I have encountered some females in a conversation who believe that men can just go with sex while they want love-making as purely an attached act. Having felt its not true, may I invite a discussion on this issue?
As far as I am concerned I believe having sex with anyone you are not on love is an animal act.
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Zalim - agree, not just in love but married (in my opinion only). Don't you think we get this impression when men post about how if it's offered then why not? It isn't the same viewpoint that women have.
You are one of a minority in my opinion.
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Every tom, dick and harry? No. Unless men are high, they cant enjoy it. Please note that being high means one is not in his senses. Minority or not, I stand by it that the feeling is as much respected in men as it is amongst women.
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I'm sure it is for some, with my husband it is, this I know definitely.
Unfortunately this is not true for a majority of men, but maybe we should wait for the men to post.
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Yeah, I dont think the majority of men think of sex as an emotional act, at least as first. Now if they’re in a relationship (hopefully marriage as far as our muslims our concerned 
), and the relationship is good and healthy, then I do think feelings tend to develop in men.
Whereas with women, its 90% feelings from the get-go.
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I must have met the other 10% in my life then
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^ or maybe you ignored the 90% feelings in those particular women.
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It pisses me off when women try to portray themselves as 'holier than thou' when it comes to sex. DO you really think we are all emotion-less and there only for satisfying the hormonal urges?
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PCG, and the reamaing 22% hornyness?
I wonder why people think with their asshole when coming up with these theories? Are you telling us that men have sex without any feelings but the one they are having sex with does have feelings? OK.
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no. I'm saying that most men are okay with meaningless sex, especially when they're beginning to explore their sexuality as they enter puberty.
But I think that if a man gets in a serious relationship with someone (whether by marriage, or just a bf/gf they care about and are friends with as well), then I think men are capable of "making love" rather than just "using their tool".
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You tell them Madhanee. I put a lot of hardwork into it. It's not just doing it.
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No funguy, not all. But most are. Unless the girls figure out that they should not be wasting their time on someone who doesn't want a meaningful relationship to begin with.
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PCG, you have never had sex. You are too young to be analyzing male emotions during sex. it's like Madhanee telling me how to flirt with girls.
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I may never have had it, but I've certainly had to deal with my fair share of horny jerks.
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I have a simple rule of thumb to gauge emotional sex... if the eyes stay shut, it is if they wonder around, you might as well put it in a doggy bag and get the hell out.
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This reminds me of an incident that my co-worker shared with us at work. Some girl liked his friend and he took advantage of her. Next day she went upto him casually to hang around with him.
She got “I don’t know you b**ch” and a kick in the face.
Also, another co-worker and I were just messing with the same co-worker who shared the story about him not having a gf ever since elementary school. He told us how him and his friends have female ‘friends friends’ and not gfs because they find it is a lot easier this way.
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I think men are of the mindset that as long as they get some, whatever it takes, even if it means saying they're serious when they aren't because they realize a female needs a bit more to drop her drawers than just a "wanna do the horizontal boggie, baby?". Ask aguy that and 9 times out of ten, they'll say why not UNLESS they are in a serious committed relationship and some even then.
Of course, there are women out there who can have meaningless sex (know a few), but they are outnumbered by the men.
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I think you can tell the difference between pure animal sex and love-making.. yes you can have both of these in a marriage.
Men do need to have some attraction and emotion to get into bed with a girl.. but its always more so for the girls..
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yep sadiyah, i've seen many girls fall into the pit because of the low self-esteem that results when some guy has sex with them and then kicks them in the face afterwards.
Gandhay aik number ke fazool mard.
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OK, the lowest I am willing to go is 40-60 ratio. Do we have a deal?
Fungo. Men put more emotion into sex than women. We have to devote extra time thinking about it before the action part. Women intellectualize way too much, while men look for more common sense approach to things. I agree that some men suck, but not all, and there's nothing really wrong with it, just a different approach, but the bottomline is the same. They both want to fking do it. Some use this all fancy "emotional" sense. It’s like saying that women put more emotion into eating a certain kinda of food more than men do.