I'm gay....what do I do?

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You can’t help being what you are. People will talk but who cares? Pakistani people don’t even need a reason to talk.
I hope you find a nice sughar larka that you can get married to

:phati:

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*thread cleaned up and reopened. *

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Well dude what ever you do DONT HIT ON YOUR FRIENDS!!!!
I had a gay dude. Who present him self as "victim". Then occasionally , while talkin like dudes, he would say some thing disgusting in provoking manner. shyttttttttt
Sick!!!!!!!! freakin sick!!!!!!!!!!

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tt01

I am not going to go on religious angle since that has been covered.

someone suggested that you tell your parents, I am not so sure. There are people who can handle this info and there are others who can not. You have to objectively assess whether they can handle the info

aside from them handling the info, what would the impact be on them. standing in community, friends, family etc.

what you dont want to do is decrease your problem yet increase someone else's. so that is something you have to think really seriously about before you tell them.

what u do need is a support system of people who can understand you and your challenges, you may not be able to find such support groups in Pakistan easily, but their are online resources.

In Pakistan, acceptance is going to be very tough, and the lifestyle discreet and secluded. That is what I think. and that is going to be that way even if you are open about it. So the question is do you want to deal with the issues/risks to yourself and challenges for others e.g. parents vs. being forced to lead a double life.

and by double life i am not suggesting that u get married and have a wife on the side, but basically keeping your sexual preferences out of public/family knowledge.

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damnnnnnnnnnn
he is pakistan ??

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a really old friend of mine back in early school days, I've lost touch with him, but a very good friend, Danish his name was, he was very feminine. He used to walk and talk like girls from time to time, loved being around girls in school and was ridiculed for it by boys. I don't think he was gay, as in, I don't think he wanted a relationship with a guy. He was just....the only boy in a household of only females. Then another acquaintance, a Pakistani guy I knew he was like that, too, later he got married (with a girl) and has kids now.
so, hopefully, your case is like that, too and you end up with a woman and not pursue a relationship with another guy (you know what I mean).

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not sure, but thought he was.

from a family and pakistani community perspective it is the same wherever you are and how tt01 approaches it would depend on the family, how they react would be partially their views/personalities and partially how they feel this info will impact their dealings with community.

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I so badly want to say...live a straight man's life and live in accordance to the Quran and Sunnah but I suppose that would be unfair to you.

I can also go on about the religious views and tell you to make dua that you somehow get out of this....but I wont get into that since it has been said already and because I am sure that you already know. Being gay is not something you can snap out of. You are what you are.

If you're in Pakistan, I am afraid to say you are better off keeping this kind of information to yourself

You might want to consider leaving Pakistan if you plan on living a homosexual lifestyle or else your life will be hell there. There just isnt any acceptance in Pakistan for homosexuality.

If you dont live in Pakistan then you should better prepare yourself to be shunned by the Pakistani and Muslim community.

Sorry to say but reality bites.

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The most jokes of all responses include the following phrase : "you know what I mean".

The conspiratorial nudgenudgewink is tangible.

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**Note to maself: NO TV/Computer/Friends for my kids and they gona get home schooling. **:hinna:

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horray this thread is back!

but vhat nonsence is this yaar? all my posts have been removed! yaar very bad!

yaar what can i say then if all my posts are getting deleted?!! uff! well then be very proud and gay , vhatever makes you happy yaar tt01!

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a guppy cannot even give their opinion on this thread! cant believe my posts have been deleted, yaar they would have helped him so much!

i never once used foul or offensive language i just spoke my mind saying he needed to change!

nonsence yaar!

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Khubsoorat Collection !
yaar its kinda hard to read your posts yaar.... because yaar you know what i mean yaar... yaar when a person uses yaar 5x in one sentence....yaar its difficult to read....yaar i hope u understand me yaar......yaar if you stop saying yaar that many times i am sure yaar ppl might understand your view....

yaar samaj aya yaar aab nahi kehna yaar !

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Nah I found it strange. The way he looked at his issue is very west like.
hmmm In pakistan ppl live with it. With out making it a life style.

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vhat nonsence yaar

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just to clarify, I do not live in Pakistan. I live in North America.

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so they may not end up being gay (or maybe they will) but they surely will have some other issues.

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I think it is time, Pakistani guys should stop wearing those tight pants and shirts, holding hands, kissing, and hugging each other (even in brotherly manner).

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:omg:

they are not even gay.

" App hi shair pora karein "
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Move to a different city.
don't give parents heart attack. find a partner but avoid to hold hands and kiss in public.(because its gross)