eh I don't know - I like the idea of a shotgun wedding more
Re: If husband keeps you happy, would you let him marry again.
And let some other innocnet woman suffer no way!
and they say women are each others enemies 
I appreciate your talent as an observer and an admirer, not as a participant and a victim :)
ok if you insist
(but its just you ok? I don't think I could live with myself if I couldn't go around handing out double edged swords - it just doesn't work that way for me)
:)
Re: If husband keeps you happy, would you let him marry again.
and saieens dont belong to anyone anyway
ok if you insist
(but its just you ok? I don't think I could live with myself if I couldn't go around handing out double edged swords - it just doesn't work that way for me)
:)
Thanks for the honor of handing me that double edged sword, not that I know what to do with that now. :)
Thanks for the honor of handing me that double edged sword, not that I know what to do with that now. :)
English...literature...
shoot what is wrong with men do they not enjoy reading? sighs (poor Shakespeare he's probably turning in his grave right now)
just put it away - save it for some other time :-/
Re: If husband keeps you happy, would you let him marry again.
i didnt read any of the replies but here is ma input....
what if the wife says that i am not happy with u having a 2nd wife....
would the husband still go ahead and do it????
cuz the point is to make both of them happy .... first is clearly telling that she wont b happy then wat?
shoot what is wrong with men do they not enjoy reading?/
we do .. I swear I enjoy my "THE Magazine" subscription for its articles
Niksik Baji
I feel our pain sister....but you should refrain from reffering Allah's laws as 'sad realities'. He is the most HIKMAT WALA, you can't disagree with that sista...
Regards
NO offence.....but polygamy is not practical in today's world....regardless of religion. If you actually care to follow the rules of Allah and you actually are what your name suggests(Paki American) then I would be the first one to attend your second marriage and then witness you rot in jail.....
Islam places great emphasis on a couple to keep each other happy, if a wife does not agree to you taking another wife it will upset her if you do & hence cause a rift in the marriage which is not endorsed by Islam, i am no expert in Islam, this is just common sense, i also believe that if (as some say) a man can marry again without the first wifes permission then this refers to an extreme case where the marriage would greatly benefit the second wife who may at the time be suffering a harsh life, like every teaching in the quran, this must also have a logical reason, & as in Islam women are not regarded as slaves or second class citizens then the husband has no right to upset his wife in this way as she does not have the same right, hence the only logical reason for allowing a man to marry another woman against the wish of the first wife in my opinion is that the other woman situation is so bad that the first wife would later realise that the second marriage was better than to leave the woman in he previous circumstances. This law was not created to allow men to take further brides against their wifes will for selfish reasons…thats called abuse which Islam does not allow.
The only men allowed to have more than one wife are the men so great, so respected & highly held by their wives that they truly believe in their hearts that they alone should not be the only women to have such a man in their life & so are genuinely happy to be able to share the life they have with other women.
Such was the case (i believe) with the prophet & the women in his life…he was a remarkable human being, very few can be like us…
Re: If husband keeps you happy, would you let him marry again.
Tello now come to the point,..chakkar kai he :D
I always thought polygamy was introduced for the unfortunate war widows and their kids (unequal number of women compared to men). Not so some man could have a frolic in the sand.
PakiAmerican now if most men in the modern world, were to marry multiple wives, all the men would rise up in fury because the majority would be left without a spouse. More for that particular time I say.
In my opinion most men who practice polygamy are acting against the teachings of Islam. The religious scholars should begin a clamp down and only approve a trickle of legitimate requests. Another example of how men are tainting their religion for their own selfish gain.
I know most women will hate this topic and show their hatred but what's wrong with this idea?
Heera The girl jaging.
Bilkul khush rakhta kay na rakhta shadi karnay deti. Jub Allah nain ijazat di hai to main kon hoti hoon roknay wali.
Rokna bhi naheen chahyay is liaay kay mashray ki bohat si buraiaan kum ho jaain is tarha. Kai bayasra larkiaan shadi shuda ho jain.
Laikin shadi kay liaay achchi larki chunna chahyay na kay do number jo aap say shadi kay bawajood bhi auron kay saath rung raliaan manati rahay.
No he don’t need your approval at all.
AGree with you totally.
It’s your way that you think we have satisfying marriage. Not his view. He might be satisfied in few or many things but not in all things. No man doesn’t want to remarry as because he has given right but due to certain reasons and that can be very genuine most or some times.
Are you his wife? just curious to know.
What if you love him so much and couldn’t leave him?
That’s what I know.
Exactly
He could be very happy in some and many things but not in all things that’s why.
Illogical.
Nop Fazeelat is very logical.
Paki, he does not need to explain .. but Afro has a point .. if he is happy then he should want to see the wife happy too, and wife will not be happy if he brings another woman, which should make him unhappy (unless he is a selfish guy) that his first wife is not happy .. which will make your thread title invalid for any further discussion
He said if he keeps her happy. She herself is not getting happy it's her fault not his fault why because he is remarrying. That is not his problem that is her problem.
