i feel like a hyprocite cuz i kwn u shudnt be frends wit opposite sex but i dnt knw wat happened dis time…like i said i havent touched her and never had that intention…
wat r da limits?wife is p off cuz iv rang da gal a quite a few timez n sent txts, i guess i went over da limits by ringin her on her day off n stuff?
i cud see feelings creepin in datz y i made it clear to her that evn tho i may start 2 like her i only want to be frends,was i wrong in saying that? is it wrong 2 hav feelin abt sum1 else even if u intend to not take anything further?
dnt worry i aint chattin to her anymore cuz she 2 scared to come in work…y da i eve become frends wit a physco gal???
Thanks for clarifying your position...the information that you have revealed does change things...
So you liked the girl and told her you liked her...thats probably worse than actually cheating cos atleast if you cheat it can just be a physical thing...you actually claim to have fallen for a girl which to your wife is probably a lot worse...And what makes it worse is you told the girl...
You state that you had no interest in taking things further...what i dont udnerstand then is why you wanted to stay friends...surely you realised it was inappropriate to have feelings for someone and to maintain a friendship...seems to me that you just hoped she would reciprocate but now that she didnt you are sorry...
Cos cmon unless you wanted to follow things up why would you tell her you like her?...
There are a lot of holes in your story...before you come up with an explanation for your wife be honest with yourself first...
loopholes? ehh ok otha stuff i borrowed her a bit of money wich iv got bak…i cant think of any mor…
anyway reason i told her was i wanted to knw her reaction but im tellin da truth i wud hav not taken things further even if she wanted to. Come on she is engaged to a apna n place wer i live is a small city n it wud hav jus ended up wit fites n stuff.
other reasons were that i thought if i told her i liked her then she wud knw that she wud hav to stop flirtin wit me n vice verse. i dnt knw i gues by tellin her we both knwe wer we stood n dat we shudnt take further cuz both of us 2 much 2 lose.
antha reason gues i jus wanted to knw if antha gal showed intrest in me, gues da ego got da better of me…
y is tellin her “im startin 2 like u 2 much” worse than physical cheatin?..can u not hav feelings as long as u dnt take any further?
u just have to build ur trust but to be honest with u time is best healer im also a marriied woman id need to be convinced that my hubby will be trustworthy...seriously tho if ur feeling guilty then im sure u were not just friends otherwise u wudnt hav been so worried...
Try to build the turst again....... find a way tell her i m gonna leave that job if she wouldn't change her behaviour..... May be that will satisfy her .... Wish you good luck. Hope that helps
Clubber i asked that you should discussed with your parents abt this problem If you can, I think they might get a better soultion... In this way you might get this fixed...