no actually this is called keera! (the inscet|
it lives in every person, when a person see some thing beautiful, they want to look at it up close, they want to feel. This keera can also be called curiosity. Its not only with opposite sex. Person(humans) get attracted to many things and they follow the same phenomena, they try to get a close look and learn abt the that thing. eg u see a movie ad or preview, if u find it intresting you want to learn more abt it, u go and watch that movie. That keera inside makes u do it. You want to know what happened in that movie. Human! they want to know, they are in a constant search. lets not go in to human philosphy and rather stick to the topic.
So, incase of opposite sex, when a personfeel attracted to the other its not love, its just a keera.
1. Most of the times they get up close learn more about each other and find out more things related to that person and they realize that they dont feel attracted to those new thing that they have learned abt the the other person.
i ll take a break here lol
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well well well, i m so happy to be at place where i can warn up my philosopher mind. I m glad to see so many ppl with minds who actually do the thinking not just about material and money, but the emotions.
no actually this is called keera! (the inscet|
it lives in every person, when a person see some thing beautiful, they want to look at it up close, they want to feel. This keera can also be called curiosity. Its not only with opposite sex. Person(humans) get attracted to many things and they follow the same phenomena, they try to get a close look and learn abt the that thing. eg u see a movie ad or preview, if u find it intresting you want to learn more abt it, u go and watch that movie. That keera inside makes u do it. You want to know what happened in that movie. Human! they want to know, they are in a constant search. lets not go in to human philosphy and rather stick to the topic.
So, incase of opposite sex, when a personfeel attracted to the other its not love, its just a keera.
1. Most of the times they get up close learn more about each other and find out more things related to that person and they realize that they dont feel attracted to those new thing that they have learned abt the the other person.
i ll take a break here lol
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well well well, i m so happy to be at place where i can warn up my philosopher mind. I m glad to see so many ppl with minds who actually do the thinking not just about material and money, but the emotions.
And what you describe is a function of testosterone (male sex hormone). Its natural to feel attracted to somone of opposite sex and Islam does not deny that.
no actually this is called keera! (the inscet|
it lives in every person, when a person see some thing beautiful, they want to look at it up close, they want to feel. This keera can also be called curiosity. Its not only with opposite sex. Person(humans) get attracted to many things and they follow the same phenomena, they try to get a close look and learn abt the that thing. eg u see a movie ad or preview, if u find it intresting you want to learn more abt it, u go and watch that movie. That keera inside makes u do it. You want to know what happened in that movie. Human! they want to know, they are in a constant search. lets not go in to human philosphy and rather stick to the topic.
So, incase of opposite sex, when a personfeel attracted to the other its not love, its just a keera.
1. Most of the times they get up close learn more about each other and find out more things related to that person and they realize that they dont feel attracted to those new thing that they have learned abt the the other person.
i ll take a break here lol
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well well well, i m so happy to be at place where i can warn up my philosopher mind. I m glad to see so many ppl with minds who actually do the thinking not just about material and money, but the emotions.
friend ...you got it wrong .....it was not the case....:)
and i am not a man of money and material.....if i had such person..i would have run from Pakistan..and busy in slavery and licking the white Masters feet .....counting when will my company will cross 1M $ !!!!! :)
I send 1001 LANATS on such money...where i have to do slavery ..be a 3rd class citizen....have to hear racial remarks...and filthy comments....
take a sigh buddy and dont jump to conclusions so quickly....
When you live in a segregated society and then feel an attraction to someone of the opposite sex that is not love, its simply attraction. But that is a very nice starting place for love to begin, yeah? I mean heck that goes for even western culture where there is no segregation....its just a good place to start. Is it love? definitely not. Love *takes SO much more dedication, more cooperation, more knowledge of each other's wants needs and desires and the ability to compromise so that each gets what each needs and wants to the greatest extent possible. That takes a much greater and much more intimate knowledge of the other kwim? *
sorry Mama...its not allowed in islam...simple....:)
you cannot even have a second glance on a girl.....i am not saying that i am very good muslim...but what islam has forbidden for us ..it is forbidden..we like it or not...lthe compuslsion remains compulsion.....:)
secondly.....i call it ...." black mark" on the name of love ....when both try to compromise...want to know needs and desires..its means ..thats not love..thats the calculator running in your brains..calculating...the pluses and minuses of your future life.....love is above every comprimise...every ...profits and loss...and every this and that....
love means ..you have to "sacrifice for other"...if not..then its not love its something other.....:)
i call it "modern dramas" in the name of love going along some *cozy palce of a nice restaurant *...where ...boy and girl planning thier future live set up.....
girl with a smile.....how old your mother ( so that when she will eventually leave this world !!!!!)
boy with a smile....how your dad's business is going on( so that abba jee"" may give the new Cultus 2006 model in dowry ...jahaiz to her daughter)
girl with sweet smile....how many sisters you have...(as she wanted to ask all are marrried or still anyone left... so that i will be all in all in new house....)
girl.....you know...its so nice if we have a seperate house..as now ..there is no trend of joint family system....
i call it a shameless cheapness ..in the name of "love" !!!!!!!
friend ...you got it wrong .....it was not the case....:)
and i am not a man of money and material.....if i had such person..i would have run from Pakistan..and busy in slavery and licking the white Masers feet .....counting how mwhen will my company will cross 1M $ !!!!! :)
I send 1001 LANATS on such money...where i have to do slavery ..be a 3rd class citizen....have to hear racial remarks...and filthy comments....
take a sigh buddy and dont jump to conclusions so quickly....
And what you describe is a function of testosterone (male sex hormone). Its natural to feel attracted to somone of opposite sex and Islam does not deny that.
