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10 years thrown away just like that. Very sad.
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at least he owes her an explanation.
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The title should be "Runaway Cheater Groom"
When I first read the title, I thought the groom had passed away...god forbid.
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seeing it in life1 i had an idea as to what it would be lusi:bummer:
10 years thrown away just like that. Very sad.
and without an explanation...i hope that coward of a groom learns a lesson one of these days.
I have been walked out on and i remember how frustrating it was not knowing what went wrong, where. I kept wondering for several months for some answers and a few years down the road, still dont have them since my ex decided to not take anyone's calls. When he did decide to call me, it was too little, too late.
I think he owes her an explanation of his actions as opposed to just running away and disappearing.
I'm glad you found someone better Ira. :)
I guess I should visit life 1 more often…
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LOL 10 years together and he gets cold feet. Shows how bankrupt these people are when it comes to halalifying their relationships.
how is the girl coping? have you seen her since the airport drop off?
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And I am more scared and annoyed with men now.
If a girl did this, we would be insulting her honor and calling this guy by all names. You shouldn't make him go back to his fiancé but you should not have been scared of telling him he is a skank.
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There goes her self-esteem.
Very, very sad ...
What a coward .... not only running from his bride, but dumping the responsiblity on you to handle the situation. that ain't a man.
how is the girl coping? have you seen her since the airport drop off?
Just got back home. I am messed up over this.
K is obviously distraught. Out of respect to her and the general situation, I will not talk about her or what I said to their family. Let's just say I'm feeling like my boy dumped a girl who I considered to be a sister. Hurtin big time on both ends.
His cell phone is out of range, getting that message. So I am worried about his safety.
I am sad, angry, worried, and tired.
Guys please take my word on it: He is not cheating on her. They are not like that. Cold feet? Some secret that he is hiding? Maybe.
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Guy is not decisive , may be very immature .
Not very classy to break a commitment without informing other party .
Right move on guy's behalf as he didn't go ahead with it , when he wasn't sure .
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Let him sort it out. Was he somehow pressured and was still acting cool?
Staying together and not marrying for ten years..doesn't it tell people something?
It is disturbing for anyone to see this happening to so close individuals.
But it is still in beteween them.
Who know they ARE already sorting it together..being wishful and hopeful they get together ..happily.
This is one example which I have mentioned before few times in other different threads.
Dating/courting/having physical relatioship is no guarentee for love or commitment...culminating in marriage.
P.S. Once again love few details in first post as usual. ;)
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In my opinion, he needs some time. may be ppl call him coward but sometimes either some pieces of puzzle are missing or sometimes we dont feel good about things.
and sometimes are see ourselves doing things that we dont know how possibly could we do that. its hard to explain for me.
at that particular moment, silence is our best defence.
you just have to pray that whatever happens, happens for good.
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Girl's the idiot here.
A man that doesnt commit to you in 1 year...2 years...5 years...8 years...will commit to you after 10?
WHY would you date a man for 10 years...?
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Girl's the idiot here.
A man that doesnt commit to you in 1 year...2 years...5 years...8 years...will commit to you after 10?
WHY would you date a man for 10 years...?
Comon...they were high school sweethearts... she probably waited for them to finish HS and college which was a smart move on her part.
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Lusi, if you're in love...you at least get engaged. You do something to secure your commitment to each other. Like a Nikah for us.
Where there is a will, there is a way. If he waited ten years and then decided one day to do it...that wasnt reason talking...it was a moment of weakness...irrationality...beer...whatever...but definitely not HIM.
Girl's the idiot here.
A man that doesnt commit to you in 1 year...2 years...5 years...8 years...will commit to you after 10?
WHY would you date a man for 10 years...?
You have a point but it's not that unusual. I have a friend who has been with her boyfriend since she was 12 or 13(!) and she's marrying him this year. She's 24 and the guy is 26 or 27. That's a longer relationship. And they've been engaged for two years. They're not Muslim that they're going to think of going for a nikkah once they realize they like one another. The couple I'm talking about had to finish undergrad, the guy got a job, and they bought a house together. So while a 10 year long relationship does seem ridiculous to us, I guess it's not that strange for non-Muslims.