maybe because you are Aaj ki Aurat 
you know I had a feeling that thread was about yours truly, I think I’ll go over there right now and see if I can offer any help
maybe then AP i mean PA will start to like me
Copycat, come-up with your own ideas.
What's wrong with this copy-cat idea ? well nothing actually if you keep and practice this only inside place of your residence, mental hospital...... LOL
Regards
How? I was giving u a taste of ur own medicine! Its okay for a man to get married again but not wife?
Your reply jus shows u couldnt take it! Now stop crying!
Re: If husband keeps you happy, would you let him marry again.
NEVER!
Re: If husband keeps you happy, would you let him marry again.
I know of an imam who I heard married a second wife. The first wife, although religious was heartbroken. When I saw her, u could see the distress in her face. Although women are aware that Islam allows men to have up to 4 wives......very few women are comfortable with the idea of sharing their husband with another woman. Imagine the mental/emotional agony of her picturing him in bed with another woman......and wondering if he finds her prettier, better, smarter, etc.
I highly doubt that I would be able to stay in a marriage if my husband were to get another wife. Because I feel that try as he might, he would never be able to treat us equally (as encouraged by Islam in the instance of multiple wives). As the Quran says,
"Marry women of your choice, two, or three, or four; but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one." **Al-Quran (4:3)
"You will never be able to be fair and just among women (wives)...."** Quran (4:129)
It's hard for a man to treat his wives equally........be it financially.......and emotionally. You can tell when somebody is being more favored, more acknowledged, and receiving more attention than you.......sometimes the person is not even aware that they are giving one person more attention over another.....through things as subtle yet noticeable as body language. For those women who can handle a second wife .....more power to them. For me.....I believe I'd rather be on my own.
Yes, I dont care either way.
Re: If husband keeps you happy, would you let him marry again.
funny topics - wasting time on topics that don't exists in real life!
If you ask me whether I would be okay for HIM to marry again - then I would say YES YES YES!!!
but it has to be a deal maker for me - The other woman should cook, clean, and keep the place tidy. She must go for grocery shopping. She must drop off and pick up kids from school. she must take the car for a wash. she must give ME a ride to the shopping center.
I, on the other hand, can stay home and keep my kids happy! and also get to wear brand names, go for world tour, and all the niceness in the world.
How? I was giving u a taste of ur own medicine! Its okay for a man to get married again but not wife?
Your reply jus shows u couldnt take it! Now stop crying!
Dear Sir.
It is not my medicine to begin with, it is an upper limit of wives set by all mighty Allah himself, secondly we are discussing marriage in Islam and to answer your question, yes Its okay for man to have more than one wife at a time and not okay for woman to have ore than one husband at a time.
Hope this clears some confusions in your mind
Regards.
PS: As a thread creator, I only asked a question, I never said I support people who do this or otherwise...
Re: If husband keeps you happy, would you let him marry again.
If I can keep my husband happy then why would he want to marry again? :)
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Islam has wonderful teachings but I don't understand why Husbands do not have to ask their 1st wife if they can marry again. This is unjust and will cause so much hurt for the 1st wife.
If a Husband is a true Muslim - then a true Muslim fears Allah and would never want to cause so much pain and hurt to his wife, which will happen when she can't sleep at night as she wonders about her Husband and his new wife copulating! Pardon me to put it so blunty but these would be natural thoughts! It is unfair for a Husband to remarry without his 1st wife's consent. Shouldn't a Muslim Husband be respectable and caring towards his wife's feelings?
A husband should treat his wife with kindness and respect. If he is a good Muslim, then he should take his wife's feelings into consideration and ask her if he can marry a 2nd wife. And why not? She is his wife! Men would be unable to bear the thought of their wives with other men! Think how wifes would feel?
completely agree and well said :k:
besides the very thought of of the husband touching another woman and then touching you is enough to gross any woman out
major eeeeeeeeewwwwwwww
even if a woman remained married to him she would probably forbid such a man from her bed - how gross
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yes Its okay for man to have more than one wife at a time and not okay for woman to have ore than one husband at a time.
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And why is that? If his wife can keep him happy than there is no need for him to get married again is there?
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I never had any confusions.......
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And i am sure you asked this question knowing what kind of response you will get!
Exactly! Lol. This is what makes that man so happy though. Wife would probably be so hurt but be unable to do anything about it.
I always wonder how these men try to treat their wives fairly.
Do these Husbands have a timetable stuck on their walls reminding them who to spend the night with? How on earth do these things work? Anyone here with more than one wife or anyone know anyone with more than one wife? Do they take turn cooking? Where does Hubby keep his clothes or does he divide them between two rooms? How does he cope with his wives asking who he prefers?
