girl, sometimes you got to be cruel to be kind and thats what i think we are trying to do here <3
:-) Thankyou.
But going through this whole online venting out episode I realised that I really am not open for any kind of suggestions. Because all of them are linked with either 'leave him' or 'get married to him'. First one is just not possible for me in any stage of my life and the latter.. I'd be lying if I'd say I dont want to marry him but I think I will not ask him to. He might feel the need once he's through this torture and make our relationship legal.
But going through this whole online venting out episode I realised that I really am not open for any kind of suggestions. Because all of them are linked with either 'leave him' or 'get married to him'. First one is just not possible for me in any stage of my life and the latter.. I'd be lying if I'd say I dont want to marry him but I think I will not ask him to. He might feel the need once he's through this torture and make our relationship legal.
I am confused now , in 5 year relationship he never asked you to marry him or showed any intention of marrying you ? And now he has given you this story that he is marrying this girl because he has no choice , at this stage did he tell you that in reality he wants to marry you but he cannot for this or that reason ?
Not everyone is alike. I am sure you are brave enough to take a stand for the one you love and do everything the right way. But some people are just not mature enough and as much as they want to do everything right, they end up in this mess. I really dont see a single reason to label him as disloyal in any way in this whole story.
she has already decided what she's going to do. there is no point of beating around the bush !
All I can do is pray for you - not to sit and cry and remember all that everybody had said to you ..once he leaves you for good and you are alone with no self respect, no family, no friends and an extremely badly tarnished reputation - and it would be worse if that poor girl who he's marrying ends up cursing you for life or if her marriage gets ruined !
I wouldnt ever want you to come back here all messed up when we here are in a situation to say 'we told you so' . But so far I see that you won't change your mind or pay heed to anything any of us have said or told you !
and yes you are of the same age as me ..if you had said you were 18 or something i could have said that you are thinking immaturely ..but now I can't even do that sigh
Not everyone is alike. I am sure you are brave enough to take a stand for the one you love and do everything the right way. But some people are just not mature enough and as much as they want to do everything right, they end up in this mess. I really dont see a single reason to label him as disloyal in any way in this whole story.
Then what does the word ' loyalty ' means to you ?
Sitting in dark - crying on the shoulder of your girl and whispering ' Darling , I am all yours but believe i m just marrying another woman because of me family '
Keep the maturity on my left toe - This is not even Men enough in my dictionary ....
I don't understand what is wrong with some of the women out there? Sorry if I sound harsh but you don't seem normal to me. If not now then in a few years you'll realise all the things that people on this forum are telling you. You my friend will come back and post threads about him leaving you. What if his wife is more attractive? I really doubt he'll be coming back to you. What will happen when he has kids? What will happen when his family come to learn about you? What will happen when his poor wife finds out about you?
Why didn't he ask you to marry him? A guy who can go into a relationship can't stand up for you?! Why couldn't he tell his parents that it is only you and you that he will marry? He's playing you around, wake up and smell the coffee. You do know what women like your future self are called right?
He is never going to marry you because you are only a timepass and always will be to him.