If husband keeps you happy, would you let him marry again.

X2 · February 5, 2009, 4:40am

Re: If husband keeps you happy, would you let him marry again.

okay so ladies if you are not in favour of a guy getting a secind wife, would you be okay with muttah and misyar?

secondly, can someone change his sect for like an hour...okay damn who am I kidding..how about 15 minutes?

X2 · February 5, 2009, 4:54am

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aik toh meray serious sawal ka jawab kaheen naheen milta
u ppl have any idea how many hookups and booty calls I have missed due to your lack of support on this topic??

sheesh

Niksik · February 5, 2009, 4:58am

Bhaijaan, yahaN meri shaadi ki baat nahi ho rahi. Aap apni fikar kareiN.. pehlay aik to ker laiN ji. Phir baat keraiN gey.

Niksik · February 5, 2009, 4:59am

What is misyar? Yeh nai nai cheezain kahan sey aa jati haiN?

X2 · February 5, 2009, 5:01am

when you make a miss a yaar, u have engaged in misyar.
its some other lets fool god and find a legal loophole hookup thing that khwar mullahs have come up with, but u know me..if u cant beat em, join em

Reha · February 5, 2009, 5:02am

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Is that the temporary nikah? Where you can be married for like an hour or something? Do people even do that?

Niksik · February 5, 2009, 5:04am

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Oh my god, I’m like totally missing this yaar aaaaaaaaaaah!

Gr8Heera · February 5, 2009, 5:04am

Haan to aap dhoondh do na koi achchi si.

GS walian mut maththay charhanay lugna Koi apnay mutlub ki naheen hai warna jootay hi khain gi mujh say agar apnay yaaron say dosti rakhain gi to shadi kay baad bhi.

No hi kisi UKan, Usan, Canadian say naheen karna. Sirf Pakistani say aur wo bhi naik parhaiz gar ho, shareef ho.

Naee cheezain seekhnay kay liaay market main aa raheen hain.

Gr8Heera · February 5, 2009, 5:14am

For you he is a schlor but I haven't heard about him.

How could a Pakistani know that this Syrian Scholar is a reputable Scholar.

How could a Pakistani gather information about that person other then internet and on internet what he or his ppl has put we will see that.

So according to you leave quran and sunnah and listen to this scholar Allah knows who is that person.

Exactly. You are genius and have a gr8 knowledge.

He didn't say that he want to make an aurat a slave.

From where in quran and hadees you are making this rule that a woman can ask to put condition and about the divorce in the nikah form?

Why there is not argument about it in Deen.

X2 · February 5, 2009, 5:17am

that is muttah..

here are some definitions..

muttah:

Nikāḥu l-Mut‘ah (Arabic: نكاح المتعة‎ marriage for pleasure), or sigheh, is a fixed-term marriage contract according to the Usuli Shia schools of Shari‘a (Islamic law). The duration of this type of marriage is fixed at its inception and is then automatically dissolved upon completion of its term.

misyar:

Nikah Misyar or “travellers’ marriage” (Arabic: نكاح المسيار) is the Sunni Muslim Nikah (marriage) contract carried out via the normal contractual procedure, with the specificity that the wife gives up several of her rights by her own free will, such as living with the husband, equal division of nights between wives in cases of polygamy, rights to housing, and maintenance money

i think misyar has no term specification when it is started, muttah does.

to me it all sounds dodgy kinda… haha look we got around the whole zina and social ills of screwing around business..
..but then I am no scholar what do I know :halo:

plus who knows when I run into some babe at a business trip and well…loophole baby!!!

PS: the definitions are from wikipedia, not my own words

shoponline4kaprey · February 5, 2009, 5:17am

Wow this is the most honest description of the situation I’ve seen! It’s true God gives everyone different tests and in Allah’s infinite visions the test for women is harder, it might mean that our reward will be greater as well. Only Allah knows best. Allah allowed multiple marriage for men both as a responsibility and as a mercy. Some scholar’s claim that men have the opportunity to satisfy their desires with multiple marriage because they have the additional responsibility to take care of the family, in that scenario one could argue that when men and women work on an equal plain then that special benefit is no longer valid. In the end, the best way to expand a population is to allow male polygomy because a man can impregnate multiple women at one time. When you coniser the main purpose of a momen’s existance is 'Dawa" or spreading the faith to non-blievers the idea of multiple marriage makes sense ( a way to increase the number of muslims). Not that all this makes it easier on the ladies who have to deal with it! but Allah knows best and has the reward for everyone based on their life.

Sick Joke - Only in America

Paki Amrikan bhaijaan, you thread is very interesting indeed… like adding garam masala to a bowl of spicy nihari. The after effects ain’t that great

You know, while muslim women are very aware of what is possible and allowed, sadly enough, we don’t quite like the idea of our husbands having second wives even though it is allowed. It’s just the way we are… it’s hard to share and imagine your husband being in someone else’s bed. I also know that if a man found out his wife liked someone else romantically or was cheating on him, he can give her a divorce in a few seconds. However, the guy can marry his mistress and make it all halal. So yeah, there are some sad realities and we just hope and pray we or our loved ones never have to go through this situation.

I think I speak for most women here although I personally know of a lebanese friend who was brought up with the expectation that her husband will marry his 4 so she was always OK with it.

Reha · February 5, 2009, 5:23am

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I dont know X2...sounds fishy to me. I dont like it...nope...dont like it at all.

It might be true but for some reason, I cant imagine the reasoning behind it.