The men on my in-laws side have many wives. Some want more sons, some want a younger wife etc. But I can never ask their wives anything b/c I don’t want to cause any offence. Lol. But their wives always used to tease me saying I was greedy in a very playful way and told me how lucky I was that I had him all to myself.
Exactly! Lol. This is what makes that man so happy though. Wife would probably be so hurt but be unable to do anything about it.
I always wonder how these men try to treat their wives fairly.
Do these Husbands have a timetable stuck on their walls reminding them who to spend the night with? How on earth do these things work? Anyone here with more than one wife or anyone know anyone with more than one wife? Do they take turn cooking? Where does Hubby keep his clothes or does he divide them between two rooms? How does he cope with his wives asking who he prefers?
The men on my in-laws side have many wives. Some want more sons, some want a younger wife etc. But I can never ask their wives anything b/c I don't want to cause any offence. Lol. But their wives always used to tease me saying I was greedy in a very playful way and told me how lucky I was that I had him all to myself.
my mother was telling me of a situation, an american revert who married a saudi man as his second wife
she was a doctor, graduated in america - anyway the marriage is ending now in a divorce because she cant stand how he never spends time with her or their one child - she plans to go back to america and guess what?
the husband is keeping the little girl that he has never taken any interest in ever - how obtuse is that?
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Won't the wife try to take her daughter with her?
Won't the wife try to take her daughter with her?
she was thinking of going to america to fight the custody battle but I think she's a little twisted in the head
she thinks its 'islamic' to give the child over to her husband even though he has hardly set foot in their lives
and as for the supporting financially situation - she supports herself she is a paediatrician, and shall I tell you what kind of fights they had?
He would turn up at her house and start moving her dining table out (to take to the first wifes house - who coincidently has 9 kids) and when she would say anything he would tell her to pay for it since it wasn't hers to begin with
I know - major headache - she should have just stayed in america when she went to stay with her filthy rich parents and kept her daughter with her just to save her sanity - I mean the saudi has nine other kids he hardly spends time with - how would not keeping the one he ignores most cause him any problems?
Re: If husband keeps you happy, would you let him marry again.
Well I think that says a lot about the Husband.
Sad story. This is what this quote means: "Love is blind!"
Lol.
she was thinking of going to america to fight the custody battle but I think she's a little twisted in the head
she thinks its 'islamic' to give the child over to her husband even though he has hardly set foot in their lives and as for the supporting financially situation - she supports herself she is a paediatrician, and shall I tell you what kind of fights they had?
He would turn up at her house and start moving her dining table out (to take to the first wifes house - who coincidently has 9 kids) and when she would say anything he would tell her to pay for it since it wasn't hers to begin with
I know - major headache - she should have just stayed in america when she went to stay with her filthy rich parents and kept her daughter with her just to save her sanity - I mean the saudi has nine other kids he hardly spends time with - how would not keeping the one he ignores most cause him any problems?
She is a pediatrician...!
I think women with high paying jobs suffer more than anything. I have seen women who make good money - their hubby's are always "free" loaders - or end up being one. Imagine if her hubby supports her - how beautiful and rich their lives could be.
I knew this one woman - she was a doctor and had only one son. Her hubby was literally a drunkard! and did not go to job. His father lived with them - and obviously it was a rented apartment - not even a house! How messed up... she would have to come home and cook and serve them. (They moved out to some other place - but I hope the woman left this looser).
In this case, i think the hubby probably changed AFTER marriage right? I mean I just don't believe a girl who studied to be a doctor would marry such a loser out of choice.
And why is that? If his wife can keep him happy than there is no need for him to get married again is there?
Shaz chan ji
Your question why men are allowed multiple marriages in Islam shows state of your confused mind...lol
I never had any confusions.......
Please see above response...lol
And i am sure you asked this question knowing what kind of response you will get!
That's the whole idea....That's the reason of RAONAK of this forum....
Remember, criticism is the gateway for learning as long as it is not 'TANQEED BARAYAY TANQEED', yeh the one that you are doing.....
Regards
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Your question why men are allowed multiple marriages in Islam shows state of your confused mind...lol
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I aint confused! I know why men are allowed multiple marriages but every men seem to use this excuse for getting married again. If a wife can keep u happy than why marry to another woman?
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Please see above response...lol
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Whats with this lol in every comment? Seems like u laugh at the things that u dont understand
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That's the whole idea....That's the reason of RAONAK of this forum....
Remember, criticism is the gateway for learning as long as it is not 'TANQEED BARAYAY TANQEED', yeh the one that you are doing.....
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Explain that bold part in above in english, my urdu is not very good.