Islam for Women or is it?

If you haven’t noticed, I never made a claim to follow any religion. Well, I can’t justify the bad with good, and that logic goes for anything. I am not wasting my time, I am here to learn. If you feel you are wasting your time, do not bother replying.

Something that has engulfed my entire life with curiosity and confusion, I have to find out how much truth there is to it. If Islam were a perfect religion, it would seem so… It’s not and so far nobody has told me otherwise. I have no reason to take notice of the 10 positive things when I have laid out about a 100. AND actually, I did take notice but it wasn’t convincing enough obviously. As you can see, you are the only woman in this thread justifying the wrongness of something. How many eyes and hearts you need to see injustice done to your own kind? Like I said before, I do not have an agenda other than to learn.

I did mention before that morality doesn’t come from religion. One doesn’t need a religion to have morals. I do not drink, do not go clubbing, and do not dress inappropriately. I actually oppose all of those things. I DO have restrictions but they do not come from your GOD.

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^Good for you...now leave us alone.

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Being a revert I cannot identify with your problems concerning Islam, if you don't wanna follow it then that is your choice and no one can force you back into it.

However I agree that there is certain people who make certain things extremely complicated, sometimes they prefer minor details over big issues.

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this is very sad, the way so called 'muslims' are treating a person who has raised serious and valid questions about treatment of women.

Why can't you people provide your views and answers if you have instead of shooing the questioner off like this?

Also answers such as "you should consider it a privilege to be treated as a half wit" only re-affirm the charge that women are treated as lesser beings.

come on people - be honest to yourself and don't be afraid. If God is about goodness, God will only appreciate the efforts to right something that seems wrong

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Everyone has tried their best to answer the "concerns" of the threadstarter but she comes up with this in the end " *I have no reason to take notice of the 10 positive things when I have laid out about a 100. AND actually, I did take notice but it wasn't convincing enough obviously". *

I don't think it's anyone's job to convince you, people have anwered your questions if you need to learn more than read books or go to scholars instead of a forum and if you're still not convinced then God help you.

You said you’re here to learn, so you’ll find these videos helpful if you actually hear them inshallah. I don’t usually post the links because most people are hear just to argue and not to learn.

OP has not read an iota of what is already out there for her help in answering the question and comes on internet to ask common people about their religion. Funny isn't it?

No argument can convince anyone one way or other. People do not convert or change their minds with arguments.

Self help and self searching is the best way to learn.

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^well said, I totally agree with that. :k:

I highly appreciate the links you have posted. They indeed turned out to be very helpful in answering many questions I have. However, most of it he mentioned was science and evolution, whether or not he believes in evolution, he IS speaking of evolution in his videos. He talks about nature vs. nurture, mothers are caretakers while men are hunters and gatherers. If that is the only role of the women in this world then how come millions of women are more ambitious than men and how come women in the workforce have been remarkably successful. Roles have been reversed, and I do see how kids suffer from it in the West (though these issues can be resolved) However, where the roles have stayed the same, the only people I see suffering are the women. The truth is we are still evolving, what women were 1400 years ago are not anymore. Just because some women decide to leave their kids at daycare centers does not mean that something is wrong with them. I know I would never leave my kids with somebody else, but that’s my decision to make and fathers should be just as involved. We are not living in the same world, our brains are evolving. If a woman has to work for a living, then the man should take of the kids, why can’t we blame him? Just because he didn’t give birth to the child…Wow, logic..

Sorry, I also see a lot of blaming goind on. It’s like So christians did it, jews did it.. Well, isn’t Islam the ultimate religion? why did it allow the traditions to continue? If Islam were God’s religion, it would have wiped out those traditions from the face of earth. The truth is, it accepted them and only a man could do that unless God did not see any injustice in that and allowed them to continue.

I did like the fact that he admitted that the Sharia was shaped according to the culture at the time, therefore it accepted the continuing of barbaric traditions. He is quick to blame the West for all the wrongness in the world, but fails to acknowledge that any problems in the Muslim world are due to the Islamic rule. You cannot justify 30 honor killings in Jordan with a million of abortions in the west. And any time a question is raised about the treatment of the women in the Muslim world, he starts talking about how it’s even worse in the West, doesn’t make much sense for someone who is out to preach Islam is the true religion.

