I’ve cheated on my wife (not physical/sexual) just became frends wit a gyal at work. even tho wife has 4given me 4 becomin frends,she stil suffers da pain and is hurt and cry’s. It looks like i screwed things up in my marraige, is ther anyway bak?
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no man u r screwed! go enjoy the other woman
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o hello bhai saab.........
First of all u need to understand the actual definition of cheating....
I think wat u did wasnt cheating at all....as long as both of u r just friends.....
If u think u did some thing with dat female friend of yours ....and u feel guilty...
then u should make up ur mind and follow ur brain not heart to decide wats good for u .
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like i said i did not do anything as in sexual/phyisical........and my wife believes me on that but she says how cud i ever liked another gyal...
i knw i hav done wrong but on scale how bad is it?i mean we only ever talked, i mite hav liked her (personality wise) n may hav flirted to kill time at work but it wud hav never gone any further
is it crime to like9personality wise) another gyal wen u married but u did not do anything?
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nah man i rather not
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i knw i hav done wrong but on scale how bad is it?i mean we only ever talked, i mite hav liked her (personality wise) n may hav flirted to kill time at work but it wud hav never gone any further
y cant my wife understand that?
you need help.
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ahaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaN what if she has done all the same with her fellow co-corker … will you be able to understand that? I bet you would ask her to leave home n not talk to u instead of forgiving 
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i knw i hav done wrong but on scale how bad is it?i mean we only ever talked, i mite hav liked her, personality wise n may hav flirted but it wud hav never gone any further
So then wat u scared off, u know ur heart is clean.
I believe having a female freinds is not a sin as long as its just simple friendship.......
If ur wife is having doubts then obviously u must b doing something to make it look like tha
prove ur wife ur just freinds and hopefully she'll understand and things will get better.
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from a girls perspective man you are in deep sh*t so you better make things right with your wife
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Ok i didnt mean it that way
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I know and how do i do that?..1 min she is ok but then sumthing triggers her memory n she gets upset
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yea i wud hav probally so im glad she has given me another chance
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nah we aint frends anymore cuz da gyal tried to brek my mariage up by tellin ma wife that i liked her n she even told her bf aswel…(as if she never flirted wit me)…anyway i tried to stop being frends 1st but it was kind of hard not to… but now its blown up in2 da skiez!!
wat im i supose 2 do?is ther anything i can do to win bak my wife?
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make her read this topic .. then see the magic
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not necessarily dr evil or should i say dr love. clubber you should do everything in your might to get her back. tell her that you will leave the job if she wants not neccesary that you do it its just to make her feel good. take her out to romantic dinners and tell her its just me and you and try to revive that spark that was there before all this "other woman" matter
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thats not cheating ..cheating is much more interesting than that
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oh really you talk like you have experianced it
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On first place you should have not told your wife and would have just kept yourself away from your Female FRIEND.
Now since you have told your wife, that means you lost her trust. Next time if she see you talking to any lady she will think that you are repeating the same.
The best thing is to regain her trust and this will not happen in days but you have to work hard not to do any thing which make her think that you will be cheating her.
BTW now she will remind you from time to time that she do not trust you for the matter of other womens.
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There is a way back
The realisation that something has messed up and you may need to make ammend is a great start.
Trust is easy to lose, and it'll take time to get that back. It's a process. A time process. You have to stick with her anger at you and lumber it, but if you're worth staying with...eventually she'll come round and learn to trust you again.
I don't understand why you being friends with a girl would be an issue anyway. Unless there is something you're not telling us...........................
I think with the whole personality liking issue - it can lead to more, and thats the problem
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ok bookworm....tussi meray tu pelaaaaa kis tarah post kar leya :D
see....me n bookworm saying the same thing..great minds think alike
:p