Re: Is smacking children an effective form of discipline?
I will try very hard not to comment. And trust me she wont smack the kids. 
ohhh maddys thinking of kids. * running out of the thread *
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LMAO!!! Medic and kids. Allah help us if they have his feet. :D
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With my feet, they would be incredibly cute 
MQ ā¦ I was just talking about babies with her 
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Well I hope they get their feet from their mothers side. You were talking abut kids with her? OMG. Moving a little fast arent you? I told you theres only one thing left to sign!
- with lots of love, oops I mean prayers your aunty.
Re: Is smacking children an effective form of discipline?
if it's one's own kid.. i say do whatever u want.. afterall you're the one who'd have to put up with that pesky little rodent.... not some panzy who did controlled studies and found it screws with their mind.. who cares! with you as their parent, they'd be fked up when they grow up anyway..
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Yes if they r yours..
j/k.. i dont know i dtn have any, but it would be my last resort.
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I depends on the circumstances and the age of the child
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Beat em up, beat em up. Kick their asses to hell and back. One should pick on weaklings and others that cant fend for themselves. While at it beat your wives too.
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In addition to this:
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It depends on the circumstances
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also the way it is done!
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Ditto what Gizzy said.
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A lil tap in the hand is okay...I use that on adults too.
But I wouldn't promote it simply because it becomes a hbait for the adult, and they tend to over use it, especially when they'e stressed out, it becomes a "venting" thing then. And I;ve never seen a parent apologise to a kid,
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I think it's wrong to smack your child, coz it doesn't work a child will be
more stuborn if you smack beat ur child. But its also that a child can be
very enoying that you get angry and give your child a smack. But beat ur child blue thats wrong!
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OK
I was beaten black and blue as a child and when I had kids I swore I would never touch a hair on their head.
For the first 4 or so years I did the timeout chair, a minute for each year - courtesy of Dr. Spock.
Then, a breakthrough, my son was 6 and my daughter was five. I was holding hands and I let go of my daughters hand while we were walking down the street because my son grabbed something off a vendor's table. She ran to a busy intersection corner, I yelled at her to stop, wait right there. She turned around, smiled at me very prettily and stepped 3 steps into the street and was almost mowed down by a car turning the corner. She stood there looking at me, smiling as I ran to her and grabbed her and promptly smacked her twice on the butt. I told her never never never do that again, called her a bad girl. She cried, but I can't remember a time when she ran into the street after that.
The way I look at it is, I would rather have her hating me for the rest of my life for swatting her butt that time, than dead because she likes watching mommy run after her.
I think circumstances determine whether a child gets a swat. Beating is a different story.
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Minah, a similar thing happened to me when I was little. I jumped out of the car, into the busy street and was running between the cars and then just stood in the middle of the intersection. Why? Cause I wanted to follow my dad into the butcher's shop. He ran onto the street, grabbed me and gave me a good smack, which I deserved. I was about 4 or 5 at the time .... but I never did it again. It's not like I was alone in the car. I was with my mother and siblings but I was too quick for them.
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Smacking is not an effective form of discipline, any form of discipline when used repeatedly starts losing it's effectiveness. In the end one can't blindly say they will never use it..nobody knows what situation one can go through as a parent..
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I was smacked and beat up loads as a child. Smacking mum did when we were naughty..i say "we" but i really mean my sisters, beating my dad did when we told lies and didnt read namaz and stuff.
I personally, would never beat or smack a child. I dont know if i would my own children, we'l have to wait for that.
i do think there are loads of other ways to discipline a child though. Most of the time one look from my mum would say it all, we were more afraid of getting "the look" than we were of getting smakced.
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Zakk - I agree and my kids are now 17 and 15 and I can now count on one hand the amount of times I smacked them. It should not be done repeatedly at all.
Once I slapped my son across the face at 16 for calling me a name you use on street women because I wouldn't let him use the car, the only time I ever hit one anywhere but the butt.
Like I said circumstances.
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Slightly off topic but may I ask who do you blame for your sonās behaviorā¦Culture, him or your training?
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None of the above hon, he was a teenager. Who can say as a teen they did everything perfectly? Doesn't mean I should allow disrespect to that degree.
Let me say once again - I can count the number of times I swatted both of my children on one hand during their lives. That is why it is so easy to recall.
You do the math.
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Even though I'm not a parent, I've been around kids since I have several young cousins, and I gotta say that I can never see a smacking as being useful. I think kids are very easy to convince.. its like dough you can mould into any shape really. Ofcourse they all have their specific traits like one may be more stubborn than the other, but any reasonable adult should be able to deal with that instead of giving them a smacking.
Also, more often than not, I think the smacking does not come as a way to help the child understand, rather it basically is a result of frustration with the child. I also happen to agree with: Circumstances that lead to a smacking generally result from bad parenting to begin with.
Ofcourse, slightly hitting the hand if they're touching anything dangerous or whatever isn't really beating.