In Bad Taste? :S

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The only thing that I heard about and thought was in bad taste is when someone wears their entire wedding outfit including full jewelry set for someone else’s wedding. (…I dont care if you’re a new bride … your day is over)

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^ i agree, and I for one, would like to be unselfish and let the bride have her day! I have seen too many newly wed brides pull off that look immediately after the wedding, and I would never ever do that to another girl!

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totally agree

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bt dnt u think tht person wud actually be making a fool out of theirself by doing that, lols. im sure people wl laugh hard at that person for being so weird.

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lol!! I never meant anyone over 30 is an auntie. Its my personal preference but when is the alst time you saw a 50 year old in a lengha? Its rare to see it and I think lenghas suit younger women under 40. Just think of your mother in a lengha/gharara,weird right? No offence to anyone over 30 who still wears lenghas/ghararas to many weddings (to your sister and first cousins wedding is fine) but its my personal prefence. Telling others they are not allowed to wear them to your wedding is in really bad taste as in telling them they have no control over what they wear and you are somehow better than them just because you are a bride!

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Oh but i know some people like to hve this theme that every women whether 10 or 50 wears lenghas on the wedding n i think its cute :) it obv helps if they have maintained theirself 2 carry it but what matters is being part of the fun i think thats much more important :)

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I personally wouldn't wear a lengha on somebody else's wedding as I'm not a fan of lenghas, but if someone wore a lengha at my wedding it wouldn't bother me in the slightest. I think girls warn others off from doing such a thing when they have insecurities about them self, not wanting another girl to outdo them etc etc, but in reality nobody can outdo the bride!

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that's ridiculous

no one can outshine the bride... whether any guest wear her wedding lehnga, jewellary and stuff, she can never outshine the bride

once i went to a mehndi, where i was wearing a simple tareen sardioun wala suit ( yes a literally simple suit) covering my head with a BIGGGG chaddar ( becoz i didnt wash my hair :S grossss) and i was sitting in a corner, when suddenly a mai jee came and she did pyar on my head, and gave me dua to live happily etc etc

and then a girl came and said " aunty jee yeh to mehmaan hein, woh dulhan baji tu andar room mein hein"

though it was a bit embarassing for me becoz everyone was turning and looking at me :S but i was glad becoz i got free dua's haha

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maybe not a lengha. but my mother, khalas, phupos, etc wear ghararas at close family weddings. i love it!

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I have seen one older lady carry a gharara well. I think ghararas are more elegant than lenghas and ghararas are better for older women who are sophisticated. The lady who was wearing the gharara was the brides mother and she only has one daughter so maybe that's why she wore it. Not sure but it didn't look completely bad on her. I still have not worn my wedding gharara. Maybe I will wear it to my male cousins wedding. He got engaged this year and might get married next year. My Mother paid so much for the gharara that I owe it to her to wear again. I will wear a lighter dupatta and much lighter jewelery and simple makeup. I don't want to out do the bride. I once saw a brides khala wear her wedding dress and jewelery and my friend asked me who the bride was as the khala entered with the bride! Now thats weird. oh and the khala wore the duaptta on her head as she is a hijabi. At that point she had been married over 10 years and had 2 kids! Now thats in bad taste! Not having kids part, I mean the wearing her whole wedding outfit complete with jewels etc.

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As for the wedding jewelery, I think girls have a right to wear that again too as it costs a lot and I wore my wedding earrings last year to my cousins wedding but with a much lighter necklace. It just depends on how you do it all. Wear your wedding heels but not with your wedding outfit to someone elses wedding. Wear your wedding outfit etc but not with everything you wore day of your wedding as you may look heavy and out do the bride. I know people say you can never out do the bride but think of the brides feeling. My friend felt under done when her cousin wore her wedding outfit and jewelery to her wedding as my friends wedding jewelery was lighter (it was nice but what her family could afford!)

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I completely agree … theres definately a way to make the most of your bridal investments while keeping others feelings in consideration and not overshadowing the bride!

