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I did attend a wedding where the bride's nand wore her valima outfit to the wedding AND actually put her dupatta on her head, jhoomer, tika all of it.
It looked so tacky...lol
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in my village, it was quite common to see brides [one year or less] wearing their own ‘shaadi kaa joRaa and zevraat’ with full make up [missii, kaajal, lip stick, powder, nail polish etc] … someone joked…**“btw, which one is the dulhan that’s getting married today?” **
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What is missii?
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My SIL wore a red sari, bracelets up and down her arms, rings on each finger, huge earrings, and a GIANT head piece on my wedding.
When the dj announced the grooms arrival, she walked in with him and all my American friends started clapping and cheering because they thought it was me!
Now that's AWKWARD!
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My devar is getting married early next year and my mil has told me that I should wear my reception lengha to their reception. I will be wearing the kameez but not the sharara. I will get straight pants made and won't be wearing my big set either. I feel like I should ask my devrani if she is ok with it, but I already know that she will say yes, because she won't do or say anything against my in laws; so even if it mattered to her she wouldn't tell me. Do you guys think it's ok for me to wear the kameez from my bridal jora with straight pants and dupatta on my shoulder of course?
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Do you guys think it's ok for me to wear the kameez from my bridal jora with straight pants and dupatta on my shoulder of course?
Yes.
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Saima, in your case you're not wearing the entire ensemble and turning into another dulhan on someone else's wedding day.
Its more than okay to do what you're doing...I've done exactly that a few times myself.
The only time it looks awkward is when the bride and someone else in the attending guests looks similarly dressed.
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I think it is definitely OK to wear a lehanga. If you are family/close friend I think it is also OK to wear your own wedding/ walima lehanga... provided you don't wear the dupatta on your head! And probably tone down the jewellery. That way you get some more wear out of the beautiful outfit that you spent so much money on!
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It honestly depends on so many factors. On my nikkah my sister and cousins Khalas and mami's everyone wore heavy outfits, big jewellery, big hair the works and I loved it! They all looked lovely but I still stood out because my outfit was heavy enough to distinguish that as a bridal I.e heavy dupatta and although everyone had heavy Kaam there is a difference between heavy Kaam and bridal Kaam.
However on my walima my sister in law wore her bridal outfit from the year before. This again would have been fine had my inlaws allowed me to wear a heavy suit. My suit was so plain had it not been the dupatta on my head ( even this they did not want me to wear) I really would have looked like a guest. She wore a lengha and I didn't. The sad thing is I look back at my pics and cringe because she did take the limelight. No matter how much I tell myself I looked like the bride I actually didn't really.
It depends on the suit! And the function.
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It depends on the suit! And the function.
Or the fact that it's an in-law doing it lol
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Never heard of it as being "bad taste." In fact lehngas and such are worn at weddings. Where else can people where them to? No one is going to look like the bride, but people should be allowed to wear what they like.
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I rewore my valima outfit to my cousins wedding because shes my best friend! If it was going to be a similar colour to hers then I would have thought twice but i wore white on my valima and she was wearing red so she was fine with it!
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When one of my good friends got married, her MIL and her baraat all came in lehngas and ghararas WITH the dupattas on their heads!! No joke! Because of the parda they wore them which is fine but then they were also wearing them which one end in front and one end in the back, it looked soooooo pagal. These are like aunties, khalas, phuppos. Every time they were on stage for rasams they def looked like the brides. It was ridiculous. My friend was upset because she's such a simple girl but everyone was talking about how ridiculous they looked.
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^Something similar happened at my friend's wedding. My friend didn't do the traditional heavy bridal look either. She wore a champagne coloured outfit with lighter kaam and lighter, more delicate jewellery. Her SILs all wore their (red/burgundy) wedding lenghas with the dupattas on their heads and loads of heavy jewellery, including their full bridal jewellery sets. A guest actually thought there were three brides and asked if it was a triple wedding. My friend didn't seem terribly bothered by this though. They didn't outshine her at all as they are a bit older (the youngest one got married back in 2006) and their outfits looked rather dated and over-the-top.
Personally, I'm not fond of this trend of wearing your wedding outfit to someone else's wedding (it's not done in my culture), but I think it's fine if the bride doesn't mind (meaning that you asked her if she is fine with it and didn't just surprise her by arriving at her wedding dressed like a bride).
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Lol I wore my bridal shirt on Eid! but Eid happened to fall 5 days after my baraat (3 days after walima) so my MIL told me to wear it. Plus I got trousers made in the same colour as the lehnga so I wore the plain trousers with the heavy shirt rather than the whole lehenga.
However - I DID wear a lehnga with tikka and everything on my husband’s cousin’s wedding. This also happened to be like 6 days after my baraat (it was the day after Eid!) so I was all decked out as a bride.
I think it depends how recently you got married