I wrongfully accused my husband of abuse---please please help!!!

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I don't understand why you left your husband's house in the first place ? what went soo wrong to make you do that ? why are your parents asking you to leave him.

There is alot missing in this story !

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So same happened to husband no 1?

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And I thought it was hard to get remarried!! U were lucky to get another chance and what do u go n do?

I don't understand where ur father is coming from, most parents tell u to have berdasht n try n make marriage work, especially girls parents. I feel something is missing from ur story. Why did u pack your things n leave?

I'm thinking u don't deserve this guy. But really get up n meet him n try n sort things out, ur parents r not always going o b around to look out for you. You need a companion in life. Ur a grown woman and u say u can't meet him. Do u not leave the house. Have u no friends that can help u out?

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This.

She left her husband, but is now saying that he is a sweet guy and that she misses him. If you think he's a good husband overall, why did you pack your bags and leave him. There are details we don't know of it seems.

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This is the reason I shan’t marry a female. You chicks man… seriously?.. #Sufilifestyle](http://www.paklinks.com/gs/usertag.php?do=list&action=hash&hash=Sufilifestyle)

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There are several things I dont understand:

  1. Did you marry your current husband on your own or did your parents take part in your marriage & gave their permission?

  2. What did so terrible happen to make you leave your husband's house to move to your parents'?

  3. Why does your father dislike your husband so much that he wants you to leave him? What's so awful about your husband which your father dislikes to make you accuse of things he has not done only to get you divorced?

  4. Are you the only child of your parents or do you have any siblings?

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Don’t know what you read bro, or maybe you know more to the story, but it’s the other way around.

All she mentioned was that he was having some financial difficulty and then she left. That’s nuts son. Absolute bat poop crazy yeah.

Either there is a lot more to this story, or it all sounds a bit too unrealistic, especially given the part about getting out of an abusive marriage and marrying someone else within a year. Yeah right. :rolleyes:

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What Slims said. From what I read the, and pardon me if you come across as a bit spineless, OP doesn’t deserve the guy. Some financial difficulty and she runs out of the house and takes all her stuff with her.

OP, either there is more to the story that you are not sharing but then again considering how you say you love him again and again I wonder if there is nothing more to the story, in which case please grow up and tell your father to not ruin your house and someone’s life (your husband in this case).

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Our was arranged marriage. Our parents bad mouthed each other after our separation. My father doesn’t dislike my husband but he dislike his parents. I dislike his parents too because inlaws were not nice to me. So my father suggested to get rid of my husband. I am the only child yes.

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What Slims said. From what I read the, and pardon me if you come across as a bit spineless, OP doesn’t deserve the guy. Some financial difficulty and she runs out of the house and takes all her stuff with her.

OP, either there is more to the story that you are not sharing but then again considering how you say you love him again and again I wonder if there is nothing more to the story, in which case please grow up and tell your father to not ruin your house and someone’s life (your husband in this case).
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My father is punishing my husband because my father has huge ego problem.

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So your father dislikes two people you're not married to. You dislike two people you're not married to.

So the logical solution is to divorce the person who you ARE married to.

:/ I am sorry but with problem solving skills like that no wonder its a mess.

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It doesn’t matter if you don’t work. Work has nothing to do with this. If you drive, then you can always tell your parents that you need to make a run to the grocery store or the mall or the doctor…and then meet your husband. Or can you not do that either?

Or when your dad is at work, maybe your husband can visit you at your parents’ home…if your mom is more “reasonable” than your dad and will be more open to you meeting with your husband. Or is this not possible either?

Despite his “sweetness” and your rediscovered “love” for him, it seems like you both have anger management issues. It’s disturbing men or women make threats to separate or end a relationship. It makes you wonder whether they will make the same threat again in the future. And you cannot pack your bags and leave your spouse each time you have an argument with him. You can still take a “break” from him without leaving the ho,e. And if you must leave for a while, it can be done without taking all your belongings which reads like you’re ending the relationship and can make your spouse react defensively. If you both manage to meet in person and decide to give your marriage another shot, you both will have to work on how to manage conflicts.

Also, the sad thing is that your dad is acting more impulsively then both you and your husband did. He is making the same mistake he accuses your husband of…only your dad is playing dirty. Just because he’s your dad doesn’t make him automatically right. As a Muslim you have the responsibility to do what is fair and just. You are allowed to disobey your parents if they are doing something against Islam. If you cannot stand up to do what is right, then you share the blame with your dad. So, you decide whom you should fear more…your fallible ddad or Allah? If you cannot salvage your marriage, at least don’t tarnish his reputation.
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Redvelvet. I didnt leave him for ever. I just wanted a break. My mom suggested to me that i should come home for few days. Why did my husband said he wanted separation. I was very very hurt. Please help me anyone.

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So your father dislikes two people you’re not married to. You dislike two people you’re not married to.

So the logical solution is to divorce the person who you ARE married to.
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:confused: I am sorry but with problem solving skills like that no wonder its a mess.
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Accusing him of abuse was the only way to ask for divorce because he told my dad that me and him should go to a scholar. My husband didnt want to talk to my husband. My husband told my father that we both need marriage counselling.

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Men can say many things but they cool down. As women are there to support the man, you should have stayed calm and not told your parents every single thing to the point you got them angry or annoyed of your husband. You may have cooled off but parents will remember what upset you. If i were you I would contact the guy, speak to him and if you trust him fully and want to make it work apologies, don't ask him why did you ask to separate - no, show him you are completely sorry and you are wrong and that it was wrong to go running to your parents. When your married you listen to your husband before your parents if he's not doing good. We have all told you to fix it with your husband, the rest is up to you.

One more thing, by Allah money comes and goes in life - always support your husband through good and bad, through the bad he will get stressed he needs support not runnijg to parents and getting a kaula especially by the bad allegations you put on him, make dua he takes you back

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I am commenting on the logic.

You say your dad dislikes his parents and above you say your dad or you don’t dislike him. You also say you dislike his parents. Neither of whom are married to you.

SO why then divorce the poor person who isn’t disliked and you’re married to? :smack:

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She left the dude because he didn’t have enough monies. Damn man, that’s tough, the poor dude was probably like “Let me make some dollars here” and she goes “Nope” LOL ok i’m just kidding but OP you shouldn’t blame poor blokes man we’re trying to make a living here too. Allah kay liye bacha.

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You seem to be alluding to fact that your husband is on GS also, wouldn't it be better to PM him rather then air your dirty laundry out here in public?

Also, I don't know what help you are hoping to find from a bunch of strangers on an Internet forum. Pick up the phone, call your husband and tell him you made a terrible mistake and pray to Allah he can overlook your blatant bathameezi and complete disregard for the sanctity of marriage.

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Just let that man live happily ever after.

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Life isn't that great back home with Mum and dad, so now you miss your husband.

So sad.

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The fact that your parents know everything about your husband , how he made their only child miserable, your parents will not forget, especially your Dad. Your parents don't seem to care how many times you marry or divorce.

Grow up, because if you finish with this marriage, will you marry for a third time , three marriages in three years?