There are indeed wonderful things about Islam as it goes for any religion. The point is, Islam is supposed to be the true religion here; therefore, blaming religions before it or the West does not help gain credibility. It only goes to show that Islam is just another religion made by man who thought he could change the world.

So then you're not here to have a conversation, are you? Are they gibberish, then how so? The questions are, whether you like it or not, related to your initial queries and claims. Ignore them if you like. Address them. Or question their relevance. All fine. Gibberish? I know otherwise. And do note I didn't dismiss your claims and questions as such. Apologies if I seemed dismissive...

But the fact is, your tone and tenor reflect, even if it is unintentional, an arrogated self importance of demanding we somehow convince you otherwise from a position of holding already held truths. This invites a response that would challenge you to show you have a depth of thought on the issues you've brought to fore.

That is my point. Muslims are busy justifying the balatant injustice. The funny thing is, most Muslims do not practice Sharia, however they justify it. If you have left something that's so wrong in the past, why are you justifying it? You obviously found it wrong therefore you dropped it. Why is it so hard to admit? There are some intelligent folks who realize that though.

Indeed. God needs to send one of his messengers to us again in order to convince people like me. Maybe he did but we sent them to the mental asylum (thanks to rationalism) O well, MUhammad (pbuh) definitely made sure that we understood he was the last Messenger of God.. hmmm... clever, isn't it? Religion or good politics? I don't know which to pick.

Thanks for sharing your valuable thoughts. No comments. :)

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You seem to say Islam should have introduced contemporary values from the outset. that is infeasible given that contemporary values may get outdated in times to come. how do you reconcile your expectation of what Islam should have revealed with the fact that 100 years from now someone could look back at your views and consider them primitive?

a more rational argument to me seems to be that islamic laws tend to hinder the negative aspects of a culture at a given time without (usually) being overly prescriptive. You are not required to have slaves, but if you do you are required to keep them a certain way. You are not required to eat meat, but if you do, you do it a certain way. You are not required to be polygamous, but if you do, you do it a certain way. You are not required to beat your wife, but if you do you do it a certain way. This allows for cultural evolution of values bounded within a religious framework. You could be abiding by the sharia while never owning a slave, never having touched meat, while having practiced monogamy and being completely under your begum's shoe, and while regarding all of these as important cultural values. This is a liberal reading of it ofcourse, there are hardliners who would disagree with me but I believe they're in the minority.

Some of the laws are ofcourse quite controversial, and as you can see I have argued that you have legitimate concerns about them. That does not warrant the conclusions you're drawing though, assuming you wish to be rational.

Ravage, if you bothered to read the reminader of my stance you'd see that I'd already addressed your 'deflation' scenario.

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She did point out other instances of bias. Now again you dont have to have bias in every instance for there to be bias.

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Again, perhaps you missed my opening statement, whereby I said she had me thinking until...

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You present a reductive picture of the argument. the 'systemic unbalance' was merely part of the chain of evidence offered.

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See above. What's the problem with a 'reductive picture'? If the original argument can reduce Islam down to a few items presented in a negative light, with suggestions to look at matters holistically totally ignored, then why is it improper in dissecting a particular line of attack in the argument?

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You call it gender roles they call it inequality. Language is political.

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Neither here nor there. Clearly, there seems to be concern only when inequity involves gender roles, not with inequity in and of itself.

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No reason offered for why thats the case.

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No reason needed, as I was merely trying to assimilate a failed analogy, rather than make some profound point.

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Male and female children vs sons and daughters... distinction without a difference... what is the difference between sons and daughters?

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Distinction without a difference...no. Obviously not. Males are sons only with respect to their parents...i.e. being a son is a relationship not an attribute. Last question is a very good one. Br. Psyah has addressed this, and I concur with what he has written.

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has no impact on the argument when the argument is that women are inferior to men. Not by themselves.

