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Originally posted by amy:
Some very emotional and immature responses to my bashing of sodomising self proclaimed ulamas. But I expected that. Truth is very bitter and if every one will calm down, take a step back and listen to the other's point of view, we would be much better people as a nation. Now I don't think any one of you knows what my knowledge about religion is but I can tell you this much that I have read and understood quran. I did not simply recite it and then kiss it and put it back. I understood it and I follow it in my day to day life.
One of you said that its not like black and white and everything (Dinosaurs etc.) is not mentioned in Quran. Offcourse not, Quran is not encarta, it is a book to remind you of certain way of life and total submission to God and only God. ( You can say allah in arabic).
I don't believe that Quran was writtn by Mohammed. I consider Quran a word of God. Mohammed with no formal education at the age of 40, could not have written a book like this on his own. He was a messenger and gave us the book. After that, since it was very inconvenient for some of us , we created various other books to interpret Islam to suite our way of life and there are several examples of that. I don't beleive in anything about religion written by a human. That's not compatible with my relationship with my God. If don't wear a burqa, that's my problem. I don't think that an illiterate effen mullah will tell me what to do with my life. i just think that's right. bye for now, will return with more on this topic.
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Amy,you probably have an anglo nick but an eastern birth,unlike sister Noor here who was born in the west & anglo ,with which you seem si imbibed that any thing contrary to that ,you will deny it like hadith &sunnah.But remeber Islam is the fastest growing religion in the west & women are converting at the ratio of 4 women to 1 man,so it cant be oippressive but liberting in the metaphysical sense which is abve you to grasp ,for ppl. like you only go for the visible tangible eye dazzling signs & symbols.These new converts follow to the letter Hadith &Sunnah that will put you .ignorent to shame
Women
The noble position of Women in Islam
In looking at Islam’s teachings about women, the place to start is the
spiritual level, since that is the most important. Then we can look at
social roles. The Qur'an affirms that women are the spiritual equals of
men, with the same responsibilities to worship God and the same rewards
for doing so:
“For Muslim men and women, for believing men and women, for devout men
and women, for true men and women, for men and women who are patient and
constant, for men and women who humble themselves, for men and women who
give in charity, for men and women who fast, for men and women who guard
their chastity, and for men and women who remember Allah’s profusely,
for them Allah has prepared forgiveness and great reward.”1
“Whoever works righteousness, man or woman, and is a believer [in
Islamic monotheism], I will give them a good and pure life [in this
world], and I will bestow on them their reward [in the Hereafter]
according to the best of their actions.”2
“Believing men and women are allies and protectors of one another. They
enjoin what is just and forbid what is evil; they observe regular
prayers, practice regular charity, and obey Allah and His Messenger. On
them will Allah pour His Mercy, for Allah is Exalted in power, Wise.”3
On the Social Level:
As a mother:
Every person has a mother. When a man asked Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) who
had the greatest right to his good company and treatment, the Prophet
(pbuh) replied, “Your mother.” He asked him, “Who next?” He replied,
“Your mother.” He asked him, “Who next?” He replied, “Your mother.” He
asked him, “Who next?” He replied, “Your father.”4 This indicates that a
child must go out of his way to fulfill his mother’s rights, and in case
there is a conflict between her rights and his father’s rights, her
rights are given precedence.
The Prophet (pbuh) also stated that the only way a man could repay his
father would be if he were to find him as a slave and purchase his
freedom.5 His silence about the case of the mother indicates that there
is no way a child could repay his mother for all she went through on his
behalf. She endured the rigors of pregnancy and the pain of childbirth.
She nursed the child. She changed thousands of soiled diapers. She put
up with his crying and whining. When he was hurt she comforted him. When
he was sick she stayed up to tend him. She pushed him to make the best
of himself.
