Some guys feel nothing wrong abt it.instead they think its their shrayee right.n wat should a wife do in such a situation leave or stay for society’s sake.
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A husband is allowed to hit his wife only in cases where everything else failed...like talking, yelling, reasoning out, etc.. usually it is to be used as a last resort if there is repeated character flaws or something really really not nice.
If someone abuses their wife for petty issues, I don't think it's considered appropriate.
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A real Men should never raise his hands on a "female" be it wife, sister, or whatever! However if the situation is worse and as Niksik said above everything else fails like, negotiation, yelling etc than i guess a hubby would be left with no other option but to hit her!
But if its a petty issue than only a coward would hit his wife.....
Hadith:
“From among the believers are those who have the kindest disposition and are the kindest to their families- such are those who show the most perfect faith. “The best among them are those who are kindest to their wives.” **[Bukhari and Muslim]
**Bukhari records on the authority of 'A’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her, that the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “'A’ishah, Allah is gentle and loves gentleness in all matters.”
Muslim also records the hadith with the wording, “'A’ishah, Allah is gentle and loves gentleness in all matters. He gives in return for gentleness what He does not give in return for harshness, or for anything else.”
Below is a link to an article about wife-beating in Islam:
Articles and FAQs about Islam, Muslims, Allah, Muhammad (pbuh), Quran, Hadith, Woman, Fiqh and Fatwa.
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this is an excellent read
4:34. ‘Men are in charge of (or overseers of - qawwamuna) women, as Allah has given them more (strength) than the other (sometimes translated as made them superior to the other), and because they spend of their wealth (to provide for them). Therefore women who are virtuous are obedient to God, and guard in (the husband’s) absence what God would have them guard. As for those women on whose part you fear rebellion (nushuz), admonish them and banish them to beds apart, (and last) beat (adribu) them. Then, if they obey you, seek not a way against them. For God is Most High, Great (above you all).
Adribu (Arabic root – daraba)
*The word translated as slap/hit/beat derives from the Arabic root daraba. In fact, daraba can be translated in over a hundred different ways, including to separate, to part, to set out (on the road), to shroud (in darkness), to mint (a coin), to publish (a book), to cover (as in ladies’ dress), to dispatch, to throw, to raise, and many more - and translators of the Qur’an and commentators on it have always had trouble with this word. *
*The notion that daraba means ‘to strike’ in 4.34 is really founded upon two debatable grounds – that the hadiths Abu Dawud 2141 and Mishkat al-Masabih 0276 used it in this way, and that it was the prejudice and environment of the early commentators on the Qur’an that led them to assume that the meaning ‘to strike’ was the most likely of all the possible interpretations. *
*As it happens, words derived from this same root occur no less than 58 times in the Qur’an, and are used in different contexts in ways that can be ambiguous and open to widely different translations into English. In none of these other places is it used or translated in the sense of to hit, strike or beat. *
Perhaps most interesting of all is the use of the word to mean ‘to have sexual intercourse’. The Lisan al-Arab quotes the phrase ‘darab al-fahl an-naqah’ – ‘the stud camel covered the she-camel’.
In the context of Surah 4.34, I feel we are faced with a choice of three main possibilities; the first is that it did give the husband the right to hit his wife; secondly, the most appropriate meaning of the word would surely be ‘to separate’ or ‘to part’ – in which case the entire notion of a man having rights to beat his wife becomes irrelevant. The third most appropriate meaning would be ‘to return to normal life’ which in this context would certainly imply the meaning of ‘to return to having normal sexual relations’.
If a husband had descended to the level of beating his wife, the divorce proceeding would most probably become inevitable, and any possibility of a process of reconciliation (as outlined in Surah 4.35, the next verse) wiped out.
This is a very loaded question- based on a ayah in the Quran- and specifically what the word daraba means. I suggest you do some googling and read what scholars have said about it-- they have come with a reasonable consensus on this- on what that verse means.
But be aware that when you are googling around, many anti- muslims site have really misconstrued the meaning of ayah, and the word darabah to make Islam look like a nation of wife beaters...
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^Sadzzz i'm confused does it mean he can use his right but then the woman can leave him for this reason.
Now what comes under the definition of not obeying?So whatever he wants her to obey n she doesn't for her own reasons he can yell,scream n then beat?or it goes to serious issues only?
^Sadzzz i'm confused does it mean he can use his right but then the woman can leave him for this reason. Now what comes under the definition of not obeying?So whatever he wants her to obey n she doesn't for her own reasons he can yell,scream n then beat?or it goes to serious issues only?
obviously only for serious issues. you can't leave bruises, you can't hit in the face...it is better you don't hit at all, infact. and yes she can leave for that reason.....Mabrook....USE the POWER OF GOOGLE!!
Some people say daraba doesn't even mean to hit, so be on the safe and DONT HIT YOUR WIFE>>divorce her if you don't like her
Some guys feel nothing wrong abt it.instead they think its their shrayee right.n wat should a wife do in such a situation leave or stay for society's sake.
Yes hiting your wife is allowed in Islam only when she do budkari and husband before ask her not to do that she didn't listen and then he has to stop sharing bed with her and then he can beat her up but not like junooni kay us ka hashar nashar hi kharab kar day ya hulia hi bigar day.
Only that way husbands are allowed to beat his wife.
Budkari hi karnay wlai aurton ko talaq bhi dia jaa sakta hai budkari karnay pay jo ooper walay tamaam harbon say baaz nain aay to.
Kisi aur wajah kay liaay marnay ki mera naheen khiaal quran o sunnat main ijazat hai. Aur na hai marna chahyay kay aurat aik kamzor wajood hoti hai aur taqat main mardon say kum. Aurton ko marna intehai zulm hai agar wo roknay, bistar alag karnay kay bawajood na rukay budkari say to maar saktay hain. Agar wo in sub kay baad budkari say ruk jaay to us kay baad naheen marna chahyay.
