I’m down here in FL, trying to make sense of what has happened in the last 24 hours. The weather is beautiful but my mind is swimming with thoughts.
It all started out peaches and cream. One of my boys decided the marry his long term gf. They had been together for about 10 years (since they were 16) and we all absolutely adore her. She has been an honorary bro in our crew, and always chill.
So naturally we were all excited to see them get hitched and start the next phase of life together. We immediately booked our tix and we came down here to Jupiter, just 4 of his boys (including me) and 6 of her friends, both of their parents..small wedding on the Atlantic. I was tapped to be the best man, no bachelor party, just a Thursday night dinner at Azul and stopover at Mynt where we mami cubano hooked up with the cigars.
Fast forward to Friday AM, the wedding day. The wedding is at his parents house up the road, so I rented the drop top and we headed up the 95 and as soon as I am about to switch it up to Hobe, my boy (the Groom) completely freaks out and tells me that he can’t do it and asks me to turn the car around and take him out to MIA. For a split second - I hesitate - but then I realize that he’s still going to do want he wants, so I might as well be there.
I’m driving like a madman, breaking multiple speed limits, but thinking F it, let a cop stop me and this insanity will stop. We are quiet for most of the ride, I know I can’t talk him out of it - we always had that level of respect. Finally he makes a phone call and says “are you ready?” to the other person on the phone. At the airport, he jumps out at Arrivals NOT Departures and tells me that I don’t need to tell anyone, anything and he’s leaving for “a few” (A FEW what?). I tell him that I can’t put this on K (the bride) or the parents/friends but he insists on it.
I won’t say what I did - in case people that I know might be reading this. But all I will say is that I am waiting for a flight to take me back home, still not sure what happened?
Sounds like cold feet. But if the groom had to back out he should have let the bride know he can't marry her instead of running away, that way both could cancel the wedding. If he wasn't strong enough to tell her himself, the least he could have done was have you tell the bride and families. All of that is just really suspicious, I don't get why he would tell you to not tell anyone.
If it was ur sister he was marrying, would u still not make the effort to calm his nerves down and knock some hardcore sense in ur friend before dropping him off wherever u did.
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on the other hand if there were serious enough reservations that someone had about marrying your sister, would you try and talk him into it going along with it, rather than letting him walk away??
I see what you are saying but just presenting the other side of the coin :)
X2 is right too. It's better that the groom walked away before the marriage happened. I just think it's wrong that he couldn't tell the bride or have someone else tell her. It must have been really humiliating for her and her family to make the announcement in front of the guests that they're canceling the wedding.
The guy probably freaked out because he's been in a relationship with her for 10 years and didn't get to be with anyone else.
X2- That's true, I suppose I didn't think of that because I was enraged by this guys action and the fact that there is a girl and her family friends who are out there who were stood up. That girl will need some serious therapy.
I don't understand, if he could call and ask someone else on the phone if they were ready which means this was somewhat preplanned and this guy didn't get cold feet at the very last moment, then why couldnt he sum up some guts, man up, and admit to the girl he wasn't coming. And then he tells his friend who drove him to not say a word, just leave her hanging, wondering. Who does that? So yes X2 I suppose u r right.
soundarya- Being in a relationship doesn't justify him leaving her waiting for him.
I have been walked out on and i remember how frustrating it was not knowing what went wrong, where. I kept wondering for several months for some answers and a few years down the road, still dont have them since my ex decided to not take anyone's calls. When he did decide to call me, it was too little, too late.
I think he owes her an explanation of his actions as opposed to just running away and disappearing.
awwwwwwwwwwwwwwww....I feel so bad for the girl...after 10yrs of being together he could not even tell her to her face that he is unable to go through with it...I think he owes her at least that much :(
soundarya- Being in a relationship doesn't justify him leaving her waiting for him.
I agree. I'm just trying to get into the guy's head. He's been with a girl for 10 years, since he was 16. He probably thought, "Crap, I've never been in any other relationship since I was a kid." Then he had doubts and started the planning to run out on her before the wedding.
I have been walked out on and i remember how frustrating it was not knowing what went wrong, where. I kept wondering for several months for some answers and a few years down the road, still dont have them since my ex decided to not take anyone's calls. When he did decide to call me, it was too little, too late.
I think he owes her an explanation of his actions as opposed to just running away and disappearing.
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If you're going to bring a closure to everything, the least you can and should do is give a reasonable and logical answer to her. Vanishing isn't pleasant.. leaves the person stuck- and thinking what they've done.
He must have had an afterthought, nonetheless he should've called her and spoken to her instead of running away like that.