As a daughter:
Many cultures throughout history have placed a premium on sons and
considered daughters a misfortune. This attitude is condemned in the
Qur'an: “When news is brought to one of them, of (the birth of) a female
(child), his face darkens, and he is filled with inward grief. He hides
himself from his people in shame because of the bad news he has
received. Shall he retain it on (sufferance and) contempt, or bury it in
the dust? How evil is their judgment!”6
Kind treatment of daughters has been identified as one of the paths to
Paradise. Allah’s Messenger (pbuh) remarked, “Whoever is tested with
[the responsibility of raising] daughters and treats them well, they
will be protection for him against Hellfire.”7 Anas ibn Maalik quoted
Allah’s Messenger (pbuh) as saying, “Whoever raises two daughters
[properly] until they reach adulthood, he and I will come on the Day of
Resurrection [like this],” and he joined his fingers.8 A father’s
responsibility to his daughters does not end with adulthood, which is
legally defined as puberty, i.e., menstruation. It only ends when she is
married and goes to live with her husband.
Marriage
Allah said, “And among His Signs is this, that He created for you mates
from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquillity with them, and
He has put love and mercy between your (hearts). Verily in that are
signs for those who reflect.”9 Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) said, “One who
marries has taken a step to complete half his religion; so let him be
conscientious of his duty to Allah in the remaining half.”10 Marriage is
considered half the religion because of its importance to maintaining
human society. And on an individual level it is intended to develop the
qualities of love and mercy mentioned in the verse and the ability to
give and take, compromise and accommodate. Consent A woman’s consent is
necessary for the validity of the marriage. 'Aa’ishah mentioned that she
asked Allah’s Messenger (pbuh) about a virgin whose guardian gets her
married, whether or not it is necessary to consult her. Allah’s
Messenger (pbuh) said, “Yes, she must be consulted.” 'Aa’ishah remarked,
“But she feels shy.” Allah’s Messenger (pbuh) said, “Her silence implies
her consent.”11 Ibn 'Abbaas reported that the Prophet (pbuh) said, “A
previously married woman without a husband has more right to her person
than her guardian; and a virgin’s consent must be asked from her, and
her silence implies her consent.”12 If a girl who has attained puberty
is married off without her consent, she has the right to ask a judge to
annul the marriage. The proof for this is that a young woman came to the
Prophet (pbuh) complaining that her father had married her against her
will. He gave her the choice to annul the marriage. In the version of
Ibn Maajah and Aboo Daawood, the woman was a virgin.13
Some of a wife’s rights
The husband is required to give a present to his wife upon marrying her.
Any property she owned before marriage remains hers, and she may dispose
of it as she sees fit. Her husband is obligated to support her. The
expenses of housing, food, clothing, transportation, health care and
children’s education are his responsibility. If she chooses to
contribute any money to these expenses, it is counted as charity from
her to her husband. A Muslim woman keeps her own name after marriage.
Consultation between husband and wife
A couple’s affairs should be conducted on the basis of mutual
consultation. This principle is established in the following verse. In
the course of giving instructions to breastfeed children it states: “If
the two [parents] decide on weaning, by mutual consent, and after due
consultation, there is no blame on them.”14 Prophet Muhammad (pbuh)
provided an example for his followers in accepting the advice of his
wives even in issues unrelated to household affairs. When he took his
followers to perform 'Umrah (the Lesser Pilgrimage), the pagans of
Makkah barred them from entering the city. The Prophet (pbuh) negotiated
a treaty with them that required the Muslims to turn back at that time
and come back the following year to perform 'Umrah. When the Prophet
(pbuh) ordered his followers to shave their heads and sacrifice their
animals to signify the abandonment of their 'Umrah, they were reluctant
to do so. He entered his tent and his wife Umm Salamah asked him why he
was upset. When he explained the cause, she suggested, “Why don’t you go
out and sacrifice your animal and shave your head in front of them? When
they see your act they will follow your example.” He accepted her
suggestion, and, just as she had predicted, when his followers saw him
doing what he had asked them to do they hurried to do the same.15
The question arises: What is to be done if the husband and wife cannot
agree on a policy after mutual consultation? Since there are only two of
them, there must be a tiebreaker. Allah has given the husband that
responsibility. “Women have rights similar to the rights against them,
according to what is equitable; but men have a degree (of advantage)
over them. And Allah is Exalted in Power, Wise.”16 “Men are the
protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has given the one
more (strength) than the other, and because they support them from their
means. Therefore righteous women are devoutly obedient and guard in (the
husband’s) absence what Allah would have them guard.”17