability to walk out and desi hubbies are well aware of it. Hence, the reason they’re taken for granted and treated like crap.
Therefore, it’s best that women get adequate education, so if their hubbies treat’em like crap, they can walk out and be able to live on their own.
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^ and that is EXACTLY why moms are quite scared to look for the educated girls for their sons. And then you have the others that just want girls who are really educated for status purposes, so they can show off their bahu. Meanwhile, they’ll press her to leave her job anyway.
Desis, I swear. 
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^ Hm I dunno about that.... that was the case with my parents (the first one) but times have changed.... id on't think they're THAT behind. Everyone I've spoken to tells me it's good to have an educated wife/mother, whether she works or not coz she's able to raise her kids better.... now whether educated women make better mothers is another topic altogether, but looking for an un-parhi likhi is gone....
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This is very true … seen it loads of times.
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I see it even now. Most of my friends were married off and they never went to college. Two girls were forced to graduate early from high school, or maybe they didn't graduate. I dont remember. Later, they themselves broke off their engagements and then I remember one enrolled in beauty school and the other I dont know what happened to her.
I think only one of the husbands actually encouraged his wife to go back to school. The others don't care. One of them is actually bitter because she was accepted into med school in karachi, and was forced to not go because some family wanted to marry her to their son right then and there and take her to the States. In her mid-twenties she was actually willing to redo her bachelors here to get credit for the science courses, take the MCAT, etc and attempt to get into med school here in the States. Her mother-in-law, she claimed, kept encouraging her to have babies. She'd pop one out, then start talking about school, and then her MIL would start up again on wanting to have another grandchild. I think she's got like 3 or 4 so far. Now they can't afford anymore, and she's in her late 20's. Now the excuse is, you're too old, and the kids need you at home.
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^ This reminds me of a few of my friends.
One was forced into marriage right after high school. She wasn’t too happy, but couldn’t do anything, as she had other sisters in line and breaking off marriage would be bad for her sisters.
The other one’s parents got her married, but alhamdulillah she’s very happy and has great in-laws. Her hubby’s nice and she’s finishing school privately.
Others I think keep getting married randomly, mainly because supposedly you go outta demand after a certain age (24-25.. not sure), so parents keep pushing you into it.
I think many of us idealize marriage a little too much, quit school and get married; making the assumption that her shehzada would treat her like his shehzadi and they would live happily ever after.
And could I please be explained as to why mothers in-laws are always the ones demanding grand children? I thought it’s a personal matter and it should be between the husband and wife as to how many kids they want and when they want it. Where exactly do mother in-laws fit in the picture? 
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^ because they have nothing else to do. They should open up a MIL society and do fundraising for charities - should keep them busy. But no........