Re: Increasing Divorce Rate
As my last post on GS for a long time with the Sept summit coming up i want to lay out some rough pebbles to swallow. The first issue with marriage these days is that people look at material things. Not just the parents. But you lot and the people in your age group. Does he have an education i can agree with? Does he have a job i like? Does he have a high paying income and yet can spend hours with me?
**Well, no use replying to you since you won’t reply back but I’m gonna give it a shot…Education and job are important. You wouldn’t want to marry someone who worked at mcDonalds or had only a high school diploma. However, yes it can be taken too far as, you wouldn’t want someone who majored in English, or he has to have a job on wallstreet, or some bullshiit like that. If a girl were to turn a guy down coz of what he studied then she must be really freakin rich or gorgeous to be so damn picky. **
Then there is the whole desan issue. I am pretty disappointed with what i have seen in the US and in Europe. I mean just because you have an education and don’t speak broken english does not mean you are better or special than anyone else. That means you are average. You have reached a level where everybody should be. If you take it from that point of view you lot should not have a problem finding a guy.
**Again I don’t know anyone whos been so snotty about their education. I’ll get my bachelors, masters in english, writing, whatever, does that make me better? No. Too many ppl look down on others coz of wat they choose to study, i’ve esp seen comments here tha****t psychology or english majors are stupid or sissies or whatever.
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I frankly agree with medic. I would only suggets a girl now from back home, or someone abroad who hasn’t lost her sense of identity or faith. Luckily i have found someone like that.
Desans are spoiled. They don’t have to work. They don’t have to do anything really except do the house work. They have their family specifically brothers do everything for them. Added to that the airs of importance because they are educated you have one uncompromising selfish woman. Most guppans fit that bill. I could name names, but hey whats the use in statrting a fight when i won’t be around to respond 
**I think ur talking about me 
But to my defense, I KNOW full well that it ain’t gonna last, I can say I dont wanna get married for a long time, but I’ve been wanting to for quite a while now so I should enjoy whatever I have now til it’s over 
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The first thing desans should learn is how to be decent wives.
**Hm… many of us have mothers who lived in differnet times, different rules./society/culture with different expectations of em than us… Many of the things my mother dealt with, I could never deal with. Some would say I’m weak or spoiled, some would say that I’m more “modern” or “empowered” . But does this mean that we won’t make decent wives? Women of my mom’s generation, at least from family stories that I’ve heard, were encouraged to take all the bullshiit that came at them, from in laws, society etc, and not complain or fight back, and i think that’s still teh case sometimes… if i decide to fight back wud that make someone a bad wife/bad person? **
