Re: I wrongfully accused my husband of abuse—please please help!!!
You cannot be serious! You wanted a break…he wanted separation. That’s the SAME thing! 
You took all your stuff and wanted to stay at your parents temporarily and take a break…that means YOU are the one that initiated the separation. All your husband did was agree with YOUR decision.
Re: I wrongfully accused my husband of abuse—please please help!!!
If you wish to be back with your husband, you need to talk to your father. Tell him, in the end, it is you and your husband who have to live together and who want to live together. So childish fights like your & his parents bad mouthing eachother should not be stretched out so much like this. If his parents dont treat you well, you should be patient as some parents become like that in old age. Keep on treating them nicely and eventually they’ll stop mistreating you. Have someone wiser in the family talk to your father.
It appears to me there are alot of shayateens around / in your husband’s and your parents’ house otherwise I dont see why this silly matter has complicated so much when both you and your husband wish to live together. Play alot of recitation of the quran in both the houses to kick out the shayateens.
Re: I wrongfully accused my husband of abuse---please please help!!!
Redvelvet. I didnt leave him for ever. I just wanted a break. My mom suggested to me that i should come home for few days. Why did my husband said he wanted separation. I was very very hurt. Please help me anyone.
No one can help you if you blindly listen to your parents and your remote control are in their hands.you mom said leave house you left.dad said blame your husband for thw abuse he has never done and you Did. A person whom u were Nikahfied with the name of ALLAH and you left him without any reason only because your parents said so how will you listen to people on some online forum??
I don't understand why you came here and asked help.
is that how you will spend your whole life?listen to what parents say and what people on a online forum say??you dont have your own mind???
Re: I wrongfully accused my husband of abuse—please please help!!!
And people wonder why guys marry girls from back home. 
I feel so bad. I had to lie front of masjid people that i do not want to live with him. My dad threatened to disown me. He is still my husband. Please come and take me back. Please!. I remember he was crying like baby and pleading me not to divorce him. I kept telling him to come and divorce me because of my father.
I know he is here in gs. Please help me identify him. Anyone!
You cannot be serious! You wanted a break…he wanted separation. That’s the SAME thing! You took all your stuff and wanted to stay at your parents temporarily and take a break…that means YOU are the one that initiated the separation. All your husband did was agree with YOUR decision.
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Why did he say he wanted he wanted separation then.
Re: I wrongfully accused my husband of abuse—please please help!!!
this has nothing to do with it. I believe she is one of a kind
Re: I wrongfully accused my husband of abuse—please please help!!!
You think this is common in UK girls?
I thought we had the reputation for **not **listening to parents etc. etc.
Re: I wrongfully accused my husband of abuse---please please help!!!
You are not a victim. Stop acting like one. I am incredibly disgusted by reading your account of events.
You instigated trouble, broke up your home and your marriage, and are now crying about the consequences. Fix the mess you created or stop complaining. Your relationships and the people around you are just a source of entertainment for your boring and meaningless existence. It's pathetic and disgusting how you are using people and playing victim.
People like this are a plague on humanity.
Re: I wrongfully accused my husband of abuse---please please help!!!
I feel so bad. I had to lie front of masjid people that i do not want to live with him. My dad threatened to disown me. He is still my husband. Please come and take me back. Please!.** I remember he was crying like baby and pleading me not to divorce him.** I kept telling him to come and divorce me because of my father.
I know he is here in gs. Please help me identify him. Anyone!
Lovely, first you humiliate him on here, and then you ask him to be identified.
I'm sure you have a way to contact him off the forum, please do that and not continue this public spectacle.
Re: I wrongfully accused my husband of abuse---please please help!!!
I've sent you a PM.
Text me or reply in PM please.
Re: I wrongfully accused my husband of abuse---please please help!!!
I am the only child yes.
My father is punishing my husband because my father has huge ego problem.
First thing first you are not a child anymore you are a married woman.
You also have ego problem. You do not want to call or text your husband to tell him that you do not want this divorce because of your ego. You do not want to admit to your husband that you were wrong and that he is a nice guy.
Once you shatter your own ego it will become very easy for you to fix everything about your life.
You will have your day in court where you can say that you do not want a divorce. Make sure that your husband does not want a divorce either before you say the same thing in front of a judge.
Re: I wrongfully accused my husband of abuse---please please help!!!
What is stopping you from texting your husband?
His number has not changed but yours' has.
He can't reach you.
YOU need to text him and tell him what you want.
Do it before he closes this chapter and moves on.
Re: I wrongfully accused my husband of abuse---please please help!!!
Where is Sherlock Holmes when u need him. How will we identify the husband.
Re: I wrongfully accused my husband of abuse---please please help!!!
