Is hitting ur wife allowed in Islam

[Reha]

Sister jis kay saath beetti hai wo bohat si baton ko bhi madd e nazar rakhti hai ya rakhna parta hai ya family rakhwati hai.

Jub tuk kisi kay saath wo sub kuch beeta na ho ya daikha na ho wo naheen samajh sakta saray situation ko.

Sahi baat hai...lekin apko kaise maalum ke jisse aap baat karrahe hein uska experience kya hai?

Jispe beet ti hai, vo hi bata sakta hai ke aisi jaga se nikalna kitna mushkil aur kitna zaroori hai.

[Mabrook]

@X2

thats why I said outsource it.
i say if a dude hits the wife she should call the cops and he will get a beatdown in the slammer, khud hi sudhay jaye ga.

in the discussion of churri and kharobooza we forget that there are other forces greater than those two.

but then we have this taboo in desi community about calling police, like a jacque arse hitting is wife is kosher but her calling teh cops is bad bad :nono:

calling police is good if u wanna leave the guy otherwise its "aa baail mujhay maar"there were some cases where wife called police teling the guy abuses her n kids.So the social services got involved automatically.now they got separated but ppl keeping patching them up.they kept fighting.social service finally took all their kids away saying its unhealthy for them in such an enviroment

[Gr8Heera]

Sahi baat hai...lekin apko kaise maalum ke jisse aap baat karrahe hein uska experience kya hai?

Jispe beet ti hai, vo hi bata sakta hai ke aisi jaga se nikalna kitna mushkil aur kitna zaroori hai.

Bilkul waisay hi jis tarha aap jaanti ho aur sub jantay hain unki post say. Kioon aap ki unkay ghar kay bahar jaa kar unki dewaron say kaan laga kar sun kar aa kar post karteen hain.

Bilkul Janaab. Baja farmaya aap nain.

[shoponline4kaprey]

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I love the comment "using common sense is not in Haram" Seriously people. Do you think the person you promised to love and live with and raise children with for the rest of your life, should be hit like they are some enemy combatant I mean **** is it halal to water board your wife put her solitary etc etc! Seriously just use common sense, its probably not healthy for you to hit your wife or anyone else for that matter. If you are in a relationship where you feel the need to hit your partner, get some counseling and you obviosly are not happy with that woman, so leave her be so she can find her way. Ladies if you are in such a relationship and don't like being hit, leave the guy clearly the two of you are not suited to live together and raise a family in a civil manner.

[Gr8Heera]

@X2

thats why I said outsource it.
i say if a dude hits the wife she should call the cops and he will get a beatdown in the slammer, khud hi sudhay jaye ga.

in the discussion of churri and kharobooza we forget that there are other forces greater than those two.

but then we have this taboo in desi community about calling police, like a jacque arse hitting is wife is kosher but her calling teh cops is bad bad :nono:

Cops don’t beat them. I’m like thukai karnay walon ki thukai bhi honi chahyay.

[Reha]

Bilkul waisay hi jis tarha aap jaanti ho aur sub jantay hain unki post say. Kioon aap ki unkay ghar kay bahar jaa kar unki dewaron say kaan laga kar sun kar aa kar post karteen hain.

Bilkul Janaab. Baja farmaya aap nain.

Heera, apko samjhate samjhate mere baal safaid hojayenge.

Mera post ghaur se phir parhein.

[X2]

Cops don't beat them. I'm like thukai karnay walon ki thukai bhi honi chahyay.

yeah cops dont beat them, they just handle them in a little rough manner.
its more how the other people in teh jail treat these pappus

[X2]

calling police is good if u wanna leave the guy otherwise its "aa baail mujhay maar"there were some cases where wife called police teling the guy abuses her n kids.So the social services got involved automatically.now they got separated but ppl keeping patching them up.they kept fighting.social service finally took all their kids away saying its unhealthy for them in such an enviroment

well its no socil services that made it an unhealthy environment, any environment where the husband is hitting the wife or vice versa is an unhealthy environment.

calling the shurtas was not the issue, teh dynamics of this marriage were the issues.

obviously i suppose our culture prefers the second option where the wife gets beaten and takes it, or goes to her maika, husband brings her back, some peace and quiet and it happens again. marvelous place for kids to grow up.

[Bonbonniere]

Re: Is hitting ur wife allowed in Islam

^ Yup! Ive heard horror stories on that bit!

[Mabrook]

I love the comment "using common sense is not in Haram" Seriously people. Do you think the person you promised to love and live with and raise children with for the rest of your life, should be hit like they are some enemy combatant I mean **** is it halal to water board your wife put her solitary etc etc! Seriously just use common sense, its probably not healthy for you to hit your wife or anyone else for that matter. If you are in a relationship where you feel the need to hit your partner, get some counseling and you obviosly are not happy with that woman, so leave her be so she can find her way. Ladies if you are in such a relationship and don't like being hit, leave the guy clearly the two of you are not suited to live together and raise a family in a civil manner.

So i assume u r married n if u ever get caught in such a situation(Godforbid)u'll leave ur partner right away?If u r not married then u can say it very easily but if u r married,living with ur partner n esp hav kids then u cannot hav any idea how hard it can b.e.g refer to notorious posts.Hav u ever thought y so many ladies keep living in such relationships.is it cause they hav no common sense?No dear its cause its no petty thing to pack ur bag leave n say ok tata bye bye.its not hollywood celebs we r talking abt but real ppl.