As quran say tumhari haath aur zuban say kisi musalman ko takleef na ponhchaay. Yay naheen kaha tumharay kisi amal say kisi ko takleef na ponhchay. Wo karta hai usko pasand hai uski marzi. Ap biwi kon hoteen hain uski marzi pay qubza jamanay wali. Qabza mafia kia.
Kisi ko qaid karna to sahi naheen hai meray hisaab say. Why wife become boss to her husband. Us nain shadi ki hai khud ko aap ka khulam naheen bana lia na hi khud ko girwi rakhwa liaa kay janaab aap mujh pay her tarha ka hukm chalain. Allah kay hukm pay bhi qubza jamaain.
Muhammad SAWW nain apnay ghulam pay bhi qubza naheen jamaya to aik jeeta jagta insaan pay biwi kioon qabza jamaay.
Shadi kay kisi tarha kay rule main naheen hai kay aap say shadi kar kay uski pasand, uski soach, uski tamaam khuwahishaat sub kuch aap kay qubzay main aa gaeen hain.
Aik insaan pehli position hasil karta hai class main aur 2nd anay wala uski is postion say khush naheen hota to pehli position lanay walay ka is main kia qusoor.
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^^ All of your argument is still valid if we switch the words around between husband and wife
I agree that it is a law of Allah, but so is divorce... yet it is considered to be one of the worst of all allowed acts... people try to prevent divorces from happening until the last straw, until there's really no choice left at all... it is considered a sad event...but it is still allowed... similarly, for a woman, her husband marrying again can never be a happy occasion even though it is allowed. That's all.
Now Nikki baji there is a big difference Allah dislike Divorce. But Allah don't dislike remarry.
Not in Allah's nazar but in only wife's nazar it can't be a happy occasion and can be a happy occasion in husbands nazar.
Your are mixing Allah's allowance with only single wifes allowance.
You Tea Lay Kay bhai you joro kay ghulam can't find the difference in Allah's and wifes nazar. Calling Nikki didi genius.
All mens are not easy going like you.
if you can not make him happy....then let him go.
Why would she if she doesn't want to let him go and in madly love with him.
Someone whose upbringing was in a polygamous household with multiple mothers, their views are very different. (whether they come from our culture or not)
It's just on not our culture - it's the also a mainstream thought in most western countries. In most countries it's illegal to have more than one partner.
In islam - you can have more than one wife. You do not have to ask the wife or even her persmission. Is it what it is.
You might be true for above paragraph.
Daikhain west main agar ijazat day di jaay to burainyaan kafi hud tuk khatum ho jain.
Aapnay muzhab main bhi to ijazat di gai hai laikin kitnay loag faida uthatay hain kum hi. Halan kay ziada logon ko faida uthana chahyay. lol ub sub mujh pay barsain gay now I'm going to give logic.
Daikhain sub jaantay hain bohat say mard mistress rakhtay hain yani gunah kartay hain us kay bajaay agar wo shadi kar lain to kia koi achchi naik shareef, imaandaar aur shohar say mohabbat karnay wali biwi naheen chahay gi kay ussay gunah say bachchay, DOZAKHI honay say bachaay. To bajaay gunah karnay kay kioon na shadi ki ijazat day di jaay.
Haan yay aik muskil amar hai aur bohat hi mushkil aurton kay liaay jub mard na insaafi karay. I have seen a gr8 lady how she goen through with my own eyes. I can tell you each and even pain she gone through but tha is not due to her husbands shadi but due to his na insaafi.
Now give me logic about this if anyone of you can give.
Allah ka main maqsad kia hai hamain gunah say bachchana. Isi liaay aurton aur mardon ko her tarha kay options diaay hain takay wo gunah say bachaain.
That's what we have to do all our life kay GUNAH SAY BACHAIN.
Ub agar aik husband satisfied naheen hai apni wife say kisi bhi wajah say laikin main wajah sex hoti hai. Agar naheen hai to kia wo mistress rakhay aur gunah karta rahay to kia biwi khush ho gi. To wo kia karay apnay tasalli kay liaay.
No one will deny that tamaam zarooroton ki tarha sex bhi aik aham tareen zaroorat hai insaan ki. Mera khial hai bohat si cheezon kay baghair ya kami kay saath insaan sari zindagi guzaar sakta hai laikin sex ki kami kay saath naheen guzaar sakta sari zindagi.
Ub batain kia aik biwi jo apnay shohar say mohabbat karti hai, uski dost hai aur uski khair khuwah agar yay sub bhi chor dain to aik musalman honay kay natay hum sub musalman ka kia farz hai apnay musalman bhi bahnon ko gunah say bachaain.
To kia aap aik musalman ko gunah say bachaanay kay liaay shadi karnay say rokain gi. Main to naheen samajhti kay aik zeshaoor lady ko aisa karna chahyay agar us main zara bhi Allah ka khauf hai to.
Meri samajh main naheen ata kay jub Allah nain ijazat di hai to itna sawal karnay aur bahas ki zaroorat hi naheen biwi pasand karay na karay shohar kar sakta hai doosri shadi.
Aurtain bohat chotay dil ki hoteen hain is wajah say wo husband share naheen kar sakteen. Dil bara rakhna chahyay. As we kids share parents and other relative then why can't we share husband.