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xtron I really want to read what you have written but do you mind editing in a couple of paragraphs, i keep reading the same sentances over and over :) as i am on my phone!
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forgive me, whenever i read your post it confuses the hell out of me, you stretch the one topic into multiple different topics and your one point takes up 3-5 lines that turns out to be irrelevant 
give me some time to respond pls
Re: If you won't look, you won't find the one.
xtron I really want to read what you have written but do you mind editing in a couple of paragraphs, i keep reading the same sentances over and over :) as i am on my phone!
sup inspiron. Fixed..sorry yo..i was in hurry when i wrote.
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lol @ SK. why are you making it too complicated yourself, if you other multis are ok with her long posts. :D
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@ ShareyarKhan: My apologies for the wordy posts. My personal belief is that nothing is black and white....hence I tend to include tons of details, and create various scenarios. No rush in responding. Take your time. :)
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It's not much of an issue....in the end everyone gets married so chill while you can.
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lolss yarr
lol @ SK. why are you making it too complicated yourself, if you other multis are ok with her long posts. :D
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It's not much of an issue....in the end everyone gets married so chill while you can.
In movies may be, not in real life
but yeah, everything has a time and it will only happen on time. Keep looking but Dont burn yourself over it.
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Exactly…now girls, go in Allviews and read what pregnancy does to you in BBQ’s thread. 
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they are only talking to find one, you are taking it to whole new level … in fact on 2nd 3rd level ! LOL
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part A
being friendly, being friends, or not being rude are different. when you use 'never' you are assuming something that is not true. and moreover you are applying to different situations that cannot be lumped together.
"I'd really love to know if any guys reading this would give more izzat to girls who refuse to carry a friendly chatter and come across as being difficult to get. Would any of you (guys reading this) consider them more of the "wife material" versus a girl who chooses to react to you in a friendly/"I'm open to getting to know you" manner?" - what you wrote applies to a specific situation so if we dont focus on that then we will be discussing random things
part B
to answer your post, i do have friendly conversation with women in my workplace meaning hi hello how are you and NOT hey nice dress
the social setup i have/live in women do not come up to me to introduce just to have a conversation. i do not go to clubs, bars, etc. if it is something to do with profession then the conversation is strictly profession, not 'lets have lunch one day'
see you have mixed so many different things
anyway to summarize: profession conversations are different, while social conversations are different - this needs to be clear - there are girls who are professionals and can carry out such conversations but are conservative in social situations/gatherings
I would - I believe there is no need to get friendly with na-mehram. "getting to know you" for honest intentions and marriage purposes is different and does not require months and years of interaction.
this modern concept of husbands having girl-friends and wives having guy-friends is completely ridiculous and inappropriate imo
so to answer ur question, yes i would
Ok. That's fair. Let me word it in a different way.
So when you're in a social situation....any type of house parties, melas etc.....even professional gatherings....you NEVER have friendly chatter/conversations with women? Forget months or years of dating or chatting up a woman for any romantic purposes.........You NEVER have any nice/friendly banter/conversations with na-mehram women period?
Also, let's say you're in social situation where a woman came up to you, introduced herself and started a simple general conversation. Even if she herself isn't saying or doing anything to even hint at dating/marriage or anything romantic/sexual.......heck maybe the entire conversation has to do with whatever field you work in (assuming its a professional/networking event).....would you lose respect for her just becuase she chose to have a friendly conversation with you? Let's say she's good looking, Pakistani, Muslim....and just by whatever she's talking about....she comes across as being educated/intelligent. Despite all that, would you never consider her for marriage just because she started a conversation with you at a public event?
While I completely understand and respect your views in regards to dating......I'm curious about your views on women who decide to simply have a friendly conversation at a social event....a conversation without giving ANY hints at dating/marriage etc.
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I dont understand. So from that one convo you two fell in love? and went to your parents?
Its not like i called back and said i wana marry you..... Point is that the cold behavior to a non mehram didn't make her image bad.
So you mean to say that you liked the girl because she had shown you her values? Or was that your parents who selected her for you? It seems to be an arranged marriage.
No my my parents were involved but only after I talked to my dad...
I think we were having as issue on this thread that if girl comes out with cold behavior then she will repel guys and with a friendly behavior its an issue too. What i meant to say was these things dont matter, Be your self and the rite person for you will like you for who you are.
Nice and congrats! However, the MAJOR difference in your situation is that your dad and her dad had been friends for decades. So even though she came across as being cold.....due to the family connection, you had the means to find out that she's not a cold person but acted that way due to her values/beliefs.
We're talking about situations where the families don't know one other and there are no other mutual friends. There are no 3rd parties to vouch and say that the girl is really a nice girl even though she came across as being rude/cold.
That makes alot of sense.
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murgha is secondary thing in gal’s life.
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Xtron - I think when pakistani girls show 'attitude' SOMETIMES they are infact trying not to be too I dnno 'forward'?
Its what happens to me and when i make my 'im busy face'. Its not that I think I am too good, its like. Ok dont go for his advances and maintain your izzat.
I think what I have learnt is not everything is black and white.
A guy is not always trying to take advantage of you and as girls we can approach guys and be nice and friendly without looking 'bad' or coming across as despo.
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@ ShahreyarKhan: Thanks! I just noticed your location (Lahore?) and am realizing that probably makes a huge difference in our experiences and expectations. I guess even in professional settings....conversations are very limited to "hi how are you" .....while in the U.S. my experience is totally different. So even at professional networking events.....the idea of "networking" is very different there (compared to the U.S.) due to the cultural norm.
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@inspiron, Yes, I think we need to stop thinking that guys would be judging us that we are talking to them just because we want them to like us and to marry us immediately.
We need to be our usual self to everyone. If anyone approaches us, good. Be friendly to them. It will not give him an idea that we are so desperate to get married that we want them to send our rishta the next day. Taking things camly and slowly will get us a good friend which might turn out to be our spouse if it was meant to be.
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Seems like a plan :k:
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@inspiron, Yes, I think we need to stop thinking that guys would be judging us that we are talking to them just because we want them to like us and to marry us immediately.
We need to be our usual self to everyone. If anyone approaches us, good. Be friendly to them. It will not give him an idea that we are so desperate to get married that we want them to send our rishta the next day. Talking things camly and slowly will get us a good friend which might turn out to be our spouse if it was meant to be.
Yes :) I think we have learnt alot today!
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I’ve always found in some things the more we desperately go and try to seek out the more they won’t happen.
When the time comes it comes, trust me. 