Re: I'm so confused right now. Is he flirting with me?
anyways regardless of whether he is a shareef bhlola bhala insaan or a kutta kameena villain..its in the teenagers interest to keep her distance, and to not put herself in a situation which can be potentially dangerous, so that means no alone time, no solo drives etc etc. Only of someone is 100% confident about the other person is something like that acceptable.
He may or may not have macking intentions, but your actions, words should make it clear that you have no such interest, and keep your distance, better be safe than sorry, the damage can be social, emotional, physical or all three. why chance it.
anyways regardless of whether he is a shareef bhlola bhala insaan or a kutta kameena villain..its in the teenagers interest to keep her distance, and to not put herself in a situation which can be potentially dangerous, so that means no alone time, no solo drives etc etc. Only of someone is 100% confident about the other person is something like that acceptable.
He may or may not have macking intentions, but your actions, words should make it clear that you have no such interest, and keep your distance, better be safe than sorry, the damage can be social, emotional, physical or all three. why chance it.
anyways regardless of whether he is a shareef bhlola bhala insaan or a kutta kameena villain..its in the teenagers interest to keep her distance, and to not put herself in a situation which can be potentially dangerous, so that means no alone time, no solo drives etc etc. Only of someone is 100% confident about the other person is something like that acceptable.
He may or may not have macking intentions, but your actions, words should make it clear that you have no such interest, and keep your distance, better be safe than sorry, the damage can be social, emotional, physical or all three. why chance it.
Um, if he's 20 and she's 14, it's not so much "macking" as it is 'kiddie-raping'. Like the saying goes: 15 will get you 20.
Re: I'm so confused right now. Is he flirting with me?
yeah same diff..the extreme of some physical assault is not the only thing that can be dangerous
emotional messup can be something where there is flirting or leading on but no physical contact..so that will not be kiddie raping. My definition of the harm is broader.
yeah same diff..the extreme of some physical assault is not the only thing that can be dangerous
emotional messup can be something where there is flirting or leading on but no physical contact..so that will not be kiddie raping. My definition of the harm is broader.
well this physicall assualt thing depends on the built.
a 14 year old girl from kenya or some african country can easily take over a 25 year old male from india.
there are some 6 footers who are married to 5 footers, they dont qualify for physical assault or do they?
yeah same diff..the extreme of some physical assault is not the only thing that can be dangerous
emotional messup can be something where there is flirting or leading on but no physical contact..so that will not be kiddie raping. My definition of the harm is broader.
Already on our third glass of Barolo, are we? Capitalization, punctuation and grammar would have been greatly appreciated.
The rape I was referring to was not "the extreme of some physical assault", but statutory rape, which is what I originally assumed you meant by "macking" (my mistake, I apologize). If your "definition of the harm is broader" than statutory rape, and "flirting or leading on" "can be dangerous" and cause "emotional messup" [sic], perhaps you could use a more appropriate term for it than "macking", especially when this potential "flirting or leading on" you describe is between an adult and a minor with a significant age gap?
well this physicall assualt thing depends on the built.
a 14 year old girl from kenya or some african country can easily take over a 25 year old male from india.
there are some 6 footers who are married to 5 footers, they dont qualify for physical assault or do they?
Re: I'm so confused right now. Is he flirting with me?
Wipe off the makeup and don't wear any until you're like AT LEAST 16, if even. The makeup is making you look older than your age.
I agree with a lot of the posters, I think you're reading way too much into the 20 year old's behavior. This is what I think happened... he's friendly and he gave you a little attention. You accepted it. He interpreted you talking to him, being around him, letting him look through your FB account, as a really big crush that he's enjoying because he wants to be a stud. So he in turn is giving you more attention. That doesn't mean that he likes you in a romantic way, he's being friendly. But just in case, keep your distance from him to avoid anything inappropriate. Focus on school.
And I agree with PCG, your writing is mature for a 14 year old.
I shudder when I think about the little babies I once held who are now in their early teens.
the problem is you are 14 .. .. and its been for the first time that you are noticing these stuff .. ..
It always feel good to be special and center of attention of someone .. and thats the thing “he knows” .. ..
my sincere advice: be normal to him but don’t let him cross the limit. if you start acting rude he can easily say that .. “he is being normal to my cousin, what do you thin - you are sick” ..
Re: I'm so confused right now. Is he flirting with me?
I think its just a little crush hunney! You are 14 and you are going through puberty and that is A ok. If you are crushing on him that’s okay too because it happens. What is not okay if he is trying to get with you. You are 14 darling and he is 18. Like RV said there is a world of a difference between you and him (education, maturity wise, friends, freedom etc etc)
What I am concerned about is that you, left your FB up to let him go through it to have fun. You are at an age that you need to become a confident young woman. Do NOT leave your personal things available to the world like that (email, FB, phone etc etc.). If you give a boy chances to go through your personal items like that it will become a very unhealthy relationship. Unhealthy as in the boy might always want to go through your stuff later even if you don’t want him too….Remember you should never have to convince someone to like you and someone wont like you if you leave your personal stuff up...
These age differences are okay when you are older probably in your twenties when BOTH the boy and girl have had a chance to grow up and become mature. Like if you are 21 and he is 24/25… but not right now…
He obviously flirted with your cousin so that should be a sigh… maybe he thinks the girls in your family are easily flirt-able… but either way he shouldn’t be flirting with a 14 year old… not normal!!!! We are just telling you this bc if he is truly flirting with you he knows its wrong on so many levels yet he is doing it… not cool! And you having a crush on him is ok. BUT BUT BUT do not act upon it…. You are 14…
Enjoy your teens right now! Focus on school, have fun with your friends. I am sure there are plenty of cut boys in your grade to crush on. You will have your chance with all the older ones later…
I honestly did crush on him when i was eleven, but then again i was stupid at that age… lol
I don’t really like to get involved in love anyway, i’m sometimes more of an isolated person.
thanks for your post, there aren’t many sensitive posts here as much as yours (: calling him a pedo won’t help me at all anyway. there needed to be more of an answer…
there aren’t so many sensitive men here in my school, you should really see how its like… its crazy here. not your average typical american school just wilder. i wish i was back in my pak school where everything was simpler and much more fun.
idk why i even left my facebook on, BUT he didn’t get a chance to see the more personal and deeper sides of the album which i guess, is a relief.
