It's important for you to understand why things got to this stage in the first place...
It sounds like you need to reassess your relationship with your wife. Are you getting bored of marriage...and feel that you need the attention of other girls again?
My personal opinion is that you found the whole flirting thing thrilling until it got out of hand and you got caught. Now you are repentant - but what would have happened if things had continued the way they were...?
You say you told the girl how you felt and this was to try and stop the situation progressing. I think you wanted to have your ego stroked and for her to tell you that she felt the same, but that nothing would come of it. You were playing a very dangerous game and you got burnt.
She prob thought you were being a genuine friend and you were harmless until you let on about your feelings. That's why she prob freaked out and decided to tell her fiance in case he heard about it from someone else and jumped to coclusions. She prob decided to tell your wife cos she thought you were a jerk and your poor wife should know.
You made your metaphorical bed dude - now you gotta lie in it. I agree with NBN...be honest with yourself about why this happened the way it it did...that's your hope now.
yea true i found da flirting thing a thrill but i know i wud never take it any further but no1 believes me on that(includin my wife)…
True i wanted my ego “stroked” but even if she said yea she likes me i wud hav not taken it further…I guess ur rite on da bit abt her telling her fiance but she was prank call me b4 i told her “im startin 2 like u a bit 2 much”…and even after my wife found out cuz she sent text 6am in morning she asked me out 4 dinner…so wat was she playin at, tryin to set me up or something?
Looks like i played the wrong game…what can i do to change that?
wat u mean metaphorical bed?true to myself?what ques shud i ask myself?
n no i aint bored of my wife if thats wat u meant…
why would u still want to be friends when u are MARRIED? Esp to a girl whose character u like...don't u think u would start to like her again? Find another job and control ur love for JUST ur wife.....she needs u more then any other girl out there.
don't do it for a few hours....do it continuously....do something different.....it will always be in the back of her mind until u regain her trust....which is not any time soon....this is a hard thing for a girl to forget.....so keep trying.......try hard!
luk i aint being melodramtic,iv 4got about da whole thing but my wife keeps buggin me askin millions of ques evry single day…thats why im on here lookin 4 solution…i cant exactly ask my matez 4 advice can i.
ahhh **** things hav got complicated agian she is bak at work, iv been told not to eveb say hello 2 her etc...n ppl at wrk wil figure sumthing is wrng if i carry on blankin her...
Let me tell u something.. I was in a similar situation not too long ago.. only I was busted by my wife... Anywayz what I learned from this incident was the fact that all this BS is not worth it. There is no girl in the world who is worth loosing sleep over. My life was a hell when I was talkign to this other girl. The only reason why I got my self into this was simply curiosity and the thrill.. which really sucks.. Its really truely said "Curiosity killed the cat" well it almost got me killed too.. My wife did make a big deal about it in the begining but later on she realized that I was really sorry and stupid to do something like that and now sometimes she even jokes about it... so just give her sometime she will get over it... Also try not to end up in a similar situation... If u guys were just friends it would have been cool but what crap this girl is trying to pull between u and ur wife is not something that one would expect from a friend.. hence she is not really ur friend is she? So do what u think is right tell ur wife that u r sorry (it was ur fault after all dont tell me u werent attracted and it was just friendship)... and really mean it... and forget about the other girl... it might be hard with her working with u .. but ohh well..*Rule #1 NEVER DATE UR CO-WORKERS :) *
thanks 4 da advice i think i feel da same as u did, i hav said sorry n said its my fault n stuff but i guess it wil take time right? trust me bro i didnt find her attractive
The only solution is to tell ur wife to get over it...othetwise if she carries on like this u probably really will end up cheatin on her.
Ur a man...of course ur gonna come into contact with persons of the opposuite sex and may even find them attractive. U don't need to act on it, its just natural to find people beautiful.