K is obviously distraught. Out of respect to her and the general situation, I will not talk about her or what I said to their family. Let's just say I'm feeling like my boy dumped a girl who I considered to be a sister. Hurtin big time on both ends.
His cell phone is out of range, getting that message. So I am worried about his safety.
I am sad, angry, worried, and tired.
Guys please take my word on it: He is not cheating on her. They are not like that. Cold feet?** Some secret that he is hiding? Maybe**.
I feel bad for what has happened to that girl but I am happy she didn't end up marrying him. A person who can change his mind after 10 years of relationship can certainly change his mind after marriage too and that would have been even more devastating !
Doubt the girl would want to get back with him.. and he doesn't deserve a second chance* (and no i'm not being harsh)* a simple explanation would've done the trick..rathar than escaping the way he did.
K is obviously distraught. Out of respect to her and the general situation, I will not talk about her or what I said to their family. Let's just say I'm feeling like my boy dumped a girl who I considered to be a sister. Hurtin big time on both ends.
His cell phone is out of range, getting that message. So I am worried about his safety.
I am sad, angry, worried, and tired.
Guys please take my word on it: He is not cheating on her. They are not like that. Cold feet? Some secret that he is hiding? Maybe.
doesnt matter whether he is gay... impotent ... dying from cancer .. cheating or not or got the call from Mullah Ummer O Deen Duhaaee to join jihaad a.s.a.p. or watever... leaving someone like that is absolutely out of question... ...
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okay so getting cold feet is totally normal, marriage is a huge thing.
I agree with someone else here who said that after 10 years you would think he would have developed osme kind of respect towards her. he should have told her himself. The fact that he didnt tell and just took off shows how immature he is and clearly NOT ready for a marriage!
I personally know of a few muslim, pakistani couples who have been together for 10 years and are happily married today. I know of ones who have been together for 5 years and have gotten married, and I know also know of ones who have been together that long but didnt end up getting married. It just depends on the couple.
I agree with soundaray here, ummm who is he meeting at the airport?? is there someone else???
As a person, you have moral obligations too. Like when someone does something bad and you just sit there and let it happen you are also credible for it. You should have told that girl and her parents. No one deserves to be walked out on like that. Thats ridiculous! You should tell her or her family what happened. How would you feel if it happened to you or your loved ones?
As a person, you have moral obligations too. Like when someone does something bad and you just sit there and let it happen you are also credible for it. You should have told that girl and her parents. No one deserves to be walked out on like that. Thats ridiculous! You should tell her or her family what happened. How would you feel if it happened to you or your loved ones?
I didn't talk about about what I did or did not do, I handled it. It would be disrespectful for me to talk about how the bride took it.
*Finally he makes a phone call and says "are you ready?" to the other person on the phone. At the airport, he jumps out at Arrivals NOT Departures and tells me that I don't need to tell anyone, anything and he's leaving for "a few" *(A FEW what?). I tell him that I can't put this on K (the bride) or the parents/friends but he insists on it.
I won't say what I did - in case people that I know might be reading this. But all I will say is that I am waiting for a flight to take me back home, still not sure what happened?
K is obviously distraught. Out of respect to her and the general situation, I will not talk about her or what I said to their family. Let's just say I'm feeling like my boy dumped a girl who I considered to be a sister. Hurtin big time on both ends.
His cell phone is out of range, getting that message. So I am worried about his safety.
I am sad, angry, worried, and tired.
Guys please take my word on it: He is not cheating on her. They are not like that. Cold feet? Some secret that he is hiding? Maybe.
How can you be sure he is not cheating on her? Unless you know who he met at the airport and what happened after, I guess it will be hard for any one here to give you an answer IF that is what you are looking for.
People judge too quickly. For him to walk away after 10 years of his life invested just like that means it was a big issue indeed. When people are too scared to commit it indeed is a real problem.
Can you imagine havign self estreem issues and feeling that whatever you do you will mess up?
Maybe he has a secret life? Maybe he has a secret family?
Mayeb he has gotten involved in something deep and serious and wants to protect her from something?
this is way more than just cold feet... i can't imagine what the girl is feeling like. how are his parents? do they have any idea where he is? has he contacted ANYBODY?
How can you be sure he is not cheating on her? Unless you know who he met at the airport and what happened after, I guess it will be hard for any one here to give you an answer IF that is what you are looking for.
People judge too quickly. For him to walk away after 10 years of his life invested just like that means it was a big issue indeed. When people are too scared to commit it indeed is a real problem.
Can you imagine havign self estreem issues and feeling that whatever you do you will mess up?
Maybe he has a secret life? Maybe he has a secret family?
Mayeb he has gotten involved in something deep and serious and wants to protect her from something?
How are his parents feeling?
He is not cheating because he is the type of person, who would rather end it all, well before letting it get to the wedding day. I have also known him for 10+ years, so I am trying to figure out what to do.
I agree with the maybes, believe me, I have gone through too many scenarios. His parents are worried and embarrassed..more worried than embarrassed. So are we.
I just hope that wherever he is, he is safe. I don't want to create a missing persons website and start searching for him. This is absolutely unreal.
this is way more than just cold feet... i can't imagine what the girl is feeling like. how are his parents? do they have any idea where he is? has he contacted ANYBODY?
He has not contacted ANYONE yet. I mean I received a private call and I immediately picked it up, it turned out to be a telemarketer :(