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Women are inferior to men, if one is to suspend disbelief in the claim that economic worth and assignment of wealth is indicative of worth of one's humanity. Major impact on the argument, as the generalization to all women and men is an epic failure.

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this is just a variant of the bias could be worse argument. Yes, the laws dont prescribe that the rich girl's inheritance be taken away and given to poorer men.

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No, it refutes the original claim that this is done to demean or demote women, in general. The rules are much too inconsistent across familial arrangements to support this position. If that were truly a motivating principle behind the goal, it would materialize more uniformly. The negative stance is loosely, and sloppily, projected on inheritance laws, which were no doubt formulated for particular social circumstance, and from a utilitarian perspective given understood social obligations assigned to sons and daughters, respectively.

Yes Ravage, the relvancy of those original social circumstances, the origins/motivations of the responsibilities based on gender (which predate Islam, or seemingly so), and the immutability of the inheritance rules, are GREAT questions to explore at this point. But posing them would be bad form, right?

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It isnt. Its an 'all other things the same why is there disparity based on gender'. a pretty standard form of argument.

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No it's not. It's an "there is a disparity, therefore the intent and effect is necessarily to demean, depower and abuse women" argument.

Note that what you presented is a question in the form of a statement, and it happens to be a damn good question, btw.

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but that doesnt mean you come into every thread and start asking questions.
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a) According to whom?
b) What other threads?

Your take that this is somehow defensive, and a deflection tactic...only if the questions weren't relevant to the point.

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If you think any of those questions are relevant, the decent thing to do is to provide them in the form of arguments.

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No, not always.

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You misread the argument. You said wages were indicative of skill, learning etc, I said they historically have meant more. Power, societal valuation of identity.

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OT, but interesting anyway...yes, there is interplay and it's not one way. Higher wages mean more power, but having power, say political, does not necessarily mean to have higher wages or a greater pool of assets. Weak correlation? Strong? I don't know. Anyhow, I remain unconvinced that social valuation and identity is the same as ascribing worth to one's humanity.

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Worth as a human being foremost. Skillset/ability to perform tasks is more or less comparable these days anyway.

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I think that requires elaboration, as I don't see that as self evident. LOL, are you in HR?

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Its impossible to prove intent.

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Well, no. I mean, it would have been a simple exegesis/commandment to make that women are scum, therefore get only half share of their brothers. Intent would have been crystal clear.

Second, the very nature of the original argument presumes intent, and attempts to provide 'evidence' for it. If it is impossible to prove intent, would that mean the line of questioning is invalid?

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The disparity in and of itself does count as evidence of diminished economic worth at the very least, unless you offer justifications for it as psyah attempted. It is simple really. If you have two children, you're required to give one an economic advantage over the other based on their gender thats straightforward evidence of social devaluation based on gender.

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It's based on the obligations assigned to gender, not the gender alone. It's not straight forward, and that's the point. The presented argument is entirely simplistic.

Nor is the assignment necessarily a statement and enforcement of economic worth, but a recognition of financial burden ascribed to a gender role.

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They arent? What of sadqa, jihad bil maal and so on? After all someone would more money would have more ability to perform those sawab worthy things no?

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Great examples, and certainly good counter examples for the argument as written. But, given the context of the discussion, what I was looking for was an example that shows the division of people into distinct castes based on economic circumstance. In my mind, devaluing one's worth as a human would necessarily mean assigning religious roles and rituals exclusively to a class of people because they are considered inherently superior.

The examples cited don't fit the bill, as they are in fact exemptions because there is a concern for an individual's humanity and welfare, and a stated distinction between human worth and economic worth. A forced separation at an ideological level.

The particular example doesn't fit the overall context of the discussion because being poor is a transient condition. Gender is not.

Slavery was the closest example that came to mind right after posting, but even that is a potentially transient condition. Manumission is regarded as a good thing, indeed possibly a punishment for the more well off.

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It isnt a question of wealth in itself, but the 'systemic unbalance' in access to it. Your argument is that the unbalance doesnt indicate worth. It is a much better argument if you actually say what it does indicate.
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I'm sorry, but the correlation between wealth and (yet to be defined?!) intrinsic self worth has *not *been established.