I can't go out of the house. I do not work. I am so confused and scared. He had offered me to go for coffee long time ago just after we separated. But i refused because my father told me not to be in contact with him.
Oh for gods sakes man. Are you married to your father? No right! So grow up and deal with your marriage yourself. Parents are supposed to be involved if you have real I ssues and whatnot. But here it seems as though you have been VERY selfish and stupid for choosing to listen to ill advice from parents when your husband is perfectly nice!
Plus your 30 years old! Mature enough to make your own decisions I would hope. GO AND SPEAK WITH YOUR HUSBAND. TAKE THE FIRST STEP AND PHONE HIM!
STOP BEING A COMPLETE AND UTTER CHICKEN!
(Sorry if slightly harsh! But seems like a good decent marriage could be saved if you just make the first move and fix the mistake that you made!)
Re: I wrongfully accused my husband of abuse---please please help!!!
agree with sadia18
Re: I wrongfully accused my husband of abuse---please please help!!!
Because my mom asked me to come to house for few weeks to clear my mind. ... My father is very protective and told me it is better to be single than being marry to such a man.....
What does your mum says now? Is she agreeing with your dads behavior?
There's more to your story and the guy seems more innocent then what you are portraying yourself
Re: I wrongfully accused my husband of abuse---please please help!!!
to wrongfully accuse someone of such atrocities is really just shameful.
And to be american and so dependent on parents at your age is weird. get a job, learn how to take care of yourself and give yourself the ability to make your own decisions. And please please drop the wrongful accusations.
Re: I wrongfully accused my husband of abuse---please please help!!!
Redvelvet. I didnt leave him for ever. I just wanted a break. My mom suggested to me that i should come home for few days. Why did my husband said he wanted separation. I was very very hurt. Please help me anyone.
You took a break from your husband because he was having financial issues...wow.
Newsflash: HIS issues are YOUR issues. Whatever happens to him in his life is also your issue and problem. Marriage is not about staying together when he's got money in his pocket...its about staying together no matter what.
Accusing him of abuse was the only way to ask for divorce because he told my dad that me and him should go to a scholar. My husband didnt want to talk to my husband. My husband told my father that we both need marriage counselling.
SO when your husband makes a logical suggestion, your dad asks you to divorce your husband and you do what?
OP -
You're 30 years old and have been married twice in 2 years. This alone seems like a really immature thing to do...but let's forget that for a minute.
First off, YOU NEVER LEAVE YOUR HOME. Its YOUR husband, YOUR finances, YOUR home and YOUR marriage. It seems as if you haven't really accepted him as a partner otherwise you would never have walked away.
Second, WHERE IS YOUR HEAD AT WOMAN? Who on earth lies about her husband's behavior like this? Who lies through their teeth about their spouse and humiliates them? I wouldn't be surprised if he never wanted to see your face again.
Third, YOUR DAD. Where does he get off telling you to divorce your husband? Its NONE of his business unless you made it his business which you did. Your conscious seems to only work when it comes to your father. What about the man who's reputation you're dragging through the mud?
Fourth, stop playing victim and helpless. Ilzaam rakhtay huway dar nahin lagta...lekin now you're helpless?
Grow a backbone, grow UP and fix your marital issues on your OWN. Your husband isn't your daddy's property and its best you stop treating him like it.
Hadd hoti hai.
Re: I wrongfully accused my husband of abuse---please please help!!!
You took a break from your husband because he was having financial issues...wow.
Newsflash: HIS issues are YOUR issues. Whatever happens to him in his life is also your issue and problem. Marriage is not about staying together when he's got money in his pocket...its about staying together no matter what.
SO when your husband makes a logical suggestion, your dad asks you to divorce your husband and you do what?
OP -
You're 30 years old and have been married twice in 2 years. This alone seems like a really immature thing to do...but let's forget that for a minute.
First off, YOU NEVER LEAVE YOUR HOME. Its YOUR husband, YOUR finances, YOUR home and YOUR marriage. It seems as if you haven't really accepted him as a partner otherwise you would never have walked away.
Second, WHERE IS YOUR HEAD AT WOMAN? Who on earth lies about her husband's behavior like this? Who lies through their teeth about their spouse and humiliates them? I wouldn't be surprised if he never wanted to see your face again.
Third, YOUR DAD. Where does he get off telling you to divorce your husband? Its NONE of his business unless you made it his business which you did. Your conscious seems to only work when it comes to your father. What about the man who's reputation you're dragging through the mud?
Fourth, stop playing victim and helpless. Ilzaam rakhtay huway dar nahin lagta...lekin now you're helpless?
Grow a backbone, grow UP and fix your marital issues on your OWN. Your husband isn't your daddy's property and its best you stop treating him like it.
Hadd hoti hai.
Lol! Thanda pani reha :p