i would say chalak - jaahil still decide to let things go or make it to obvious they dont like the way things are not going their way, chalak people can only think of such things - they can’t stop you to go alone directly so they want to go with you now :S and i am dead sure they must have plans of dragging you two everwhere they will go and in all the pictures you will see yourself standing on one corner of the pic family in the middle and your husband on the other corner:mad:
Atleast many desis are nice enough to live with their parents even after marriage (isnt that enough?) and I know there is always a certain amount of posessiveness in every kinds of relationships even if it is friendship - but then again you can’t tie the person with you all your life - arent you rather making that person go away from you by doing so, its like suffocating him/her - and well its the wife’s right to have her husband since she leaves her whole family for him and trusts him and is his responsibility…mothers shouldnt be ignored but man atleast let them go alone at their honeymoon - honeymoon is for a couple to enjoy alone and not be surrounded with their entire family -
ey prototype you ask your family to go along as well - if his family goes yours goes too
if you cannot talk to your inlaws… your husband cannot talk to his family .. and both of you can’t even cancel the trip either, then its better to cut out this word “honeymoon” from Your mind and think that ‘you are all going for a nice Family trip… happy happy family trip’…
awwww i feel for ya!! Perhaps they just dont understand the concept of "honeymoon"...is there anyone in the family that can talk to them about it?
listen.....one word of advice....NEVER say anything to them yourself. It will make you look very bad in their eyes...especially since you are a new bahu and they havent gotten the chance to know you yet. Your husband needs to tell them himself. If he cant do it now......he may never be able to do it in future situations either.
If he just cant tell them no....then let them go with you....make it a family trip. As someone mentioned above...invite your family as well. Dont consider this trip as your honeymoon but more like a family get-together. When you get back.....make plans for your honeymoon and book the flight, accomodations etc..... and dont mention it to anyone til the last minute.
dont feel hurt and feel bad…and certainly dont let it show…take it in good stride and make the best out of it. InshAllah you guys have the rest of your lives together. Like i said above…perhaps you can make another plan in the near future…and try again.
Just reading this has gotten me angry If both of you lack the courage to speak up for your right then just quietly suffer the company of the entire clan at your honeymoon. Have you guys even hinted that u do not want others tagging along? Maybe its because neither of you has said anything that they think you guys don’t mind it. Just ask your sil or bil how they went for their honey moon and when they tell it was just them with their spouses ask why you are not being allowed to do the same. Ask them about how their honey moon was and then comment on how it won;t be like that for you since you won’t have any privacy. There has got to be at least one person in thei entire family who commiserates with you, a cousin, an aunt, a grandparent? See if they can help. Worse comes to worse you and hubby stay behind and use your vacation time later on. Do not announce your honey moon plans until everything is finalised and others have no time to take time off and tag along.
Have you moved from the west to Pakistan after your marriage. Tell them how you are used to seeing only the couple going for a honeymoon so this whole idea seems a little odd. The only time I ever saw the whole friggin khandaan joining the couple for a honey moon was in bollywood movies where everyone including the bride and groom are even happy about it but thats movies that too indian and unfortunately it won;t be all over in just a single song
See now where are the guys here who say that all desi bahus are evil because they don’t want thier in laws joining them on the honeymoon?
Prototype I really feel for you. I dn’t find anything funny about it. I’m sorry your in-laws are such idiots. I can understand why your husband’ wn’t say anything. Even if you stay quiet and he’s the one who says anything, the family will get offended and immediately blame you, like “oh now that he’s married, he’s like this, it’s all her fault” and it will make YOU look bad. I know that’s not fair, that you should look bad even if he’s the one who says something, but sadly that’s how things are.
Things like thi s make me glad I’m married. :hinna:
all desi bahus are evil because they don't want thier in laws joining them on the honeymoon.
