Nop.
He makes her happy means he does all his faraiz with her and she is satisfied. So she is happy.
She will become unhappy after his marriage so that is not his problem after marrying it’s her problem.
Wife ka khush hona na hona uskay haath main naheen wo koshish kar sakta hai laikin wife agar kisi bhi baat pay khush na ho to us main shohar ka kia qusoor.
That’s so funny.
Aray Niki didi kia ho gia hai itna sir pay mar mar kay phola kar lia hai na is liaay ajeeb ajeeb baat kar raheen hain.
Koi biwi naheen la kar deti husband khud lay ata hai.
You can say I try to keep him happy. He is happy or not that he can say. You can’t say that he is happy. Aap samjhti ho wo happy hai. Wo happy hain kay naheen yay to wo hi janta hai na.
Polygamy is not a bad setting at all. It can be very fruitful. But it can only be successful if every person involved in the setting know their position, their boundaries, their job. It's a highly desciplined system. The division of work, division of funds, and the division of love has to be very skillfully maintainted. It can be very disastrous for people who dont know what they are into.
Ok I think I should leave this thread Before people start throwing rotten tomatoes at me ...
Very well said.
A bahtareen tomato for you from me to eat. Don't run away main hoon na. lol
y u just think abt urself....my answer is simple but for sensible persons ONLY.
if ur husband is happy wid u,and u r happy wid him = no clash husband keeps u happy but he is not happy by u =????
Exactly. So you saying I'm sensible. But this Spok I don't know he or she says me silly. Sometimes I might not understand english and might not explain well but I understand well.
Ha ha ha khush hoing Spok ki band bajaing. lol. J/k
so the title of the thread should be "If you realize that you cant keep your husband happy, would you let him marry again"
Either it doesn't matter if she become unhappy after his marriage it's not his problem.
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heera pai, are you married?
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^ I dont think so.
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yeah warna mrs. Heera would make Gr8Keema out of him if she saw this thread.
oooo, I don't want this topic to turn into a religious thing but TLK, plz watch out what you say, our prophet (PBUH) had 9 (some say 11 or 13) wives at a time and he was the most selfless (opposite of selfish) that Allah ever created.
As a forum director you should not say anything even indirectly that can offend anyone regardless of your religious believes
And I am not a girl, I am a man, at-least I was, last time I checked.... Regards
Why not turn it into religious. Provide religious rulings and proves too.
I don't know why ppl say so much again Quran Nauzbillah. If quran allowed then who the hell are we opposing.
Agree to Second paragraph.
LOL for last paragraph
and the answer would b ...YES
Me yes to. High five to Fazeelat.
Such a thought never ever crossed our minds. Marriage is beautiful with just one person. :)
Marriage could be beautiful with more wifes too if dil bara ho ladies ka aur her taraf say imandari ho.
A muslim woman can divorce her husband in one of three ways - if she did not request the right of divorce in her nikkah nama, she may go to a qadi with a valid reason (abuse, he can't bear children, he fails to fulfill his obligations to her, he is a murtad, etc.) and apply for a divorce. If she chooses not to take this route, she may apply for a khula, in which case she needs to return the mahr.
If, like me, she has the right of divorce written into her contract, she may simply inform him that she is divorcing him and begin the process.
In Profit's daur there was no nikahnama so no rule of giving divorce to husband.
Only husband can divorce. Why ppl learning from gorays rule to divorce. She can ask for khula.
Two of my uncles have married twice. Both of their households are a hotbed of conflict. So for the husband's, the wife's and the children's sake a big fat no!
The reason would be unjustice done by you uncles.
I like the title as it is, plz come up with your own title, don't steal anyone's ideas....
Regards
Agree I love the title. What a genuine person you are.
Yes of course I would! He could go live in her house and smell it out inside of mine, leaving the monies behind of course.
Serioulsy. I wouldnt really have a problem with it depending on the circumstances.
So you value money more than your husband.
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True queer, before they get married they all talk about having four wives and such. You dont even see these men after they get married...lol
You can’t say that if your wife keeps you happy. How could you know that she keeps you happy?
She only can try to keep him happy.