Gr8Heera · February 5, 2009, 5:29am

Why you give fansite mashwara to others why not open yourself see how many fans come must be alot. Almost whole GS except me as I’m not modern or Liberal + very religious.

She is sweat hear in her mohalla.

Agree. So here you quoting one quran thing and negating other quran thing. What is that?

Kenji to meri bhi fan hai per Mujhay Alim online naheen kaha…ROING.

I would feel proud to get degree from you.

Yeah Kenji is very impressive. I’m impressed by her too. I can go to her room for sleep over.

Are you a painter. Thats good. Why red why not Paint quran everywhere. I would love to be your help. I would hold your banner.

Gold smith or Iron Smith?

X2 · February 5, 2009, 5:39am

well their are reasons given like if somoene is a divorcee or widow/widower who does not want a regular marriage but does not want to engage in zina, then they can use the facility of misyar. or for ppl who cant afford to get married and support a wife,

for muttah it is said when you are away from home and rather than commit adultery, you marry someone and then do the deed officially.

I think people can make almost anything sweem rational when you compare it to some ill, luckily there are scholars who are also opposed to it because of the social impact of practices like these, and the issue of children etc etc.

but from what I read its totally allowed. :halo: even if it means that it just allows saudi sheikhs to get jiggy with strippers in vegas..

Gr8Heera · February 5, 2009, 5:56am

Sick Joke - Only in America

Paki Amrikan bhaijaan, you thread is very interesting indeed… like adding garam masala to a bowl of spicy nihari. The after effects ain’t that great

You know, while muslim women are very aware of what is possible and allowed, sadly enough, we don’t quite like the idea of our husbands having second wives even though it is allowed. It’s just the way we are… it’s hard to share and imagine your husband being in someone else’s bed. I also know that if a man found out his wife liked someone else romantically or was cheating on him, he can give her a divorce in a few seconds. However, the guy can marry his mistress and make it all halal.

So yeah, there are some sad realities and we just hope and pray we or our loved ones never have to go through this situation.

I think I speak for most women here although I personally know of a lebanese friend who was brought up with the expectation that her husband will marry his 4 so she was always OK with it.

Shukr Alhamdolillah maan lia That’s like My Nikki didi.

Is liaay kay larkion kay dil bohat chotay hotay hain aur hasad jalan un main ziada hota hai.

Yes it’s better to let him marry his mistress to Make it HALAL and save your husband from gunah if you love him. Don’t be mean and selfish.

I do hope and pray same for all loved ones.

I’m speaking from from most of the men and women side but they don’t understand.

Because she is your friend and you must have used banner and mohalla party to juloos for her and won.

What is the relation for Angelina Jolie here?

Are you saying something or expressing something in code?

LOL Now Talking like man lol. Zara sa bahkaya ki finju nain aap bahak hi gaay. Apnay martabay ka to khiaal rakhna tha na. Lahol Wala Quwat.

Wow great person you look like. I’m still very nice to you.

Akhir man hai na kub tuk bailan ko nazron main rakhta. lol

She only give mashwara to males to start fansite and she want to visit there.

She will do a party and Call bhangra party for you to watch. aur Fenju sub ki sirbarah ho gi.

Gr8Heera · February 5, 2009, 6:03am

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*Paki Amrikan bhaijaan, you thread is very interesting indeed… like adding garam masala to a bowl of spicy nihari. The after effects ain’t that great

You know, while muslim women are very aware of what is possible and allowed, sadly enough, we don’t quite like the idea of our husbands having second wives even though it is allowed. It’s just the way we are… it’s hard to share and imagine your husband being in someone else’s bed. I also know that if a man found out his wife liked someone else romantically or was cheating on him, he can give her a divorce in a few seconds. However, the guy can marry his mistress and make it all halal. So yeah, there are some sad realities and we just hope and pray we or our loved ones never have to go through this situation.

I think I speak for most women here although I personally know of a lebanese friend who was brought up with the expectation that her husband will marry his 4 so she was always OK with it..
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my new skirt

Wow this is the most honest description of the situation I’ve seen! It’s true God gives everyone different tests and in Allah’s infinite visions the test for women is harder, it might mean that our reward will be greater as well. Only Allah knows best. Allah allowed multiple marriage for men both as a responsibility and as a mercy. Some scholar’s claim that men have the opportunity to satisfy their desires with multiple marriage because they have the additional responsibility to take care of the family, in that scenario one could argue that when men and women work on an equal plain then that special benefit is no longer valid. In the end, the best way to expand a population is to allow male polygomy because a man can impregnate multiple women at one time. When you coniser the main purpose of a momen’s existance is 'Dawa" or spreading the faith to non-blievers the idea of multiple marriage makes sense ( a way to increase the number of muslims). Not that all this makes it easier on the ladies who have to deal with it! but Allah knows best and has the reward for everyone based on their life.

Wow Zabardast Post both by Kapray and Nikki Didi.

Gr8Heera · February 5, 2009, 6:07am

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Thanks for the Info about Muttah and Misyaar X2.

But what I read in quran that you have to marry not for your pleasure something like that.

X2 · February 5, 2009, 6:27am

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gr8heera,
I dont claim to know anything.
its scholars who are counting them as shriah complaint things
who am I to argue.

poddy · February 5, 2009, 6:57am

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interesting topic!

Gr8Heera · February 5, 2009, 7:11am

Yeah.

But at least we have to try to understand to come to a clue according to quran.

But I didn't know about Misyar and just heard before Mutah. Now from you learned thos two things. Thanks for info.