Living with in-laws precondition

Lifestyle Relationships
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I absolutely agree! better to discuss upfront, than to have negative surprises later on.

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It could be, brotherman, for the luckiest people though. Most of us, however, live in a human world. Errs and wrongs are natural and human patience is very short lived really. To be happy/enjoying/living… who wouldn’t want that on earth, but as tough as it gets, I think managing still sounds better than fighting and complaining and whining, doesn’t it?

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sure… that means… telling stuff before hand…:faizy:

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Then you're talking about a minority. No one has preconceived notions about living with their particular in-laws.

This may come as a shock to you but I would not be opposed to living with my in-laws at all. However, if they did things to hurt my marriage.........then I have no choice but to live close but apart.

Most people don't want to rock the boat...its horrible to be the one that has to say these things. You feel like a villain. But if its not said then what is the alternative?

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sure… i see the ‘‘minority’’ saying all the stuff that is seen everywhere in life1 :hehe:

i don’t get ur last paragraph…

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Exactly.

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1: Not all the guppans bring negative stuff in L1, well most of them are even not married :smack:

2: Only those come and start a thread of complaint who are having troubles anyway. How come you find it abnormal? Troubles are difficult situations are a due part of life. Some have fewer of them anyway and some others dont bring them here and find a way out to sort the thing for themselves. Dont let L1 dominate your notion of family relations :bummer:

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  1. "well most of them are even not married"… see my earlier point about preconcieved notions of unmarried ones???

2.it doesn’t…but i have to make the point with a common frame of reference/ sample population to keep a discussion objective…

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I do see you point sometimes Nomi, I promise I do :rotato:

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Women come here to vent people...that's all.

Why does no one understand that?

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Few weeks back one of my friend told me that his cousin broke up his engagement because girl had clearly told him that she wouldn't live with her in laws.

Is it good or bad i don't know but to some extent it was a right decision. At least they have resolved their issue beforehand.

But it is not necessary that every girl doesn't want to live with her in laws. Usually girls have very good intentions but after marriage when they couldn't manage those issues they want their separate house (sometimes girls are on fault or sometimes IL's). So when i get engaged i will definitely clear my point of view that i want to live with my in laws as long as they are nice with me and i am nice with them. But when issues arises i would like to have my own house or portion in same house whatever convenient for him. .

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someone broke the engagement because larki wale wanted a separate house for their beti when she marries. very random