Just for you Sara :p
But people who are getting mad at prototype's in laws, you guys dont even know them. Maybe they did not realize they are going on a honeymoon and thought it would be a nice family vacation since according to her they had some family problem. Maybe they grew up in some gaon in pakistan where there is no concept of honeymoon. Maybe they just dont know know...I mean its easier to think they are evil and they dont want the couple to get their alone time but their intentions could be different. We dont know the whole situation and i dont know WHY any educated people would tag along a couple on their honeymoon. It just doesnt add up. There is something we dont know.
c i dun get it, how jahil and paindu and really stupid do ppl have to be to actually believe/say that??? can someone explain that to me puhleeeze???
Everyone I know understands the importance of a couple spending time alone. My parents never said anything to “disapprove”, his parents barely even called us while we were there
awww thats a tough situation, like most of the people said you really should tell your family that you guys want to spend some time alone. How long are you guys going for, cause if you don't feel comfortable doing that then maybe you and your husband should plan a couple of days to yourselves while you are on vacation with the whole family.
You cannot give them the benefit of the doubt there as the SIL and BIL have already been on their respective honeymoons without everyone and their naani tagging along.
I hope you have a happy trip and a peaceful and content future with your husband.
I agree with Sahar. Its a real swizz that ur in a situation like this esp as uve just got married and ur honeymoon is meant to b sum quality alone time for the pair of u NOT for the whole khandaan to tag along. Im sorry ur other half isnt strong enuff to explain this to his family. I feel sorry for u man...it sucks:(
but she said there were some family problems before. Did they make it clear that they were going on a honeymoon? Maybe the family thought it was just a vacation and that they could just tag along?
I dont know WHY the husband isnt saying anything and thats why i find it fishy.
tell you what .. tell them the mid-way destination’s name and once they arrive there … u n ur hubby take off for FINAL destination
Kaisaaaaaaaaaa that would be rude but then you guys need ur time too right? Tell them you guys are going to mexico and once everyone arrive there .. get a plane and take off to hawaii or jamaica
But people who are getting mad at prototype's in laws, you guys dont even know them. **Maybe they did not realize they are going on a honeymoon and thought it would be a nice family vacation since according to her they had some family problem. **Maybe they grew up in some gaon in pakistan where there is no concept of honeymoon. Maybe they just dont know know...I mean its easier to think they are evil and they dont want the couple to get their alone time but their intentions could be different. We dont know the whole situation and i dont know WHY any educated people would tag along a couple on their honeymoon. It just doesnt add up. There is something we dont know.
actually u are right about that.....which prompts me to ask this question....
do they even know its a honeymoon?
afterall you are going a few month after the wedding...correct?
i still think you should just go with whatever is happening (per my advice above) just to avoid any ill feelings.....go for the honeymoon at a later date. Tell your husband that....it'll make things less stressful for him and he'll appreciate you more for it...inshAllah.
On a serious note: Look at a bright side .. how many newly wed couple get time and a chance to spend time with In-laws and family during honeymoon? Not many right? So, take it as a experience specially if you (the poster) and her husband can’t really do anything about it. If none of you have enough guts or if out of respect can’t tell your family to stay out of it then might as well enjoy with them. Make it the BEST time ever and PROVE that yea newly wed girl can have a blast time at her honeymoon with her in-laws. Yes, it might sound all talk again but you know what .. still try ur best to enjoy
If both of you lack the courage to speak up for your right then just quietly suffer the company of the entire clan at your honeymoon. Have you guys even hinted that u do not want others tagging along? Maybe its because neither of you has said anything that they think you guys don’t mind it. Just ask your sil or bil how they went for their honey moon and when they tell it was just them with their spouses ask why you are not being allowed to do the same. Ask them about how their honey moon was and then comment on how it won;t be like that for you since you won’t have any privacy. There has got to be at least one person in thei entire family who commiserates with you, a cousin, an aunt, a grandparent? See if they can help. Worse comes to worse you and hubby stay behind and use your vacation time later on. Do not announce your honey moon plans until everything is finalised and others have no time to take time off and tag along.
but thats movies that too indian and unfortunately it won;t be all over in just a single song 