If he provides everything what her needs according to Islam then why can’t he go for his own happiness.
Now let me explain to you this way.
Why would he care about his wife happiness and not for himself and make himself gunahgar.
Which one would you prefer TLK bhai.
You are not satisfied sexually by your wife. Now you provide everything and do all ther faraiz for your wife happiness now what would you do?
How long can you keep yourself unsatisfied sexually?
Then you will have 2 options either go to the gunah that’s what most ppl do. or go to marry a lady? Which one is better.
I don’t understand when and if we know that hashar kay din kisi ko kisi ki koi parwah naheen ho gi. Na parents buchchon ko aur na buchchay parents ko pehchanay gay laikin sub apnay amal ka hisaab day rahay hon gay aur uski fikar pari ho gi. Isn’t it selfish. Us din aulad apnay parents say aur parents apnay aulaad say naikian lenay main chorain gay naheen.
To jub itnay baray din main sub itnay khudgharz ho jaain gay. Kioon? isi gunah aur sawab ki wajah say to…
Duniya main kioon koi khud gharz naheen ho sakta isi gunah say buchchnay kay liaay, Allah ki khushi kay liaay, apni khushi kay liaay. Kioon naheen khud gharz ho sakta? Answer me please.
Aik aur sawal.
Wo biwi ko khush rakhnay kay liaay sub kuch kar sakta hai to khud ko kioon naheen. Kia hum apni khush naheen daikhtay her mamlay main.
Apni khushi kay liaay kia hum khud gharz naheen ho jatay jub parents ki marzi kay baghair shadi kar letay hain. Jub parents ko chor jatay hain apni khushi kay liaay. Jub sub ko chor jaatay hain apni khushi kay liaay.
Kia aap khud gharz naheen As I’m assuming that you are not living with your parents to kia aap khud gharz naheen kay burhapay main parents ko chor kay biwi kay saath reh rahay hain.
Her insaan khud gharz hota hai balkay intehai ghudgharz hota hai jahan wo apni khushi daikhta hai wo karta hai.
So
Why not khud ko gunah say bachanay kay liaay apni khushi daikhay. Why not?
If he have money to afford other wife and physically satisfy other wifes. Then why not.
Yes please
Fatwa is not A Allah’s word. Neither Muhammad SAWW word.
Genius Eh. Please answer for me.
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He may not need my permission but that doesnt mean Ill accept it. I dont think Ill stick around **unless the reason is valid and one that I cannot ignore./**quote]
So you will become boss of him.
He don’t need your permission don’t you know that Liberal and very religious person.
The reason which might be valid for him but might not be valid for you.
What if he says “teri shakal 24 hours naheen daikhna chahta” then what would be your ruling Boss. Mazaq
Waisay uska baap bun kar bhi order day sakti ho. Quran main ijazat naheen to kia huwa akhir yahan ki pali barhi ho yahan to sub ijazat hai.
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Its like, if you pay off one car, does that mean you can buy another one on a loan? Yes.
Or if you harvest in one piece of land and it turns out good, does that mean you can harvest another and hope for the best? Yes.
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now why would you wanna use a car as an analogy for a wife haiN!
did we run out of meat analogies?
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Very true...cars, wives, household appliances, homes, etc. I mean, they're all the same thing so why not?
now why would you wanna use a car as an analogy for a wife haiN!
did we run out of meat analogies?
No, just trying to irritate our resident feminist extremists here on GS.
Are you the kalu and budshakal person in the avatar?
Gr8heera, i am telling you dude, this statement is going to cost you. Personal attacks and insults are a big NO on GS.
I reported it to Mods, they should take a proper action on this
He called me extremist first.
Did you noted that if not please note that.
fine, I am going to close this thread. Mods can come, read it, clean it, take whatever action and reopen it
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**I have cleaned up this thread and have unlocked it. Please continue with discussion in a civilized manner.
[mod]Please note, personal attacks are not tolerated on this forum** *Personal attacks will result in a warning....no exceptions! *[/mod]
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OK Boss Jo kahna tha ub to kah dia.
Kabhi kabhi zuban phisaal jaat hai.
