**Hi Girls!..and especially the brides/brides-to-be out there…a quick question…:
At your wedding (baraat or walima or both) would you mind if other girls in your family (cousins etc) wore a lehenga too? One of my friend’s seems to think that it is in bad taste for a guest to wear a lehenga on either of these days and if the guests do want to wear a lehenga it should be worn on the mehndi instead…I don’t necessarily agree because in my opinion no one can outshine the bride so what difference does it make?
Thoughts, opinions on the matter? Would you mind if other girls wore a lehenga on your big day? **
I agree!...I have a 2nd cousin getting married next week who is a real bridezilla though and has pretty much forbidden everyone else to wear a lehenga as it is HER day to wear one. I shall be wearing a lehenga :D
Of course I wouldn't mind! If you can't wear a lehnga to a wedding, when can you wear it???
Exactly! I would love it if my family ladies even wore their own wedding dress to my wedding. I think it would make them feel good just wearing their dress, and ofcourse they won't look like a bride.I've worn lehnga's countless times to my cousins weddings etc. I would love if people wore it to mine, it's different from the usual shalwar kameez stuff!
^ yes.. lehngass are super formal wear … not something you would wear normally… even to a dinner party or a casual party. And at weddings it is usually expected that people are dressed up as formally as possibly!
Im the eldest girl in my khandaan.. and i cant imagine any of my siblings or cousins hating on me for wearing my wedding dress to their wedding. One can change it up…have another shirt made so that the lehngaa is less heavy. Or have another dupatta made.
Wearing a red dupatta can be done for mehndi or walima. Walima lehnga can be worn on shaadi day…
My SILs are wearing them.. I thought it would be nice but then my SIL got the red one that I wanted... soo I hated her for that. I dont really care thoough.. I know I will be the bride and it will b my special day.
Plus my SIL is going to wear her wedding Jewelry and stuff.
I am wearing simple yet elegant Jewelry
^ she is wearing a red lehngaa for your baraat?!?!
Girl - u have the right attitude.. u WILL be the bride.. the one with the dupatta on her head and then later on the Quran OVER her head for rukhsati.. its your special day and everyone will know it..... despite what your SIL's wear.
i think a bride is being really ridiculous by telling her guests what cut of desi clothing they can or cannot wear. i will say i don't find it odd when brides ask girls to NOT wear their bridal outfits or valima outfits but a regular lengha looks just fine.
Actually its mostly girls who are brought up abroad as in the west, guests don't usuaaly wear white as its the bride's color. In Pakistan that concept doesn't exist.
I've seen girls wear lehngas at wedding...but they're not as elaborate or fancy as the bride's......so the bride stands out and that's the important thing.
I do know of a case where a bride's cousin wore a long dress........which was simple.........but then the cousin had her hair put up in a bee hive....with strands of pearls running around the bee hive along with a dangling tika. The head jewelry looked ridiculous and over-the-top...kinda costume'ish... even though her dress was fairly simple. I thought it was a faux pas in not only fashion....but also in etiquette.....because a guest shouldn't overshadow the bride.
Another example was where a former friend got engaged or something (can't remember the function)...but it was hard to tell who the bride-to-be was because she didn't stand out. And one of the guests...was a girl who was known to really deck her sellf out with heavy clothes, makeup, and jewelry. So, she looked more like the bride instead. People at the event were saying that they could have made the bride stand out more by having her wear the dupatta over her head.
On the day of their walima was the first time I was meeting my 2nd cousin's wife. She began showing us her walima set and, just to make conversation, I asked "Is that the color of your dress?" I was just being friendly...and her reply? "You'll see tonight, its a secret"...
Another 2nd cousin (same bridezilla I mentioned in one of my earlier posts)...I asked her "what color is your lehenga?" as I was struggling to come up with a topic to talk about and since her favorite topic is her wedding I went with that... Her reply "You'll see"....umm ok...it's like no one is going to know exactly what your lehenga looks like if you just mention the color..it's not even a big deal..I'm not suggesting that brides go around announcing their lehenga choice, however, if asked it seems somewhat rude to give responses as the ones above. Certainly when I get married I would not respond in these ways...(Her [bridezilla's] future MIL later told everyone the color of the lehenga so so much for keeping it a secret)
At my brothers walima a far family friend came with her red wedding lengha on, it looked ridiculous, Im all for wearing wedding lengha's on mendhi's but dont agree anyone should wear it on someone elses wedding day, (although i wouldnt say anything if they did), however why would you wear your wedding outfit on someones elses wedding?? its beyond me...let the bride have her day.....get a life!! and more importantly get a new outfit!!
^ That's wrong on the part of that guest, especially considering that her lehenga was red and she's not a close relative. I think the girls who try and outshine the bride are perfectly ridiculous, especially as they just end up looking silly. No one can outshine the bride.
Having said that though, for a guest to wear a lehenga (in my view) is acceptable as long as it's not red. When I had mine made for the upcoming weekend, I specifically ensured that my colors were different to the bride's.
