A muslim woman can divorce her husband in one of three ways - if she did not request the right of divorce in her nikkah nama, she may go to a qadi with a valid reason (abuse, he can't bear children, he fails to fulfill his obligations to her, he is a murtad, etc.) and apply for a divorce. If she chooses not to take this route, she may apply for a khula, in which case she needs to return the mahr.
If, like me, she has the right of divorce written into her contract, she may simply inform him that she is divorcing him and begin the process.
Valid reasons have to be valid and husband getting married again is not one of them.
What's written on Nikah nama can never supersede what's written in Quran and Ahadees (Sahi Bukhari etc.)
oooo, I don't want this topic to turn into a religious thing but TLK, plz watch out what you say, our prophet (PBUH) had 9 (some say 11 or 13) wives at a time and he was the most selfless (opposite of selfish) that Allah ever created.
As a forum director you should not say anything even indirectly that can offend anyone regardless of your religious believes
And I am not a girl, I am a man, at-least I was, last time I checked....
Regards
I realized that when I used the word Selfish for a husband who is going for second wedding, some one will bring the example of Prophet.
But, read my words again please. I am not saying that guy who is marrying again is selfish, I am saying that if your wife keeps you happy and you are not worried about her happiness, then that is selfishness.
Wrong - it is perfectly legitimate for a woman to request the right of divorce in her contract. It is standard practice in most Arab countries, including Saudi Arabia. It is also included in the Pakistani nikkah nama, although it is frequently crossed out.
I realized that when I used the word Selfish for a husband who is going for second wedding, some one will bring the example of Prophet.
But, read my words again please. I am not saying that guy who is marrying again is selfish, I am saying that if your wife keeps you happy and you are not worried about her happiness, then that is selfishness.
I like this forum that's why I don't wanna argue with you but if you were a regular member, I would have proved you wrong in 4 lines.
So, yes Sir, you are rite. and yes you can change the title to your liking Sir...
Re: If husband keeps you happy, would you let him marry again.
He may not need my permission but that doesnt mean Ill accept it. I dont think Ill stick around unless the reason is valid and one that I cannot ignore.
I am not thinking about myself. That comment pertained to your answer.
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Thank you for that compliment. I just hope no sane person follows your advice.
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if ur husband is happy wid u,and u r happy wid him = no clash
husband keeps u happy but he is not happy by u =????
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Wat?
ok let me elaborate. If your husband keeps you happy, but he isnt happy with you (which is why he wants a 2nd wife), that just means hes not happy with YOU as a wife. So if you are really that concerned about his happiness, the only logical course of action for you is to leave him.
I belong to a Sunni sect, and only contract or fatwa or whatever that I agree with is Quran then Ahadees. Plus there is no place for any fatwa if the order is clearly given in Quran and Ahadees. And this topic is covered in both in details, so the fatwa you found on the internet is wrong. (on internet, you don’t really know who is behind the website so your argument is quite week).
I know you will never agree because this is also one of the ‘QAYAMAT KI NISHANI’ that there will be many ALIMS but no ILM.
Aaj ki aurat nay apna hi aik alag mazhab bana liya hai jisko who apnay khiyal mein Islam samajhti hai.
Look at this njgal, she is bringing Mormonism into this… duh… we are talking about Nikha which is strictly Islamic term…what does this Mormonism has anything to do with it ?
I like this forum that's why I don't wanna argue with you but if you were a regular member, I would have proved you wrong in 4 lines.
You must be thinking that I am one of those who in the name of "modernization" go and ready to criticize sunnat. You will be pleasantly surprise to see my POV if you follow my posts around. But at the same time, just remember, those who use Sunnat to fulfil their agendas are no better than those who disregard sunnat altogether,
I know people who remembered only this sunnat of prohphet and nothing else. You ask them the sunnat of sleeping, sunnat of going to the bathroom, sunnat of taking care of family .. they wont know .. but yes sunnat of marrying more than one woman, not only do they know but love to practice cause its "SUNNAT".
and you can prove me wrong if you want to. I am not an angel who cannot make mistakes. Go ahead,
I belong to a Sunni sect, and only contract or fatwa or whatever that I agree with is Quran then Ahadees. Plus there is no place for any fatwa if the order is clearly given in Quran and Ahadees. And this topic is covered in both in details, so the fatwa you found on the internet is wrong. (on internet, you don't really know who is behind the website so your argument is quite week).
I know you will never agree because this is also one of the 'QAYAMAT KI NISHANI' that there will be many ALIMS but no ILM.
Regards
I was quoting this particular fatwa because it comes from a reputable Syrian scholar. The right of divorce is part of classical fiqh. I am not going to debate this with you, but please feel free to conduct further research from reputable scholars.
You must be thinking that I am one of those who in the name of "modernization" go and ready to criticize sunnat. You will be pleasantly surprise to see my POV if you follow my posts around. But at the same time, just remember, those who use Sunnat to fulfil their agendas are no better than those who disregard sunnat altogether,
I know people who remembered only this sunnat of prohphet and nothing else. You ask them the sunnat of sleeping, sunnat of going to the bathroom, sunnat of taking care of family .. they wont know .. but yes sunnat of marrying more than one woman, not only do they know but love to practice cause its "SUNNAT".
and you can prove me wrong if you want to. I am not an angel who cannot make mistakes. Go ahead,
Ok let me prove you wrong. You are totally off the page my friend. Sunnah is something that you most probably will follow, like Sunnat-e-Muaqqda and taking care of your naan-nufka and many more. Marrying more than once is not one of them. You don't get gunnah if you only marry once.
Plus this is not a Sunna, this is an order from Quran where Allah Taalah sets the upper limit of wives which is four. Remember our prophet(PBUH) had more than 4 so it can't be Sunnah.
You are arguing aimlessly without knowledge just to win a silly conversation.
plus you will dis-agree with me no matter what I say. So I rest my case....pc
But you must agree this topic got people jumping ....LOL
Regards
Re: If husband keeps you happy, would you let him marry again.
Quran and ahadees dont consider Aurat a salve.. I belong to sunni/hanafi faith and know for sure that woman can ask to put a condition of woman's right to divorce in the nikah form. There is not arguement aboutt hat in Deen
I know you will never agree because this is also one of the 'QAYAMAT KI NISHANI' that there will be many ALIMS but no ILM.
Aaj ki aurat nay apna hi aik alag mazhab bana liya hai jisko who apnay khiyal mein Islam samajhti hai.
Look at this njgal, she is bringing Mormonism into this.... duh... we are talking about Nikha which is strictly Islamic term....what does this Mormonism has anything to do with it ?
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You know for once I agree with you American Paki
You are right, there are very many ALIMs but no ILM
but I think we have found one in you :) on behalf of GS I would like to say we are all very grateful for you departing with such pearls of wisdom and advice
lets start a fansite AMERICAN PAKI FOR PRESIDENT
sorry PakiAmerican for president :)
