Well I am actually feeling sorry for the girl - he is going to get married .... At least she deserve a chance to know all of this beforehand ...
He seems to be a jadoogar and he will give some very convincing story to her too . If he can convince a girl after living with her for 5 years that marrying someone else is for the good of all three of them then how hard it is for him to give some story to his future wife ?
Man this guy should be President of Pakistan , he can solve many of our complex issues.
I'm sorry, but I think at 23+ the guy should have the balls to stand up for who he wants to marry. My brother is 18 and he still has the autonomy and maturity to deal with a situation better than this guy is doing. I don't know what kind of a fairytale you think you're living in , but you'll snap out of it fast. If he was that loyal to you and he really cared about you, he'd tell you that he was really sorry and end things right there with you. Not keep you on the side. I don't know how physical your relationship is but if you are physical, I can garauntee he'll leave you when he's getting all that + more from his WIFE.
I'm sorry to be harsh but khuda tum jaisi auraton se baachai.
Then let him lose , let him go , set him free . It is in the best interest of all three of you. Even if he insists that he still wants to be your friend and be with you , loves you or what not that is not in the interest of anybody.
Then let him lose , let him go , set him free . It is in the best interest of all three of you. Even if he insists that he still wants to be your friend and be with you , loves you or what not that is not in the interest of anybody.
I dont think I'll leave him. He'll be shattered, and no matter what I cant bring more torture into his life.
Yes I agree with you completely and understand it. He is made of glass , he needs both his wife and a toy(read you here) to keep him happy , sane and intact.
I am out of this thread now. You have made up your mind,now only Allah can guide you to the right path. Ameen.
P.S: I have kept religion out of this thread but I have the right to pray for you , I guess.
she just needs to be prescribed a couple of fluoxetine and psychotherapy ...honestly i think you are a candidate for Obsessive compulsive disorder...go see a psychiatrist please and don't ruin yourself !
You two are being selfish jerks and ruining that girl's life. He is marrying her under whatever pressure but you two are in love and will keep in touch. You are right you need to call the other girl and let her know the situation. She has the right to know that person she is going to marry is involved with someone else. She is a very important part of this fiasco and needs to make her own choice. Let her decide that after knowing the truth if she want to marry this guy or not. If she is on board with it then I believe the term is Ménage à trois
I dont think I'll leave him. He'll be shattered, and no matter what I cant bring more torture into his life.
That's fine. Sit around and wait for the day when HE will leave you. And trust me....there WILL be a day he'll leave you. Whether 1 month, 1 year, or 10 years....that day WILL come.
And when that actually does happen...I hope you have someone(other than him) in your life to help you pick up the shattered pieces.
But going through this whole online venting out episode I realised that I really am not open for any kind of suggestions. Because all of them are linked with either 'leave him' or 'get married to him'. First one is just not possible for me in any stage of my life and the latter.. I'd be lying if I'd say I dont want to marry him but I think I will not ask him to. He might feel the need once he's through this torture and make our relationship legal.
What??? You will never ask for getting married or you haven't asked for? What do you think he thinks about you? A Shareef and Parsa girl who lives with a guy with any legal contract and never ask for. He knows that in any case you are not going to leave him and you are all for him that's why he is marrying other girl and giving you lame excuses. Seriously he is not sincere with you, he is even enjoying his life with you. Then he will get marreid with that girl and after sometime when he gets bored with you he will leave and forget you completely............ Period.
It is totally your mistake.. you are giving him chances to play with you.
p.s. I think i sound rude or blunt but it is truth and i am not the one who is telling you truth.
I read this thread, but a question that never seemed to get answered was, is the OP a guy or a girl?