I wud recomend that you go talk to the girl.
arai yaar...its not ay kind of attraction.....or some sort of childish...thing...:)
we all are attracted towards opposite sex...beautiful things..but its lasts for a momnet...an hour and that all....all finish..then new beautyful thing comes and again it happens...
every girl and boy has temptation towards the oppiste gender...by nature and thats why our religion has ordered us to marry...as soon as possible..once you reach the puberty.....
May be you will be surprised to know that...for 4 years ...we were in the same class....sometimes ...working in labs ..or sitting in class...the difference was not more than 2 feet ....or even less...but in whole 4 years...she never directly look at my face ..and i never dared to look at her face .....
her reluctance was shyness...and haya ..the most presious asset of any girl...and my reluctance was ...was due to her honour..respect..and her shyness....which never allowed me to look into her eyes...even for a once !!!!!!
Its not of beauty attraction...no doubt she is very beautiful.....but some things are beyond such physical attributes....you will find abudundant beauty at TV ..films ...at film studios...but ..its last for few seconds....when scene is over...the heart also switched its colour !!!
and I hate those girls ..... the ultra hi fi..mod scod girls do.....dressed in jeans and** tight shirts and high neck ..exposing thier curves .....by so called modernism....talking shamelssly... looking directly into the eyes ...of a man.....and planning ..that ...how they will spend thier first night of wedding **" Suhaag Raat"...or where they will go for honey moon trip ......
girl is name of shame.....
girl is a name of haya....
girl is a name of drooping eyes....
girl is a name of cheeks becoming pink....
girl is a name of womanish ego....
girl is a name of reluctnace.....
and no matter...how much a man ..become modern ...free mind...enlightened.....he will look for a girl with above mentiod characteristics....for "time pass"...of 2 or 3 months...he may ...took a girl on his Honda 125 to Macdonalds..KFC...or Pizza Hut..but for time pass....for life partner....he will not even look at such girls......
May be she will ever be my life partner in future or not..only Allah Ta'la knows better....but i will consider myself the most fortunate man...to have such priceless pearl...in my life....who not even looks at me...not dare to talk with me...but her cheeks become pink ..with haya..and shame......Her honour...her dignity...her respect...are the most important things for me.....and i will never let her ego down....her womanish reluctance ...is the essence of beauty...make ups..and shameless talks of late night hours on cell phones......are nothing in front of her quietness....her dignity...her ego.... her honour........her reluctance !!!!
sorry Mama...its not allowed in islam...simple....:)
you cannot even have a second glance on a girl.....i am not saying that i am very good muslim...but what islam has forbidden for us ..it is forbidden..we like it or not...lthe compuslsion remains compulsion.....:)
secondly.....i call it ...." black mark" on the name of love ....when both try to compromise...want to know needs and desires..its means ..thats not love..thats the calculator running in your brains..calculating...the pluses and minuses of your future life.....love is above every comprimise...every ...profits and loss...and every this and that....
love means ..you have to "sacrifice for other"...if not..then its not love its something other.....:)
DL, it most certainly IS allowed in Islaam its called marriage.
Attraction is a nice place to begin a marriage.
You too quickly judge and assume.
You also dont understand the concept of compromise. Compromise is a form of sacrifice.
An silly example but to illustrate the point: your beloved wife wants to go see her mother on her mothers birthday. But it also happens to fall on the same day as YOUR mother's birthday so you want to see yours. One will sacrifice a visit to a beloved parent OR you will both compromise and have shorter visits with both mothers.
this compromise is post marriage....which is best....
the compromises of pre marriages ..are nothing...
PS: I will take her "**first" **to her Mother house.....then i will bring her back to own home....if ever this scenario will take place...:) .....for me....her happiness...and her choice will have superiority over mine choice...:)
Divine: you know what, you should tell her to join Gupshup. Say it is a great networking site for pakistani girls and boys. she will not only thank you for mentioning such a great site, but will get to know your views and personality. it may further the potential.
this compromise is post marriage....which is best....
the compromises of pre marriages ..are nothing...
PS: I will take her "**first" **to her Mother house.....then i will bring her back to own home....if ever this scenario will take place...:) .....for me....her happiness...and her choice will have superiority over mine choice...:)
Nice. And what about your mother's happiness? What if she rejects the girl, or refuses on whatsoever grounds?
can love be created in hearts by Allah almighty for each other naturally....
typically in Pakistani society ...
where at the most...no dates....cheapness....not such mixing...even not talking in the co education at university level....very few "brave" students talk to each other...at the most...about notes..lectures...but still...they avoid that..specailly girls...
in this scenario..if someone undergo some good feelings for the other..is this love ....
plz...share your views....
i used to think that too but actually, that doesnt happen anymore. now adays peeps are pretty advance and 'brave'. girls confidently talk to guys and in some cases, i heard, have even asked guys out...
and yes, yet there are girls that avoid communicating with guys (in uni./college) but nt too many.
every girl and boy has temptation towards the oppiste gender...by nature and thats why our religion has ordered us to marry...as soon as possible..once you reach the puberty.....
Have you reach this age? Then, are you married yet? If not married then speak to your parents about her and get married quickly and stop wasting time with this thread.
i cannot dare to say all that to her....i cannot expose my views so openly to her...she is so shy ...and i cannot dare to talk on such issues with her...:(
I will try my level best to convince my mother...and i am sure...she will not go against her dear son...:)
talking is not such forbidden...but haya is in eyes..if you talk to a guy...its easily depictable...how ...positive..sensible...and respectable you are while talking to opposite one....yet in pakistan..many girls...avoid...communicationg..or atlest ...have sense of haya..and womanish ego.....and "brave girls" who do such hanky panky...they are not brave...they are not "girls".....!!!
i cannot dare to say all that to her....i cannot expose my views so openly to her...she is so shy ...and i cannot dare to talk on such issues with her...:(