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lol my SIL is buying a new bridal outfit (the one I completely loved but could not get due to the price... I could afford it but just couldnt make myself throw away $3000 on an outfit I will only wear once). Now the outfit is 50 percent off and she is expecting my fiance to buy it for her as she is his "ladli" behen. She is also planning on wearing her bridal set tht she wore on her wedding which is wayyyy bigger than the set I got. And her color is the same as mine. OOOO And she will have her dupatta on her head because she is a hijab lol FML.
I was a lil ticked off at first but I am happy now.... because I know no one can out shine me as I will be the bride :)

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^ Exactly.

Being a bride is not having the biggest, heaviest, most expensive thing in the room. It's about you looking and feeling YOUR best as you embark on this new life with your hubby and new family.

I don't understand this mentality that just because something is more expensive or fancy, you have to have it! Once you're married, you'll realize, life goes on, you are still a human being and a woman AFTER you are married and there is no reason that you should feel like that's it, you can't top that day. Most people are much better off AFTER their wedding (in terms of finances, freedoms, knowledge of themselves and fashion, etc) and they come into their own afterward. Why can't they make the most of happy occasions?

And there's no point in competing with the aunties. They have more dough and more bling than us younger folks, and they can use it as they like. It's not a competition.

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I dont think anyone can out shine the bride on her day!.... I mean ppl come for her.... they will obviously talk about her and look at her. if someone is looking prettier than the bride then its not the guest or the bride's fault, and it cant be changed. bride and her family should only worry about their outfits. just with the fear of being out shined u cant tell ppl to not to dress up. I think its super selfish!

just let ppl wear whatever they want.... end of the day, its the bride ppl are gonna talk about, and say mubarak aur ushi ki rukhsati hogi. no one can mistake a guest as a bride aur uss ko ruksat kar keh leh jaye.... so dont worry and wear anything you want.

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Well it depends on your relations with the bride in question, if its my sisters'/best friends or cousins' wedding than bring on the lenghas but if its a wedding of someone I only know through someone, then I would feel like a fool for dressing up as a semi bride just for observing the wedding form sitting at a far away table.

A bride is a bride, whether she's the most beautiful/dolled up person in the room or not. Besides, you always end up having certain females, the real eye candy types, who probably aren't even that dressed up yet everyone loves to catch a glimpse of them. So it happens.

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Bump!

I think it depends on your relationship to the bride. If you are her sister, bhabi, or a cousin that is like a sister, then you probably know exactly what the bride is wearing and you have the kind of relationship where you can tell them what to wear. If you are from the brides inlaws or family friends or whatever I don't think you should take the chance of wearing your bridal stuff. Even if its not the same color, you don't want to be more heavy than the bride.

I saw the devrani jethani thread and remembered what my sister had to go through with her jethani and then found this thread. On her wedding, her jethani wore almost the same exact outfit as her and everyone noticed and mentioned it to her. Then on her valima, her jethani wore her valima outfit. On the nikkah her jethani wore the same color as her. Every outfit was significantly heavier than my sisters except the wedding one which was the same design x_x

her jethani did this in "bad taste" (we know). So that's why I say you should be careful. Only wear it to your sisters or cousins (if that) weddings. If you do it in your inlaws, be very very careful and don't ever wear the same level of outfit. Like wedding to wedding or valima to valima. One thing you can do is to wear half the outfit. Like the top part with a chooridar or something. That's why my nand and sister are going to do and I love them!

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I think that a guest who dresses up like the bride ends up looking really silly and desperate, so I wouldn't care. The bride and groom are going to be the center of attention anyway, no matter what anyone else is wearing :)

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That's kind of a tradition in my family. My family has a healthy sense of guilt because we don't do things by halves, and always splurge on the wedding/valima outfits. To placate her battered conscience ("those poor starving kids in Africa!"), the bride usually wears her wedding clothes at the wedding of younger siblings or other close relatives. My mom, khalas and even cousins did this. They did tone the outfit down by wearing a little less jewellery and light makeup so they looked nothing like the bride even though in some cases, the outfits were red.
I don't see anything wrong with this, and honestly don't see what the big deal is.

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I know right? What difference does it make if people know what colour you're wearing? My mom totally threw a hissy fit because I told my cousin (whom my mom does not like) my wedding/valime colour schemes. What's up with that? Is this a Pakistani thing?