is there a future for a 25 year old divorced girl?

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hi guyz

just really wanted to know.

Igot married last year 2 a guy iv known for 6 years, to which i found his true colours 2months after marriage.

him carrying on his single life, his abuse, his gaaliyan, his disrespect for me and my family, him and his family taking my wages off me, him treating me like a slave..i put up with it all without any1 knowing a thing, not my mum, dad, sister..no1. i lived 5mins away from my mum n dad who are bothill, before marriage he would say i could go and see them weneva i want, then after marriage i used to see them a couple of hours 1 day a week and he used to be unhappy with that. still, i put up with i. him staying out till late at nyt every nyt with his ‘friends’, everything.

but then when he bgan getting txts and fonecalls at weird times, i actually plukd up the courage to ask him, and because he knew i was getting suspicious and was starting to question things, he spun the whole thing rnd on me n sed shes cheatin on me, threw me out the house at 12.30 at nyt. we went the next day n still i said i would giv him another chance, so we decided to stay seperate for a few days. he was talkin 2me as normal the next morning over txt..ie i love u blah blah, then didnt hear anything from him for the next few days. the day i wz meant 2go bak he sent me a msg sayn wen u kum home, whether uv done nethn or not, accept it wen u kum home, i sed noway..im sorry but thats it i cant put up with ur lies, ur abuse anymore. then when my parents went over, he made himself scarce and his oarents threw my mum n dad out the house. havnt heard anything from him since and its been 2 months. during that time iv found out alof of things about him, that he was cheatin on me, and he tried to turn my best friend against me and everyhing, he began stalking me…

i cant put up with it any longer, and there is no chance of getting back with him now.

but i mean, is there light at the end of the tunnel for a 25 year old divorced girl, i mean will i ever have my own family with a husband who will accept me with all my baggage?

thankgod there are no kids involved, i see that as a blessing from god, coz i would hate for a lilttle child to go through something like this.

need ur advice guyz xxxx

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Re: is there a future for a 25 year old divorced girl?

If you two could not live together and he is cheating and abusing you then why would you spend your whole life with such guy.

Please keep your divorce away from your future life and dont mix thing at this moment.

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Re: is there a future for a 25 year old divorced girl?

Its amazing that guys do not take responsibilities that come with great maturity - once they are married. Your hubby's attitude is extremely immature and if you are going forward with separating from him then I say - more power to you.

Also, I am sure you are worried about your future, but first take care of your present. Get rid of him, go back to your mom and dad and just try to calm down. Things will be highly emotional for at least a year, once you finish this off, whther it was your fault or not - and you have to be ready to develop the mental toughness of going through this down journey.

Inshallah you will have a great future, Fortunately our society is getting out of this taboo of only marrying unmarried girls, and I have seen many divorcee living a very happy life with their new families.

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Re: is there a future for a 25 year old divorced girl?

desirekills your post got harder and harder to read the further down I went. Not becuase it was sad, but because of your lack of basic grammar; almost gave me a brain aneurysm.

But on a serious note, divorce seems to be rampant in most Pakistani marriages now. Almost half the couples I’ve seen get married end up with a divorce. I think it might be pressure to get married asap, but a hurried relationship for kids who grew up in western society can end up broken very easily. People need to be given more time to get to know one another and allow trust to be built.

But don’t worry, you’ll always have a chance to get married again and have a family. Men aren’t as judgmental as women might think, I wouldn’t have a problem marrying a divorcee. Keep your head up, keep praying, and everything will turn out for the best. As for the dick :disgust: who did this to you, he’ll get his sooner or later, its only a matter of time.

I’ll pray for the best :blush: ,

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Re: is there a future for a 25 year old divorced girl?

its not grammar, she was using Txting lingo. That is ok

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Re: is there a future for a 25 year old divorced girl?

Thats exactly what I have done, I am back with my parents and just trying to keep them happy as much as possible, they have seen enough as it is because of me, the least I can do is now try and keep them as happy as I possibly can.

Inshallah TLK, thankyou soo much xxx

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Re: is there a future for a 25 year old divorced girl?

Oh there is future but it doesn't look so good. Sorry for the bad news.

With men on short supply, you gonna have to do some hunting, lady.

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Re: is there a future for a 25 year old divorced girl?

Of course there is light at the end of the tunnel for everyone who is willing to walk through the tunnel to get to the light.

There are many guys out there who wouldn't mind marrying a divorced woman, it really isn't that big a deal anymore. And anyways, would you rather stay in this relationship with this control freak of a husband? I don't think so, so it's best to leave sooner rather than later.

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Re: is there a future for a 25 year old divorced girl?

If a man is a good man (whether short supply or not) he will marry a girl for her qualities and not the fact that she was previously married or not. If he is not a good man then he is not worth marrying anyways.

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Re: is there a future for a 25 year old divorced girl?

You have your whole life in front you, your future isn't going anywhere just because you get divorced

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Re: is there a future for a 25 year old divorced girl?

Or you could marry man who is already married, if his other wife is happy then you'll know he'll keep you happy too.

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Re: is there a future for a 25 year old divorced girl?

Iknow i am sooooooo sorry, Im so used to txt lingo I didnt even realise I started to type like that. I am going to make sure I write properly now lol.

The marriage was quite rushed because him and his family wanted the marriage to happen asap, I suppose they needed a cash card and a slave as soon as they could get 1, but I tried my hardest to put up with it all without letting on to any1 about what was happening, but there is a limit.

Thankyou sooooooooooooo much for your words of encouragement, it really does help. More than my happiness now, I just want to make sure that my parents stay happy.

Thankyou soo much x

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Re: is there a future for a 25 year old divorced girl?

Of course....

I was referring to men population going down, even more so with world war 3 approaching, its going to be a tough world being a single divorced woman.

But there is there is hope for everyone so don't lose hope. :D

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Re: is there a future for a 25 year old divorced girl?

You have great future. If you can standup to that guy , you have the courage to face life. Courage is all you need for a bright future.
You made the right choice. May Allah be your savior and make things easy for you. Ameen.

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Re: is there a future for a 25 year old divorced girl?

You are young and hopefully sensible. InshAllah there is a bright future ahead of you. I know many women who had a fresh start and happy fulfilled lives after their divorces.

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Re: is there a future for a 25 year old divorced girl?

I never ever thought i would have to ever consider something like this in my life, I suppose I was jus unlucky or very very stupid. I know, I put up with it as much as possible but then when he had the nerve to then turn the whole thing round on to me becase he got scared of getting caught, it just really showed how low he could go. I mean, he even draged my dead brother and sisters into it, he would alos threaten me with telling my dad things because he was a heart patient, how could someone stoop so low??

Thankyou so much for your words though xxx

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Re: is there a future for a 25 year old divorced girl?

Thankyo soo much xx

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Re: is there a future for a 25 year old divorced girl?

Thankyou xx

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Re: is there a future for a 25 year old divorced girl?

Inshallah. I just hope your right xxx

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Re: is there a future for a 25 year old divorced girl?

InshaAllah, you will find better husband.