Re: Is it wrong
Though I would like to be in on the trick and treating I do agree with blacklisted prince here. That is exactly how bidats come into existence. Over time and through miscommunication, misrepresentation and losing the true meaning of things. The story I read in Islamic history about how worshipping pictures and idols came into place was truly eye opening.
It went something like this… In ancient times there was a good town with religious ppl who followed Islam well. Then one of the men who was deemed as a very good example of following the true path passed away. Satan saw this as an opportunity and (as a traveller through that town) asked them that u ppl are so sad about losing such a good person in ur community, don’t u think that if I were to make a statue of him to commemorate him and place it in the towns center passerbys would look at it, remember him and his work and remember to do good deeds. They thought it was a good idea and let him build the statue.
So now this generation knew that religious leader so to some extent they might be following it. Their kids saw them stand by the statue and sort of look up to it. Now after 2 generations had passed, they lost the essence of the statue and overtime it just became something try prayed to and worshipped instead of what it had initially been. This generation of followers had probably heard very diluted stories if any, of the original religious person. And this is true. This is exactly whats happened with daata darbaar in Lahore and the gyaarween ka khatum stuff. I have no idea who they did it for but my mom used to make zarda too and distribute amongst neighbours. It was never unkay naam ka khatum or something, still regular food Allah k naam ka, but still linked to whatever gyaarween was (and I still have no idea what it was). I never understood it so wouldn’t have followed it but I’m glad she realized it was biddah alon with other Biddahs too and she stopped all of them all together. I remember a friend of mine asking me once (his mom used to go to the milaad and Quran khaain gatherings that my mom went to, she continued and my mom didn’t) “Yaar suna hae tumhari ammi Aur Khala wahabi ho gai Haen”, like it was a negative thing. And I was like sarcastically haan ho gai Haen.
On a seperate note, my mom had been so preconditioned to hearing that Wahhabis are bad/crazy/extreme, that though she was generally following what they follow, she didn’t and still doesn’t label herself wahabi. She’s apparently just a reformed Sunni following Quran and Hadith plain and simple. Although outsiders e.g regular Pakistani Sunnis would call her wahabi. Lol labels …fun isn’t it.