Such sub ko karwi lugti hai aur mujhay meethi lol
Thanks for Opening thread. Angel Eyes.
I like your Angel Eyes.
Kash kay GS pay asli Angel ki Eyes hoti to mujhay koi problem naheen hoti. lol
I am not comparing anything. Just stated a fact.
I am not the one who has a lost mind sir it's you. Got up on the wrong side of the bed this morning?
How is he lost his mind.
So due to his lost mind you got up on the wrong side of the bed. What is the relation between both.
njgal, smile and nod sister, smile and nod.
Gr8 Advice.
I belong to a Sunni sect, and only contract or fatwa or whatever that I agree with is Quran then Ahadees. Plus there is no place for any fatwa if the order is clearly given in Quran and Ahadees. And this topic is covered in both in details, so the fatwa you found on the internet is wrong. (on internet, you don't really know who is behind the website so your argument is quite week).
I know you will never agree because this is also one of the 'QAYAMAT KI NISHANI' that there will be many ALIMS but no ILM.
Aaj ki aurat nay apna hi aik alag mazhab bana liya hai jisko who apnay khiyal mein Islam samajhti hai. Look at this njgal, she is bringing Mormonism into this.... duh... we are talking about Nikha which is strictly Islamic term....what does this Mormonism has anything to do with it ?
Regards
1000000 % Agree.
When everything is clear from quran o hadees then there is no need of any fatwa.
Who knows fatwa denay wala kaffir ka cheela hai kay Mushrik ka kay munfiq ka.
Kuch Mullah to Sood ko bhi halaal ka fatwa detay hain.
You must be thinking that I am one of those who in the name of "modernization" go and ready to criticize sunnat. You will be pleasantly surprise to see my POV if you follow my posts around. But at the same time, just remember, those who use Sunnat to fulfil their agendas are no better than those who disregard sunnat altogether,
I know people who remembered only this sunnat of prohphet and nothing else. You ask them the sunnat of sleeping, sunnat of going to the bathroom, sunnat of taking care of family .. they wont know .. but yes sunnat of marrying more than one woman, not only do they know but love to practice cause its "SUNNAT".
and you can prove me wrong if you want to. I am not an angel who cannot make mistakes. Go ahead,
First He meant your are the Boss of GS so he don't want to offend you.
The Higlighted line is your assumption.
How could a person who use sunnat and disregard sunnat. Might be saying that your own way.
Kia hota hai agar aik bhi sunnat pay koi amal karta hai baqi pay naheen to achcha hai kum uz kum aik pay to karta hai. Sub pay to koi aaj kal naheen karta hai aur na kar sakta hai. Khuwah wo koi bhi ho aap ya hum
Aap nain wo hadis naheen suni kay jo meri aik sunnat ko zinda karta hai....Agay I forgot. Can anyone help me by posting full hadees.
Oh TLK bhai kia ho gia hai. Aap intehai choti choti sunnat ko compare kar rahay hain jo main bhi janti hoon yani jissay itna ziada knowledge naheen Islam ka.
Sonay ki sunnat, bathroom janay ki sunnat yay to bohat choti aur asan hain.
You didn't say nakhun katnay ki sunnat.
How could you say he disregard sunnat.
You must be thinking that I am one of those who in the name of "modernization" go and ready to criticize sunnat. You will be pleasantly surprise to see my POV if you follow my posts around. But at the same time, just remember, those who use Sunnat to fulfil their agendas are no better than those who disregard sunnat altogether,
I know people who remembered only this sunnat of prohphet and nothing else. You ask them the sunnat of sleeping, sunnat of going to the bathroom, sunnat of taking care of family .. they wont know .. but yes sunnat of marrying more than one woman, not only do they know but love to practice cause its "SUNNAT".
and you can prove me wrong if you want to. I am not an angel who cannot make mistakes. Go ahead,
hey now you know how I feel when I argue with you on the sunnat and hadeeth point :D
how does it feel when the shoe is on the other foot
bawhawhawhaw
throughl enjoying reading the exchange :D
PS: or did you learn something from me
PS2: is lobster halal yet?