njm.. u need to have very serious talk to him... ask him why he needs your money and where he wanna spend it?...u May wanna hand him some amount (depending upon how difficult is the situation between u 2 now) but keep fully track on where he is spending it....
remember u must always keep urself ready for the worse case scenario and must keep some decent amount aside and should never let your spouse know about it <--- u r working woman, u can do it... in today's world it is very necessary .. learn the lesson from the ones who r broke by their spouses even after being together sooo many yrs.