Losing the Groom

Lifestyle Relationships
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I was wondering that as well. Can't remember if it was mentioned.

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Zobs, he is German who grew up in the US. Strong family values, his parents have been married for 30 years.

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So just german... non-desi?

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^ Yes.....I'm pretty sure that is what pak-one means

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This is really really strange....

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We can't really question what kind of a friend/best man pak-one is. How many of us have been in his situation? I'd be shocked and confused if my close friend who is about to get married, jumps out of the car at the airport and tells me to not tell anyone anything. You can't just park your car at the drop off section either. He would have to park his car in the garage, go back to the airport and then try to find his friend in the airport, but where? Arrivals or Departures?... the friend probably would have disappeared by then.

Did your friend rent a car in Florida? If he did, was it returned? Check out of his hotel?

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I mean it’s hard to think about everything…I was messed up because this very reason, went back to the emails, thought about the text messages etc. I mean he had the flu a few weeks back, I had stopped by with some food and to check in on him, he seemed sad..but that could be because of the sickness.

He is the type who never forgets..so it’s possible that there was a grudge. I mean the possibilities are endless. Overall, he is always so even tempered, a really good friend, and pretty hard worker at the job.

I’m going to check with the police to see what else we can do. My other friends are considering going down to Fl again to be on the ground.

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I waited for a bit in the arrivals section, thinking that he would be back.

That's just it: He did not rent a car there nor did he have a separate check out at the hotel. I rented the car and drove him around and the hotel (Thursday night) was under my other friends name.

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Pak-oNE

It seems to me your friend had someone on the sidey. Clearly this was planned and he was due to recieve somebody at arrivals.

Usually it is embarassing truths or situation in which we dislike to be discovered. - So he did not tell anyone.

I feel he eloped with some hot thing who he is enjyoing life under the sunshine at the moment fora couple of days. Reading that he has no mental or other problem, I dont think there is a stronger attraction than that to a man.

If it was any other urgent or so issue he could have sensibly informed the affected party which eh did not.

Its certainly something he does not want seen discovered. Which means its abnormal.

Personally, I think he has some hidden gf/family or possibly even a 'gangster/money issue' panga.

Sure he sounds mature, however mature does not mean you are a perfect person.

Its also clear but understandeble your loyalty to your friend is is preventing you to consider these possibilities.

It doesnt look like your friend just got 'cold feet', as in that case he would not be at arrivals to elope with someone.

And he said hed be back in a 'few', indicates hes in his mind and gave you the security hes not dissapearing for ever.

The other possibility could be one that RedVelvet mentioned of 'Payback' to the girl, as you also mentioned earlier hes not the type who forgets things.
Who knows what the personal relation in those 10 years has been like.
And when mature people do paybacks, it isnt the types of kids.
Its big time- and this guy hit the nail, he ended up humuliutaing everybody.
However presuming the family type of boys you are, Im surprised that he did not consider how this would affect his own family who would also be facing embarassment.

Anyhow from what it seems I bet hes relaxing in some hotel.

Anyhow what he did was cruel indeed.

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Now that will make him disappear from the map. :D

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:hmmm: Well… he did say that he was leaving for “a few”- whatever duration that implies. So it seems like he meant to just go away and will return later. If he didn’t want to return, I don’t think he would have mentioned something like that.

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Exactly. To this day, I am trying to figure out what “a few” meant. Just to give you an idea of my mindset, my concern had shifted to the wedding that was not going to happen. My mobile was on, and I assumed that I would get back up to Jupiter and pick him up/sort things out later. Besides one of our friends had overslept and was still down in Miami - so he could very easily picked up the groom.

Too many scenarios.

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While I agree to a certain extent with what you're saying, I also know that even in non-Muslims dating for ten years is unusual. A normal time is between 2 - 3 years...5 years MAX. After 5 years, even non-Muslim women begin to question where the relationship is going and give their men an ultimatum...marry me or get out of my life.

She may have had a more relaxed approach to life but most women (Muslim or not) will raise their eyebrows at 10 years of dating.

Exactly. Better for the girl in this case. She may shed a few tears now but its better than shedding tears for years fo her life. Or even having to go through a long and painful divorce.

Pak-One...

I dont think your friend was ever going to marry. To be honest with you, this sounds like a man who had a great relationship with his girlfriend but didnt really envision her as his wife. However, because of the history between them, chemistry between them, the fact that you guys loved her so much, maybe even his family had begun to care about her...he felt pressured into solidifying this relationship. Once that was done, things must have moved pretty quickly...a bit too quickly for him. He finally realized he was making a mistake and bailed out. Now, he needs time to think about his next move...towards her and the explanations he will give all of you.

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have the detectives assigned to his case subpoenaed phone and credit card records to monitor activity??

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just file the missing persons report already! we can sit here and think of a million stories but until you do something you wont know here your friend is or what in the world is going on... the police has far more sources to get to a person than we do... tell them the story and lets see what happens..

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Friend.

His 'Ill be back in a few' indirectly indicated to you

''some amount of days/weeks im not quite sure of yet as it depends on the circumstance to be prevailant'' .

Dude, he's definetly chilling under the sunshine AND WITH someone-something.

However your decision to file missing persons, objectivly and precautionsly speaking speaking is the thing to do.

Waise, dude, how is your friends own parents reacting to this. Or does he not have a close relation with them?

I do not think its 'cold feet' as cold feet usually occurs just prior an event, where as this was a clearly planned and pre-mediatated manoevre.
Under this implication, its clear he knew he was not going to get married well in advance.
And if this would be the case, a normal/decent person, inspite the unplesantness, would maturely cancel the rista beforehand instead of doing so at the heat of the bloody moment.

My two best bets are:

1) He has a secret mistress/mr

2) Payback for something

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Wow, this is heartbreaking. How two-faced could somebody be. It doesn't take a genius to know how your own bride is gonna react to you leaving her at the alter. He knew he was doing something so wrong and the scary part is is that ge must have been so desperate/immature if he had to go to this degree of running away on the actual wedding. He even called somebody before going into the airport. He must have arranged for somebody to pick him up or had a lady on the side. I doubt he's gay since he'd probably not ask Pak-One to get involved in this then.

Something is so wrong. He has a double life. That is for sure.

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same thing buddy.

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So any news on this? Did we find any information on the grooms whereabouts?

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Why dont you make the police track his credit card activity? At least u would know where he is...

I feel sorry for the girl. Hope she will be able to trust a man!!