[kali_billi]

yeah cops dont beat them, they just handle them in a little rough manner. its more how the other people in teh jail treat these pappus

LOL

[X2]

LOL

u are laughing? :D

its true..when manzoor bhai, king of the castle wife beater..khandan kay ghuseelay bhai, feared behnoi, bhaijan/uncle show up in jail and see Juan, Bubba and slick-G ready to make them their brown plaything..then they become very shareed very quick.

[Bonbonniere]

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^ Ohmigosh, ew. Btw, its me PSquared.

[musicmaniac]

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so if the wife doesn't want to have sex and the hubby wants her to, does she get the beating for that too? *rolleyes*

[Gr8Heera]

calling police is good if u wanna leave the guy otherwise its "aa baail mujhay maar"there were some cases where wife called police teling the guy abuses her n kids.So the social services got involved automatically.now they got separated but ppl keeping patching them up.they kept fighting.social service finally took all their kids away saying its unhealthy for them in such an enviroment

Agree

Heera, apko samjhate samjhate mere baal safaid hojayenge.

Mera post ghaur se phir parhein.

To kai ko dimagh apna khapti ray.

Ji baja farmaya aap nain. Bohat zabardast baat ki aap nain. Main to bohat bara fan hoon aap ka.

yeah cops dont beat them, they just handle them in a little rough manner. its more how the other people in teh jail treat these pappus

Maza to jub hai jub sahi say unki thukai ho. Kabhi koi kahani suni naheen koi suna day to khushi ho kay shair ko sawa sair bhi mila.

@X2

well its no socil services that made it an unhealthy environment, any environment where the husband is hitting the wife or vice versa is an unhealthy environment.

calling the shurtas was not the issue, teh dynamics of this marriage were the issues.

obviously i suppose our culture prefers the second option where the wife gets beaten and takes it, or goes to her maika, husband brings her back, some peace and quiet and it happens again. marvelous place for kids to grow up.

I like the way you say the things.

Per buchchon aur aurat ka kia qusoor agar husband ki wajah say sub kuch ho aur wo behka kar buchchon ko rakh dain kay maan ko bhi apnay buchchon ko sambhalna aur samjhana mushkil ho jaay.

So i assume u r married n if u ever get caught in such a situation(Godforbid)u'll leave ur partner right away?If u r not married then u can say it very easily but if u r married,living with ur partner n esp hav kids then u cannot hav any idea how hard it can b.e.g refer to notorious posts.Hav u ever thought y so many ladies keep living in such relationships.is it cause they hav no common sense?No dear its cause its no petty thing to pack ur bag leave n say ok tata bye bye.its not hollywood celebs we r talking abt but real ppl.

Agree. I understand everything what you said. As I have seen situations like that.

[Mabrook]

so if the wife doesn't want to have sex and the hubby wants her to, does she get the beating for that too? *rolleyes*

if shes all the time no not today she might not get the beating but def a sautan ;)

[X2]

I like the way you say the things.

Per buchchon aur aurat ka kia qusoor agar husband ki wajah say sub kuch ho aur wo behka kar buchchon ko rakh dain kay maan ko bhi apnay buchchon ko sambhalna aur samjhana mushkil ho jaay..

bacchay deserve a sane place to live in, and yes they dont deserve to be plucked away from their parents but then parents should make the right choices too.

people who like to get in the middle and solve issues dont do it right always and force two incomaptible people to live together where the abused woman has to make a choice of keeping her family together even if it mean she ceases to exist who she is and becomes some autamaton that her husband wants her to be..or she has a choice of calling cops again and goign through the same episode.

and yes if authorities see that a coupel keeps getting together an is unable to solve their differences or part ways they will steo in for kids welfare.

then the wellwishers who kept pushing the two back into that failed marriage dont step up...

[X2]

So i assume u r married n if u ever get caught in such a situation(Godforbid)u'll leave ur partner right away?If u r not married then u can say it very easily but if u r married,living with ur partner n esp hav kids then u cannot hav any idea how hard it can b.e.g refer to notorious posts.Hav u ever thought y so many ladies keep living in such relationships.is it cause they hav no common sense?No dear its cause its no petty thing to pack ur bag leave n say ok tata bye bye.its not hollywood celebs we r talking abt but real ppl.

no, they dont leave primarily due to 2 reasons

1) first and foremost teh cultural taboo, and the shame it brings to themselves, their families and to their kids
2) many women are not independent and cant make it on their own

[kali_billi]

@X2

u are laughing?

its true..when manzoor bhai, king of the castle wife beater..khandan kay ghuseelay bhai, feared behnoi, bhaijan/uncle show up in jail and see Juan, Bubba and slick-G ready to make them their brown plaything..then they become very shareed very quick.

tobah hai!

but they deserve it. i believe thats where these “so called men” belong

[Gr8Heera]

bacchay deserve a sane place to live in, and yes they dont deserve to be plucked away from their parents but then parents should make the right choices too.

people who like to get in the middle and solve issues dont do it right always and force two incomaptible people to live together where the abused woman has to make a choice of keeping her family together even if it mean she ceases to exist who she is and becomes some autamaton that her husband wants her to be..or she has a choice of calling cops again and goign through the same episode.

and yes if authorities see that a coupel keeps getting together an is unable to solve their differences or part ways they will steo in for kids welfare.

then the wellwishers who kept pushing the two back into that failed marriage dont step up...

I totally agree with you X2.

Think about the lady and the kids must be so frustrating and painfull.

Allah sub kay saath achcha karay.