Landing into an arranged marriage would it work?

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that is the problem i cant say no now because we have given them our word and taking it back would be hell

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demographics of quetta is changed over the years.

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I'm in kind of the same boat (plane?) as you
I am landing into an AM next week but then I book it 2 days later

Hopefully it works out for the both of us IA

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lol soooo that makes it a less of a pakistan?

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@ hammu: awwww hugz so are you moving out to a different country too?

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Nope, she'll be following me back to my country

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Palz, perhaps you can discuss your concerns of moving back to Pakistan with your fiance. He might start thinking to move outside Pakistan or he will make it a point to help you in the transition period and cooperate with you when you would be trying to adjust in Pakistan. He should know in advance what you might be going through after shadi so that he can support you in all this.

My cousin was born and bred in Saudi Arabia in a conservative society so she didn't find it hard to move back to Peshawar after shadi since she was used to living in a strict environment. But moving from a comparatively liberal country like UAE (ok its not as liberal as West, but it still is modern and liberal country as compared to a city like Quetta), it can be difficult. If you don't inform your fiance about your concerns, he won't be able to understand you in the future which will create problems for you both. So my advise would be to take him into confidence and discuss the issue with him. He hopefully will make you feel comfortable and will help you in the future too.

Having being born and bred in Quetta, I don't know whether you and your fiance would be allowed to talk to each other or not. You know him and your family traditions the best.

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she? oh i thought your the girl hehe sorry. Good for you you dont have to move out :-)

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Hey thankz ashy for such a detailed advice. Well we do chat and i think its time i spoke about these issues to him because its not only about being conservative or livestyle differences but also about the HUGE problem of security and peace in Pakistan.

I will have to discuss this issue with him.

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not if u take PIA

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If he is a CSS officer i don't think you can find a better man on planet earth. If he is an Officer in District management group than you will live like a Queen in Pakistan. You can try all Tom, Dick and Harrys from all around the world but don't think you will find a man more well cultured, educated than this CSS officer.

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I dont think if this guy is a CSS officer he will leave his job to move to europe or any Gulf states. Why should he move to these places when he has a bright career with so much power in Pakistan. Some one out of his mind will like to leave such a job and move to anywhere in europe or Gulf for mazdori.
Some ppl might a lit bit charm in moving to Europe but to GULF STATES NO WAY. Life is much better than living in any Gulf states

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Really you thingk so? well if it is the way you describe it to be then i would like to live like a queen lol. Thankz a little relieved :-)

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I reckon you should marry this lad rest of your life will be in peace. Atleast you wont have to do laundry, cleaning and a lot of other stuff on your own. You cant find a better man thn him. If i was in your shoes i wont take a second to marry him hehhe

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It is a leap of faith or should I call it Russian Roulette? But so are love marriages. So like someone said earlier both love and arranged marriages have somewhat equal chances of being successful. Lady folks have a hard time getting over their first love. Women never forget the men they could have had; And us men never forget the women we couldn't.

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Try smooth landing and not crash landing. Smooth landing is almost certain to work at any airport unless of course pilot (you) is dumb and deaf :)

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Well you are right and i would do the same :-)

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good luck ! :) it's true with a CSS officer you would have a lot of work force to help you with all your household chores. Adjustment would initially be difficult but you would manage IA!

But do voice out your concerns and get to know your fiance better !

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Yes that is what i shoul learn: How to speak up for yourself

Btw does anybody know how much a person earns by being a CSS officer? Lets say grade 20 maybe