Most kids are afraid of dark maybe, but my older one who is 9 now is too much afraid of being alone in a room, even in a broad day light. At nights, only times she sleeps in her room is when one of us (wife or I) are sleeping in the next bed. Most of the times she insists on sleeping in our bed. Even then, she sleeps with herself tucked fully inside the comforter, even on warm nights. When I point to that, she says “but dad, I love sleeping like that”.
My bigger concern is that she is instigating that behavior into her little sister, who is 5 and quite a brave girl for her age. But now when she sees her older sister acting like that, she also starts behaving like the older one.
Is it normal? Any reason for us to be overly concerned?
My 8 year old son is the exact same way! He STILL follows me from room to room! And if we ask to go to do something, like take a toy back to his closet, he’ll make one of the twins (who are 6!) go with him. It’s sooo aggravting! I cannot even go to the bathroom without him yelling “mama! where are you?” Where the heck do you think I am!??! It’s not like we live in 10,000 sqft mahal!! He won’t go to sleep in his own room unless my husband and I lay down with him (or one of his brothers).
He’s always been like that though…major seperation anxiety. I think it stems from the circumstances around my pregnancy with the twins and their pre-mature delivery. I was on complete bedrest, then in the hospital for a week, then while the twins were in NICU, I was gone alot obviously…and he wasn’t even 2 years old when they were born. Once the twins came home, we had a behavior specialist come to the house and work with on adjusting to all the changes…but I think his personality is set. He is getting a little better, but we can’t even go to a dawat without him making sure he knows where I am at all times
that girl has a very active imagination. She keeps reminding herself of some scary scene that she saw on TV or some dream that she had or one thing or the other. I cant pin down if she is scared of a ghosts or boogie monster, but its something like that. When I ask her what she is scared of then she says, ‘nothing dad, I just dont like to be alone’.
NJ, I dont think that walkie talkie would work as she has a baby monitor that has been sitting in her room since she was 3 and we sleep with our doors open so she knows that we are always around or just a shout away.
Show her how exciting the dark can be, torches, glow in the dark stuffs. I saw this AWESOME book about a nittle girl who was afraid of the dark until she realised it was kind of cool...but I cannit remember the name :/
I think she'l probably grow out of it though, I was afraid of being upstairs alone in my house when I was younger and im...well i'm still scared of the dark, but i've lived alone so it's ok. I think. She'l be fine. Promise.
About younger sister, just keep reminding her how brave she is, but not in the 'unlike your sister' kind of way.
Dude as long as it doesn't effect her health, social and emotional well-being, capacity to grow, think, learn and behave in an appropriate manner as a child, I would say it's ok.
However, there is no harm in showing her how cool the dark is.
If you guys have safari/animal parks nearby, check if any of them have a nocturnal house. Best way to try and overcome fear of the dark. Seeing all those nittle doormice, moles, owls, hedgehogs and fruit bats (harmless bats) is very cool.
OMG! HAVE A GLOWSTICK PARTY!!!
Im sure you can get glow in the dark glitter paint too...decorate her walls and stuff. But no creepy clown pictures!
Otherwise she is an extremely sharp, witty, full of energy and intelligent girl. Her social skills are very proper for her age. So I take your words that its OK ..
Nocturnal house would make her believe that its ok to be up when its dark, no? :D
Otherwise she is an extremely sharp, witty, full of energy and intelligent girl. Her social skills are very proper for her age. So I take your words that its OK ..
Nocturnal house would make her believe that its ok to be up when its dark, no? :D
I like glowstick party idea ..
Not really, it's the angle you use. How dark may be scay for some, but it is necessary for others. Can't see fireworks if it's not dark and all that jazz.
Another OMG idea, get her a dressing table with lightbulbs around it, like celebs have...get me one too!
Tlk my nephew was like that as stil Is at 14 even if he is home alone he'd have the light on in every single room.
She's obviously scared of something we get him to recite the kalma and 4 kuls.
We've asked him severAl times y even taken him to see a specialist, it's his over active imisgination that does it.
Try to tell ur daughters a story jus before she goes to bed, s nice friendly one and no tv a hour o so before bed, get them to read the kalma jus before they close there eyes, and sAy Allah will protect u thru the night, it works with my 8yr old n 4/5yr old. N
Govt of Pakistan is running special training program to for all kids to remove their fear related to darkness, some critics calls it load-shedding/power-cuts, have her in Pakistan for sometime and she will be all use to Dark and may also enjoy it...
Govt of Pakistan is running special training program to for all kids to remove their fear related to darkness, some critics calls it load-shedding/power-cuts, have her in Pakistan for sometime and she will be all use to Dark and may also enjoy it...
Also one thing I did which worked well for my son when he had a bad dream: I had him draw a picture of the dream, and tell me what happened in it, then we threw the picture in the fire. All gone!
