I wrongfully accused my husband of abuse---please please help!!!

[Shak]

Re: I wrongfully accused my husband of abuse—please please help!!!

@Reha

Maybe its me BUT there’s a huge difference between feeling guilty and being so ashamed that you do anything in your power to fix what you’ve done. Or at least try to.

In this situation, I feel that the OP knows she will be bashed for doing what she did and is looking for that sympathetic ear that will indulge and tell her “there there…its okay now”.

It doesn’t work that way. Real human lives are not to be played and toyed with the way the OP thinks they can be. Using a second marriage as an excuse to not rectify or apologize for the pain she caused speaks volumes about how the poster views the sanctity of marriage to begin with. Its not a big deal to her…kisi ki beizzati karna, kisi ko dukh dena, takleef ponhchana, zindagi bhar ka pachtawa dena, be-bunyaad ilzamaat lagana, kisi ka dil is tarha se torna, etc. In her mind…“to kya huwa? vo doosri shaadi kar lega aur sab theek hojayega”.

And yeah, most of us are acting as if we were accused. That’s how a lot of us end up responding to threads…we try to put ourselves in another’s shoes and see what we’d do from that perspective. Right now, I believe anyone reading this thread would be pretty offended, upset and hurt for the husband. Not only is he dealing with her but he also spared her the humiliation of confronting her publicly on this forum when he easily could have and he’d be justified in doing so.

I really hope and pray her husband does not have to suffer anymore than he already has.

She has already said ‘he can marry someone else as he is young’. She has mistaken marriage for a BF GF fling.