It's hard to have ugly kids

Lifestyle Relationships
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Recently Karl Lagerfeld was quoted as saying:“It would have been difficult to have an ugly [child].”

As cold as that sentiment sounds, I read about a study years back where the researcher claimed mothers love beautiful babies more.

http://www.time.com/time/health/article/0,8599,1906642,00.html

Do you believe this is true? Does physical appearance impact a parent’s love for their child, or any other unconditional love relationship?

Mods, please don’t move this to Parenting - I think the topic is broader than mere parent-child relationships :slight_smile:

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parents do love their kids without considering the color/tone of skin.

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That's why my parents didn't love me?

sneefulz

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How would I know? All 3 of them are beautiful. hehe

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hareem: even if they were not beautiful, you would still love them.

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If its my child I will love him/her no matter what. If its between two of my friend's children may be I select cute ones. But if child is naughty definitely I won't like it even its beautiful one.And that's true because one of my friend has most beautiful daughter but she is so so naughty or so "Badtameez" that I just don't like her. She doesn't listen to her elders or show you bad faces I cannot stand her on the other hand her sister is not so pretty but very respectful I love her a lot.

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but op is asking parent child love.

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usually ugliness is inherited.

... nuff said.

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I answered it first I cannot love them on basis of how beautiful they are :no:

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Very interesting thread.

I know someone who is fair-skinned and her hubby is dark-skinned. All of their kids except one is dark-skinned and my cousin always complains how ugly that dark-skinned child is. Disgustingly mean esp for her child to hear but she can't get over it! We all keep giving her a good telling off but she won't change her attitude. Sad.

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looking from a mother's eyes no child is ugly.. :@:

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I think a mother would love a child no matter what and each child has their own place in their mother's eyes but yes as they grow up..it is a possibility that parents have certain favorites. Though I wonder if a child's beauty plays a part too!

And anyway why blame the kid. They are made up of the genetic combination of the parents so generally the ugliness is passed down by them :)

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We are four siblings and 2 of us have darker complexion and other 2 are comparatively fair. Darker ones always complained that our mom love the fairer ones more :hehe: …My mom always denied the allegations, but who listens to her anyways.

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i have never understood how skin color equates to ugly vs. pretty....case in point:

Deepika Padukone, Bipasha Basu, Konkona Sen, Kajol, Padma Laxmi- dark skinned but beautiful

Karishma Kapoor, Kangana Ranaut, Amisha Patel- not pretty at all in my opinion, with Karishma being downright FUGLY....

What constitutes an "ugly child"? Physical features? Body Type? Disposition & Personality? I think the old adage "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder" applies here....Speaking as a parent, all I prayed for was that my child be born with 10 fingers, 10 toes, healthy, and safe....I happen to think all three of my kids are absolutely beautiful, am generaly told this by people, yet for some reason, they were never chosen in those Geber "America's Most Beautiful Child" contests...hmmm...does that qualify them as "ugly" now??!?!

After carrying a fetus for 9 months, and going through childbirth, I don't think any sane parent wouldn't find their baby beautiful in everyway...as to what someone else might say...screw 'em....we are all Allah's creation....who are we to criticize the maker!??

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Luckily my parents never had to ask themselves that question or face that predicament

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I've seen a parent display a difference in treatment based on their children's looks. I know it's sad...not saying it's right. The doesn't mean that they don't love the less attractive child.....they recognize the positive qualities in that child as well. But the more attractive kid (in the examples i've seen) gets complimented on their appearance A LOT...even in front of the less attractive children....and the latter get criticized for their looks.

In the one example I know....the mother's excessive complimenting of her more attractive daughter made her arrogant. She's very consumed about her looks and didn't seem to devote as much energy in developing her personality........she struggles with respecting people. As for the woman's other two daugthers...that are less attractive.......they both have low self-esteem. In the older one....it made her bitter and she struggles with anger management. And in the younger one...she's milder in personality, but has low self-concept.

As for the doctor's theory: Attractiveness (to an extent) can be improved on. Also, it's hard to tell how kids are going to end up looking. I've seen kids who are pretty/cute when they're younger...and turn out to be less than attractive adults....and vice versa. And the teenage years are so awkward....no telling how you're going to turn out.

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:confused: :disgust:

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I always thought that every mother finds her children beautiful, even if the general opinion is that they are average looking etc. I'm quite surprised!

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Parents love their kids no matter how they look and even how they behave :snooty:.

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Sadly it is only us humans - You wont even see Animals treating their kids different on the basis of looks ...