Person A: Asks a question.

Persons B-H: Answer the question as best as they could.

Person A: No. Not convincing.

Persons H- L: More answers.

Person A: No. You're justifying the wrong things.

Person M: Ok then don't follow islam if its wrong. Live and let live.

Person A: No. I'm here to learn. !

Person N: Answers via videos of scholars.

Person A: No. No. Brings up more issues.

Persons N-T: More arguments. Gone off topic at this stage.

Person A: No. No. No.

Persons T-Z: To be continued...

I think we all know where this is going. Nowhere!

People who bother to take the time out to reply and help her "learn" are accused of justifying the wrong things and people who agree with her are the "intelligent" ones. Well done.

*Sorry, I also see a lot of blaming goind on. It's like So christians did it, jews did it.. Well, isn't Islam the ultimate religion? *

I might be wrong here [and normally I dont like to assume] but its comment like these and other's [which I am not going to quote back] raises a doubt over your sincerity [to actually learn].

You claim, there is lot of blaming going on. Whilst I agree that not a healthy attitude [and won't lead anywhere], but than have you thought for a while that what you have been doing since your post 1 in this section.

There is an old saying 'dont preach what you don't pratice.' Maybe you ought to examine that.

*why did it allow the traditions to continue? If Islam were God's religion, it would have wiped out those traditions from the face of earth. The truth is, it accepted them and only a man could do that unless God did not see any injustice in that and allowed them to continue. *

The truth of the matter is that it didn't. Examine the Quran carefully, and see what it says for yourself.

Just an advice when you are examing it;

keep in mind to consider the original, as I am not aware of any translation in any language that hasn't got mistakes in it.

That's absolutely fascinating Miss Noland.

Yes Off course, Allah swt needs to send another messenger to convince you.

And yes,

As soon as Mr/Ms Messenger shows up at your door, Please do not say.

"Oh no. This messenger isn't good enough" (because it's clear from your responses so far). Then you will start asking if Allah swt could come down and convince you.

Very good.

No wonder Allah swt put an end to this messenger business.

He (swt) knew Miss Noland will be there to beat the intellectual cr@p out of any messenger that may show up at Miss Noland's door sometimes before KhabarNama on PTV.

Even Allah swt could figure out that Miss Noland would bug the messenger and harrass him/her with endless questions until the poor Messenger turns around and confesses to our Miss Noland saying:

---- Yes Miss. Male specie is the most terrible thing created by God

Then only then, Miss Noland will leave this thread and the messenger only to come back and haunt him in his sleep.

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If 'arguments' were so good in changing beliefs of people, Jimmy Swaggart would be muslim by now and Ahmed Deedat would have died a Christian.

Absolutely, 100 years into the future what we know will probably be irrelavent. If we continue to advance at this rate, the world as we know it will indeed be different so will be the views.

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a more rational argument to me seems to be that islamic laws tend to hinder the negative aspects of a culture at a given time without (usually) being overly prescriptive. You are not required to have slaves, but if you do you are required to keep them a certain way. You are not required to eat meat, but if you do, you do it a certain way. You are not required to be polygamous, but if you do, you do it a certain way. You are not required to beat your wife, but if you do you do it a certain way. This allows for cultural evolution of values bounded within a religious framework. You could be abiding by the sharia while never owning a slave, never having touched meat, while having practiced monogamy and being completely under your begum's shoe, and while regarding all of these as important cultural values. This is a liberal reading of it ofcourse, there are hardliners who would disagree with me but I believe they're in the minority.
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Sharia doesn't 'require' you to have slaves, practice polygamy, or beat your wife, that was never the argument. The fact is it was there before Islam came about and it stayed that way. What did Islam change except adding a few restrictions to how you do it?

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Some of the laws are ofcourse quite controversial, and as you can see I have argued that you have legitimate concerns about them. That does not warrant the conclusions you're drawing though, assuming you wish to be rational.
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I appreciate that you recognize the controversial nature of the laws and of course we have different opinions in regards to it.