Jo martay hain apni aurton ko bohat bara zulm kartay hain. Main apnay dushmanon ko bhi mana karta hoon biwi pay haath uthanay say.
Agar aap ko uski harkat ya harkatain (khuwaah wo kisi bhi qism ki bhi hon) pasand naheen to marnay kay bajaay achchay tareeqay say talaq day dain.
Agar budkaar naheen hai aur doosri uski baatain ya undaaz aap ko pasand naheen to bhi talaq day dain bajaay jootay marnay kay.
Main nain to daikha hai baaz mard apni biwi ko doosray logon ya apnay bhai bahnon kay charhanay ya jhooti batain ya kahaniaan bananay pay bhi is buri tareeqay say martay hain kay Allah ki panah.
You guys reminded me a really sad and khofnak beating of a husband to her wife when I was too young. Now I'm crying. I can't forget that day.
^Sadzzz i'm confused does it mean he can use his right but then the woman can leave him for this reason. Now what comes under the definition of not obeying?So whatever he wants her to obey n she doesn't for her own reasons he can yell,scream n then beat?or it goes to serious issues only?
No one is allowed to scream or yell on any other person. That is so junglish (Jahilana) in my opinion.
Mera naheen khiaal kaheen quran ya hadith main scream or yell ka zikr hai. Wo bhi is liaay naheen ho ga kay us say apni sayhat pay asar parta hai. Scream or yell say aap ko heart attack, falij ya brain hammarage ho sakta hai.
^Sadzzz i'm confused does it mean he can use his right but then the woman can leave him for this reason. Now what comes under the definition of not obeying?So whatever he wants her to obey n she doesn't for her own reasons he can yell,scream n then beat?or it goes to serious issues only?
from what i understood of that article Mabrook, is that, daruba has different meanings.. it may mean to separate and not hit... and obviously its in relation to something serious...
im no scholar, i google sites upon sites to get my understanding... go google!
from what i understood of that article Mabrook, is that, daruba has different meanings.. it may mean to separate and not hit... and obviously its in relation to something serious...
im no scholar, i google sites upon sites to get my understanding... go google!
In googling you might get to wrong site. So be careful. If site is authentic then believe otherwise you can get wrong info. Some sites are created by jews to give wrong information about islam.
Anyways, I've heard many stories of wives beating their husband--like throwing stuff at them...for some reason i always LAUGH at that!!! I know...horrible....
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ok now if a guy hits his wife on face for a thing he said n wife presented his own opinion n he was like"don't argue with me ever.how many times i told u..Slap" n the wife involves relatives.So instead of appology he sticks on his claim that its my right n i'll keep beating her until she does watsoever i say.Now the wife leaves the house n doesn't wanna return thinking"if it happened once it will happen again"She wants separation plus other issues involved too.Now some favor her to separte others like she should bear with such things n not take the big step.And the husband is asking her to come back on one end n boasts infront of relatives that he'll keep hitting her everyday now n she won't b allowed to visit any relatives.Should she continue for sake of soceity or separate?
Anyways, I've heard many stories of wives beating their husband--like throwing stuff at them...for some reason i always LAUGH at that!!! I know...horrible....
either they were doing it playfully or those husbands love them too much otherwise a man rarely takes such assault
Gr8heera i'm sorry for reminding u of that terrible memory must b someone very close.the question i'm asking is abt someone very close to me.
ok now if a guy hits his wife on face for a thing he said n wife presented his own opinion n he was like"don't argue with me ever.how many times i told u..Slap" n the wife involves relatives.So instead of appology he sticks on his claim that its my right n i'll keep beating her until she does watsoever i say.Now the wife leaves the house n doesn't wanna return thinking"if it happened once it will happen again"She wants separation plus other issues involved too.Now some favor her to separte others like she should bear with such things n not take the big step.And the husband is asking her to come back on one end n boasts infront of relatives that he'll keep hitting her everyday now n she won't b allowed to visit any relatives.Should she continue for sake of soceity or separate?
SEPERATE for sure. There is no way to live with that person. That is not allowed in Islam.
ok now if a guy hits his wife on face for a thing he said n wife presented his own opinion n he was like"don't argue with me ever.how many times i told u..Slap" n the wife involves relatives.So instead of appology he sticks on his claim that its my right n i'll keep beating her until she does watsoever i say.Now the wife leaves the house n doesn't wanna return thinking"if it happened once it will happen again"She wants separation plus other issues involved too.Now some favor her to separte others like she should bear with such things n not take the big step.And the husband is asking her to come back on one end n boasts infront of relatives that he'll keep hitting her everyday now n she won't b allowed to visit any relatives.Should she continue for sake of soceity or separate?
Okay when people ask a question like this- the first thing I think is-- USING COMMON SENSE IS NOT HARAAM!!!!
obviously she should separate (this does not need a super duper maulana to understand !)
If she's doing it for the sake of society, then that is very near committing shirk...you should not care about what other people think of you so much, that you do things FOR THEM....Allah gave her the right to divorce, so why deny that right for "society"?
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Leave him.
Also, in the time of Muhammad (s), society did not like the fact of marrying the wife of your adopted son. But Muhammad (s) did so, because Allah Mian commanded it. Just because "society" expects something from you, does not make that an excuse for you to do something....Step out of society and set an example for the other sisters to the right thing when they are being wronged!
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Gulab its easier said than done.thos who r married can understand the pressure of society very well.its a matter of honor n if that lady gets divorce even though she seems right in her fears there r relatives n close ppl who r not understanding n it might cause probs for her after she gets it.but if she goes back there r no gaurantees.