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Missing persons report??? I know you’re confused about everything but did it seem like he was depressed or does he have a history of depression? Gambling? Was he involved in anything that could harm the girl?- Maybe that’s why he ran off?
All this actually does sound scary if you had to file a missing persons report.
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Well for now first priority should be his safety , everything can come later on .
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Sounds like a Harold & Kumar story.
Well you need to talk to your mate, when you find him, and see what is going on in his head. He must have his reasons.
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The guy is probably somewhere in a hotel room or something, relaxing and chilling. Maybe in Vegas or something having fun. Doesn't even give a damn about his actions or his behaviour or if what he has done has upset people and people are worried.
This is not Pakistan we are talking about or some wild forest of the Amazon. He is a grown man who was aware of his actions. He is in the USA for god's sakes. What could have happened to him? Did someone kidnap him or something? Chota bacha nahi hai. It's funny how people are going on about safety.
He should be a man and face the music. Instead he is probably somewhere enjoying. There is a chance there is another mehbooba too. Ah guys.
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^ too many assumptions there sweetheart. Thats pak's mate you are talking about. He needs to find him, talk to him and see whats going on. And whatever he decides or has decided for his personal life, pak needs to stick by his mate.
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Hmm, cold feet at the last moment? Did you talk to him before the wedding? Notice anything strange...any tension? Financial problems....was he well settled? What about his other friends...anything shady about them? Any medical/health problems? Any doubts about sexual orientation that may not have been so obvious throughout the years? A sudden desire for 15 minutes of infamy?
It is America and CRAZY things can happen here. We can’t assume that he’s chilling in Vegas or even Miami. The guy was dropped off in Arrivals of the airport, so there’s no way of knowing if he even left Florida. And Jupiter, FL… that’s South Florida… 
Not that I want to worry you more pak-one… His fiance must be even more worried.
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gosh, em more worried abt the girl, how she's gonna absorb his disappearance
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knowing your friend's state of mind you just let him out of the car and didn't tail him?
c'mon.....there is more to this story that you are not sharing.
it certainly is not fair to make assumptions but somehow your actions don't fit the profile of a "good friend" that got tapped to be best man.
Girl's the idiot here.
A man that doesnt commit to you in 1 year...2 years...5 years...8 years...will commit to you after 10?
WHY would you date a man for 10 years...?
I agree, if you are for marrige, then why waste 10 years of your life with a possibility of marraige....crazy. If a guy really wants to be with you/marry you, he wouldn't waste that many years of your life....
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hmm 
agreeing with Munza and Afro and Gina.
Daal mein kuch kaala hai.
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^^ exactamundo!!!!!!! For a bestman, ure shady.. There I said it!!! I judged!!!
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It's good he ran away. Atleast the girl knows now what she is getting herself into.
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This is strange...
Hmm, cold feet at the last moment? Did you talk to him before the wedding? Notice anything strange...any tension? Financial problems....was he well settled? What about his other friends...anything shady about them? Any medical/health problems? Any doubts about sexual orientation that may not have been so obvious throughout the years? A sudden desire for 15 minutes of infamy?
I definitely talked to him before the wedding, I was the best man. We had the dinner, where we were all joking around that he was going to ‘disappear’ after getting married because his wife would be no match for us (such a bad joke, especially now). At Mynt we were just relaxing, talking about random stuff, he seemed ok.
I did catch him on the side and spoke about the rings/plans for the wedding morning..he seemed relaxed and I didn’t notice anything remarkable. Maybe he was a bit more reflective, but it seemed normal because it was the night before the wedding.
Other than that doubts are everywhere. All of the scenarios you have mentioned have crossed my mind at least one time or another.
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I am not justifying his actions....but maybe he needed some time alone.....to think......to figure himself out....
p.s. Yes he should have thought about this prior to the day of the wedding
p.s.2 I don't know if he is truly alone...since you mentioned he called someone and then got dropped off at arrivals......
It's good he ran away. Atleast the girl knows now what she is getting herself into.
Atleast the girl knows now what she is NOT getting herself into :D
knowing your friend's state of mind you just let him out of the car and didn't tail him? c'mon.....there is more to this story that you are not sharing.
it certainly is not fair to make assumptions but somehow your actions don't fit the profile of a "good friend" that got tapped to be best man.
Tail him where? I waited in the car in the arrivals section for a good 20-30 minutes before the Airport security person asked me to move. After that I had to rush to a wedding that was not going to happen. Of course I am omitting some information, to protect the privacy of certain people involved, but I have described the actual events as they happened, particularly since I was there.
My friend is an adult and I don’t expect my friends to vanish after I drop them off, do you?
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is he pakistani?
You’re not supposed to put such ideas in the groom’s head…
At least one time or the other since his disappearance? Or at least one time or another BEFORE the disappearance? What about emails and phone conversations in previous months…maybe even way before that…some tiny details that you may have overlooked or missed? Did he mention or give the slightest hint…a brief complaint about any issues? Has any other mutual friend complained about him?
I know you said that he’s not the kind to cheat on his gf…and that he’s the type to break things off. But, it’s possible that this is an assumption…one that in actuality is easier said than done. It may be that someone else (male or female) entered his life. Perhaps he felt torn because he didn’t want to leave his GF entirely…and considering the time that went into the relationship, he didn’t have the courage or perhaps the heart to call it quits.
What if he decided upon marriage…as a relief or perhaps a diversion from a stressful situation? Maybe he thought that marriage could resolve some inner conflict of his or fix his life in some way…and then at the last minute, he realized that marriage is not the cure for whatver issue he’s facing…and left?
Is he the type who hold grudges? Could it be that he was upset about somethign his GF did but never told others about it…and decided to jilt her at her wedding as some sort of payback?
Maybe he had a change of heart at the last moment (cold feet). Maybe he wanted to do something that would make her want to get over him. And he thought jilting would be just the thing that will turn her off toward him and end a relationship that may have been emotionally difficult for him to end in other more decent ways?