Re: Is it okay to have an affair if your spouse doesnt make you happy?
I’m going to be a bit blunt here so please forgive me in advance.
You cheating on your husband (whether you call it cheating or not, because thats what it is) would be disrupting your children’s life. Why? just like another poster said here that if you’r children were to find our you were cheating on your husband, what would they think of you? How would you expect them to listen to you and believe what you say when you yourself are doing something totally wrong? It’s common sense really.
Have you thought of what could if your husband found out? Don’t you think it’s not worth the trouble?
Just get a divorce. Your fear of being alone after divorce is plain stupid because if you decide to cheat on your husband and someone finds out, the result of your action is going to be farrrrrrrrrrrrr worse than anything. Loneliness isn’t going to the only thing you’ll have to deal with then.
Your children will lose your trust. Your family will lose your trust.
You have a legitimate reason to ask for a divorce if what you say is true. It is better that you get out of this marriage than hurt yourself and your children by making a stupid decision.
and just a side note to what you said about not having a non-religious perspective on this, well, even in today’s society this wouldn’t be looked good upon. I don’t think you realize how different gossiping and backbiting is compared to cheating. There’s a huuuuge difference in the punishment and severity of sins. However since you don’t seem to care, I won’t go further.