Ladies

[firenze]

Firenze, like I said, pehlay aap ek ko toh sambhalo phir balance kerna 3 aur ko :@:

I am not saying we should make it a goal for having 4 wives, i am just saying it's part of Shariaah .. it's in Quran, so please refrain from pass judgements on it even remotely, that we don't like it..and else. and else

i have full belief on TLK bahi, he can look, "koosing his kismat' but will never do such thing.. ;)

[S02]

Re: Ladies

yup you have to do justice in spending time, loving, caring, providing food/money.. betweet 1 2 or 4..

so yeh?

Right. And you can't.

Shariah is not God's law. It is one interpretation of God's law by man, and therefore it is subject to human bias and error.

[firenze]

^ Right. And you can't.

Shariah is not God's law. It is one interpretation of God's law by man, and therefore it is subject to human bias and error.

Aunti jee, you just quote two ayat's from Quran, and it's clearly understandable you don't need a alim for that.

their is no interpretation required for 4 wives issue, it's simple and written their !

[Niksik]

@firenze

I am not saying we should make it a goal for having 4 wives, i am just saying it’s part of Shariaah .. it’s in Quran, so please refrain from pass judgements on it even remotely, that we don’t like it..and else. and else

i have full belief on TLK bahi, he can look, "koosing his kismat’ but will never do such thing..

oh ho, jee woh zaroor look-ein, kisney mana kiya hai

[firenze]

Right. And you can't.

jee all the muslims who married 4 or more times in their life times in last 1400 years didn't do justice. Thank you hud hoti hia ..

[S02]

Re: Ladies

Aunti jee, you just quote two ayat's from Quran, and it's clearly understandable you don't need a alim for that.

their is no interpretation required for 4 wives issue, it's simple and written their !

I agree. It's pretty clear in the Quran.

[PunjabiRose]

@firenze

All of you ladies who are crying over second marriage is directly defying the Allah’s law, pray to God for forgiveness .. tobah tobah.. :aliyish:

Im guessing most girls who are “Crying over” this issue are not going to be marrying men with your kind of thinking…we are probably going to marry or are married to men that should “also pray to God for forgiveness” for believing that there is absolutely no reason for them in this day and age today to get another wife when they already have a luvely one and she is the world to them.

I wish you best of luck on finding ladies that are going to be more than happy to help you “follow Allah’s law” as opposed to us who go against it. Keep us posted on this forum on how your multiple wives are getting along in the future and how your finances are. :halo:

The rest of us will be chilling with guys that share the poster belows mentality. Don’t worry about us… we will be just fine. |
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@Sheroz

Leave aside religion. In my opinion, a man should not be allowed to marry more than woman.

I wouldn’t like if my wife go and marry another man due to some “reasons”. If she does it then she will be divorced asap. Similarly, there is absolutely no reason why I should think about marrying another woman either.

We men would hate it if we see our wives discussing about getting married to another man. Don’t you think the same logic applies here, too? If, for whatever reasons, my wife don’t concieve then we’ll just adopt a baby. I won’t go marry another woman

I will marry one woman only and will dedicate my life to her, only her. I expect the same in return

[CM]

Re: Ladies

Its just not that easy that he can take a second wife. There are preconditions and conditionalities attached to it. The one that is important is that he has to treat the two of them equally in every aspect. Which is phyiscally impossible.

The issue of a second or third wife is allowed in such a narrow field of what is acceptable that only 0.0000000000001% of men could actually fulfill the requirements.

I would highly suggest you women learn more about Islam before bringing it up in discussions which will lead to disinformation.

[PunjabiRose]

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[PunjabiRose]

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*Also the whole compulsory "make sure you treat your wives equal" ..... that is next to impossible. Allah made it difficult on purpose for a man to take on another wife. There is a reason behind this. It is human nature to favor one person over another. Especially in a situation like this. *

Yea - which is why I included this luvely little paragraph in my post. Pretty much same thing you are saying CM???

Last time I checked I was a woman..........

[hareem01]

Re: Ladies

There is difference of opinion among the scholars, some say a man can remarry without his first wife's permission and some say he can't. So if my husband asks my permission then I'd allow him in particular circumstances, for example, if he's marrying a widow or divorcee(with children) and he has enough money to give us both a good lifystyle.

I wouldn't want him to have children with second wife because I've seen so many times that it just doen't work out between step-siblings, and also I'd want him to concentrate on children that he already have.

[Puchi_Kuchi]

Re: Ladies

It's allowed in certain circumstances,

it does not mean it has to be forced upon me,

it also does not mean if i don't accept another woman it is haraam for me. So NO i would NOT tolerate another woman. Sorry.

[tammy8604]

Re: Ladies

Polygamy is ridiculous and sexist. I would never permit that.

[hareem01]

Polygamy is ridiculous and sexist. I would never permit that.

Some people say the same about divorce and marriage.

[Jaanwar]

Re: Ladies

I am not sure about the religious rules on it, but I wouldn't want this done to my sister/daughter, and wouldn't do it to someone else's sister/daughter. I just don't like this idea, at all.

[tammy8604]

Some people say the same about divorce and marriage.

I have never heard marriage or divorce being a sexist practice..explain?

[S02]

Re: Ladies

^Marriage is seen as simply transferring ownership of the woman (and her dowry) from father to husband.

[hareem01]

I have never heard marriage or divorce being a sexist practice..explain?

My reply was pointing towards banning of a practice rather talking about its nature.

If you don't agree with it, that's fine but let practice those who need it.

[CharmedOne]

There is difference of opinion among the scholars, some say a man can remarry without his first wife's permission and some say he can't. So if my husband asks my permission then I'd allow him in particular circumstances, for example, if he's marrying a widow or divorcee(with children) and he has enough money to give us both a good lifystyle.

I wouldn't want him to have children with second wife because I've seen so many times that it just doen't work out between step-siblings, and also I'd want him to concentrate on children that he already have.

So,you would 'give' him permission in 'particular circumstances'...but you would not like him to have children with his second wife.
Well,what if she wants wants them....isn't it natural for a woman to want to have her husbands children?...what if the 'widow' or 'divorcee' does not have kids of her own.Isn't that like placing a condition on the relationship?
A man does not ** **have to have more than one wife....if she is unbearable then just leave her...otherwise have a fulfilling life with the one wife.
Lord...what is it with men and 'more than one wife'....

[hareem01]

So,you would 'give' him permission in 'particular circumstances'...but you would not like him to have children with his second wife. Well,what if she wants wants them....isn't it natural for a woman to want to have her husbands children?...what if the 'widow' or 'divorcee' does not have kids of her own.Isn't that like placing a condition on the relationship? A man does not **have to have more than one wife....**if she is unbearable then just leave her...otherwise have a fulfilling life with the one wife. Lord...what is it with men and 'more than one wife'....

There are plenty of women who don't want to have kids of their own.

People remarry for different reasons, some aren't happy with their wives, some want kids and can't have them with the first wife and some people remarry just to give a poor and week woman security and honour.

I'd let him marry for a woman just for the sake of helping her and honoring her otherwise there's no reason that I could agree to it. If she wants kids then I'm sorry, I'll have to say no to their marriage.